Ever since I was rejected I can't move on...!?

[Deliquesce]

People around me are so active that I'm beginning to hate 'em. Just in case, you must know that I'm not social enough... U see, since I changed my pace changed too... And moreover I nomore want to live upto anyone's expectation...!

Find another one.

 

[Punk Hazard]

Arigato ney, for your concern. But I can't move on with my personality like this...!! It's become quite dark.

Ignore ****boy McChildish up there. Find some things that you like, emphasize some positives. Find a good book series, listen to new music, watch new TV shows. Anything that occupies your mind and time. Exercise more, hang out with your friends more. It's not the end of the world.

 

[FoxesInWonderland]

Is it that difficult to realize that someone loves u...!! It's juxt that I didn't say her the words. :'(

Yes for some people it is believe it or not. You never know maybe she just got a friendly vibe from you. Usually in these situations the other person has no idea how thee other feels that's why it's always better to speak up before it's too late. If you really like her just let her know how you feel and then if she rejects you you'll know for sure. But you can't just dwell on these things bro it's unhealthy for the mind lol

 

[PakTigers]

You're gonna get over it but you're never gonna forget it. Depends on how close you were/are and if the two of you had something to start with. Written words on a forum by strangers might not be much of a help but try turn your sadness into positive fuel. Time, avoiding contact and other girls will help.

Any other way except girls?? It's like I hate everyone around me. Whether its boys or the girls either way...

 

[Cooh]

People around me are so active that I'm beginning to hate 'em. Just in case, you must know that I'm not social enough... U see, since I changed my pace changed too... And moreover I nomore want to live upto anyone's expectation...!

You didn't change you just started slacking because you think you got hit by unrepairable emotional damage (that's at least as it seems). You should srsly start to get a positive mindset because with all that negativity you'll never attract another woman. Ever heard about the law of attraction?

 

[Punk Hazard]

Any other way except girls?? It's like I hate everyone around me. Whether its boys or the girls either way...

Are you into sports? Channeling your frustration into being physically active is a good outlet.

 

[PakTigers]

Yes for some people it is believe it or not. You never know maybe she just got a friendly vibe from you. Usually in these situations the other person has no idea how thee other feels that's why it's always better to speak up before it's too late. If you really like her just let her know how you feel and then if she rejects you you'll know for sure. But you can't just dwell on these things bro it's unhealthy for the mind lol

Ettoo... U see, I was in real good terms with her. I'm not talking about being only friendly. Our relationship was really good, and we were close enough to be called a couple... But then the day I called her to confess, told her the location. That was the day she left the city... I was then later told that she is engaged to someone... :'( I tried talking to her to know what happened... But she never replied to anything I asked... That was it...!!

 

[Yubel]

Have you thought that there might be someone who likes you that you're not noticing just like the chick isn't noticing you?

 

[PakTigers]

Are you into sports? Channeling your frustration into being physically active is a good outlet.

Warui na... I'm really bad at sports!! And have kind of destroyed my health in the previous year... So I have kind of become anemic (to health)...!!

 

[PakTigers]

Have you thought that there might be someone who likes you that you're not noticing just like the chick isn't noticing you?

There isn't anyone!! You see I'm totally inactive right now. Totally uncool... bcz of this personality issue...

I'm not social like others, so there is no friend of mine or gal who has already fallen for....

 

[To Whatever]

You'll get over it.

Anyway, you could always play the field and catch that hoe on the rebound if her man lacking.

 

[Mikeuhsomething36]

A behavioral therapist might help, you will need to take it one step at a time, the point is, you keep thinking so highly of this girl yet the feeling isn't mutual, you need to fix that. Telling yourself over and over until you're convinced that she's just like any female friend you've had is a start. You have to hit things at the core, you have to remind yourself that she's just a human girl just like anyone else, what's so special about her that you can't find in another girl? Why should you care? Is it because you feel you owe her some form of debt? You don't owe her nothing and she owes you nothing, the sooner you realize that she isn't the penultimate being in your life the better. Life is about finer things, think optimistically, you should be good enough to find another, spend an extended amount of time away from her if after 3 months you haven't seen her but still it's a problem you may have an obsession which is never good. I mean lets say she did like you even with that other guy, would she or any other woman hang around someone so depressed in body and soul? Of course not, that's why you need to think positively for your sake not hers. Look up the "optmist's creed" and read it to yourself everytime you feel down, you'll gain results it's called in psychology, the self-fulfilling prophecy

 

[Punk Hazard]

Warui na... I'm really bad at sports!! And have kind of destroyed my health in the previous year... So I have kind of become anemic (to health)...!!

General exercise then. Go running and lift weights. Could help with your health situation as well. I found that lifting weights and just working out and being active with friends is a good distraction and outlet, even if you're bad at it.

 

[t_mala]

one day you will read this thread and laugh at it U_U

 

[PakTigers]

Ignore ****boy McChildish up there. Find some things that you like, emphasize some positives. Find a good book series, listen to new music, watch new TV shows. Anything that occupies your mind and time. Exercise more, hang out with your friends more. It's not the end of the world.

About the things you mentioned... I'm already up to 'em. But they don't really heal the scars of urs, do they??
And about friends, there is none you can say... Most probably bcz I am beginning to hate people around me. I hate how they are wishing to have fun all the time.

 

[PakTigers]

one day you will read this thread and laugh at it U_U

Yeah, only if it wouldn't be deleted... :bouncy:

 

[t_mala]

keep a mental image of this thread stored in your mind.... for good times sake <_<

 

[PakTigers]

A behavioral therapist might help, you will need to take it one step at a time, the point is, you keep thinking so highly of this girl yet the feeling isn't mutual, you need to fix that. Telling yourself over and over until you're convinced that she's just like any female friend you've had is a start. You have to hit things at the core, you have to remind yourself that she's just a human girl just like anyone else, what's so special about her that you can't find in another girl? Why should you care? Is it because you feel you owe her some form of debt? You don't owe her nothing and she owes you nothing, the sooner you realize that she isn't the penultimate being in your life the better. Life is about finer things, think optimistically, you should be good enough to find another, spend an extended amount of time away from her if after 3 months you haven't seen her but still it's a problem you may have an obsession which is never good. I mean lets say she did like you even with that other guy, would she or any other woman hang around someone so depressed in body and soul? Of course not, that's why you need to think positively for your sake not hers. Look up the "optmist's creed" and read it to yourself everytime you feel down, you'll gain results it's called in psychology, the self-fulfilling prophecy

Everything was nicely put bro... But the problem isn't only in me. And there are couple of reasons for my change of personality. One of 'em was her. Their are many others, one is my parents relationship. It's kind of at edge. It's been for years. Their fights, their screams, arguing all the time... I can't deal with everything their is to it... (I'll edit my comment for replying to the things u said)

Edit 1: For why I like her? It's because their are many memories of mine attached with her... I can't tell for how long we have been friends because we have been since childhood. We were kind of best friends...!!

 

[PakTigers]

Find another one.

I know I suck... :hyper:

 

[Mr Akatsuki]

Any other way except girls?? It's like I hate everyone around me. Whether its boys or the girls either way...

Try to love and improve yourself first. Think about. Do you put someone else before you easily? Do you actually love yourself? Don't chase happiness, seize it. You're going to meet more people just like you met her. I'm speaking out of experience.