End of a relationship

[ateista]

Hi,

I dont know what to do, maybe i just need to write is somewhere to release the stam or maybe i just need to accept that me relationship with my girlfriend is over.
Last week was it a half yera that we were together but for the last two weeks we didnt have much time to see us.
Everytime is something happend and because of that we didnt see us.
Yesterday shes call me that she must say something.
everybody knows that when a boy/girl friend say something like this, its mean problem.
Shes knew that i have 2 hard week over me becasue of my work and that my son is in the hospital.
And i need her to be at my side but shes was not there.
She tell me that she could not be that girlfriend for me and taht i deserved somebody who will be better then her.
She say that i did to much for her and she cannot do the same.
Its becasue we are different in every way.
We dont have much common hobbys and so.
I say to her that i love her and i dont need anything but her i dont need presents or something like that.
She did so much for me that i can never repay that.
She was the one, my son like her and he dont like many person.
Today i must say to me son that we are not together anymore, he was sad and he is only 4 yeras old and then he say something very mature do you think that you two could be together?
And i didnt have any answer for him.
Last night when i was in the hospital i wrote her a mail.
A wrote there what she did to me, how she turn me world and how much i love her.
I try to make some joke to, i didnt mean that the mail sound bad.
She wrotte me thats she didnt laugh but was sad because of what happend and she tanks me for the wonderful half year /but we knew us for over a year/.
She ask me if e could be friend but if i dont want to she would understand that.
But i can be a friend with her, i had a bad experience from the past when i tried to be a friend with me exgirlfriend and it ended with hate and dislike.
Because of this i wrote her another mail if she could find som time tomorrow. i hope she write me back and say yes.
I know that every relationship that have ended is hard and people just need time but when will the pain ended is nowhere writen.
Can somebody give me a advice what to do?
Sorry for the gram i didnt wrote in english quite some time

THX

 

[Punk Hazard]

Buy Nyquil.

 

[Obsidian]

Just give it time, me and my current girlfriend have been together for a year now, she broke up with me three times so far but got right back with me few hours later. It's always stressful I guess, but inbox me I could give more advice but yeah After we break up we make up even better and our relationship is even stronger. Just try going raw with her too.

 

[straightup]

Best thing to do is to stop contacting her and to make it seem like your having a wonderful life. Get on facebook and just start writing things like "date tonight" etc. sometimes to be happy you just have to fake it until you make it.

 

[YowYan]

Hi there, don't worry about the grammar. Your english writing/typing is good enough for us to follow.

As for your girlfriend; It seems that she wants to move on so you're better off giving it a rest and moving on yourself. Focus on your child.

 

[Chie]

See if you can be friends for a while and see how that is. If it is bad, you don't need to talk to her anymore if you don't want to. If it's good, then that's great. Take good care of your son and if you're still interested in romance, just remember that there are plenty of fish out there in the sea and I'm sure that you'll find another girl that's good to you.

 

[Desiigner]

See if you can be friends for a while and see how that is. If it is bad, you don't need to talk to her anymore if you don't want to. If it's good, then that's great. Take good care of your son and if you're still interested in romance, just remember that there are plenty of fish out there in the sea and I'm sure that you'll find another girl that's good to you.

This here. ^^

Keep Ya Head Up

 

[iNotorious]

It's going to be difficult to be or act like a friend to an ex, but give it a try, if it doesn't work then just move on.

 

[paratise]

I think you can keep moderate amount of communication but don't want too much from her in terms of love life.

Maybe you both need a break and during that time you can focus on your kid like YowYan said. Child must be the most important thing for a parent. After a break you can see what you want more clear.

 

[Conspirator.]

I would move on from your partner and focus on the child, since that's the most important thing. Once you become a parent, you must put your child's welfare first and foremost in your decision-making.

 

[AlphaWolfZero]

It's going to be difficult to be or act like a friend to an ex, but give it a try, if it doesn't work then just move on.

Well spoken. There's not many people who can just happily stay in the friend zone with someone they've been intimate with before in the past.. playin with too many emotions. Your best bet is to cut it off completely like those above mentione and give your mind/heart (and hers) time to decide what's right.

 

[Bad Touch Yakushi]

Young people are changing every day.

The likelihood of two people remaining in sync the entire time as you two grow up is just pure unlikely. You might just be headed down different paths.

Sounds sad, but it's actually totally okay. It's a good thing.

 

[nanadaime]

Hi there, don't worry about the grammar. Your english writing/typing is good enough for us to follow.


As for your girlfriend; it seems that she wants to move on so you're better off giving it a rest and moving on yourself. Focus on your child.

This right here^^^^ it seems like she genuinely doesn't want to be together so let go

 

[Kishi Uzumaki]

I think you're going in the right way meet her and talk with her the reasons and why she want to leave the relationship and everything else then decide, where you want to go from there .

 

[ateista]

One of me friends say to me dont you think that she could be cheating on you and because of that she ended your relationship?
Its true that i trust people i trust them very much and i hope i am right and that she would never do such thing.
Iam still waiting for the answer about our meeting tomorrow.
We will see if she give me a positiv answer.
Now i dont have have nobody beside my son and wrok and i think i should focus on this.
Thx for your advice that you give me i appreciate it

 

[Frankenstein]

Well, meeting one (even if final) time will definitely help you. Ask her to explain the reasons for which she doesn't want to be together with you anymore because as far as I can see you were not exactly prepared for this. This will help you come to terms with it at least and accept it.

From your description it looks like she won't be coming back to you as more than a friend but nevertheless you should give it a try. Keep in mind that you yourself might be a genuine and trusty person but others are not always like it and her reasons to break up with you might not be what she says. So ask her gently to at least do you this favor and explain to you, so that you can calm your mind about it too.

Last but not least, since your son is in the hospital try to focus on him for the moment because he matters more than a girlfriend who chose this particular difficult for you moment to tell you that she wants to break up.
If you want my personal opinion, her choice of time, given your son's situation, is a very negative sign from her part. She should at least think about that before causing you even more stress if she really cared for you.

 

[NineSNS]

It's a sad fact that loving someone doesn't mean they can love you back in the same way.

She has openly told you that she can't be there for you when you need her.

The pain will slowly ease up, but please do the right thing for both yourself and your son: find someone who truly loves you and can be there for you in fun times and in rough times. Don't settle for anything less.

Give your son lots of love, and good luck

 

[ateista]

Frankenstein and ★9Sns i thank you very much, those were the most inspirative words that i heard from the break up.
If she accepted the meeting i will ask everything and then i will make a decision, it will be very hard but i must endur the pain from the loss and focus on my child because my son is the only joy that i have in my life

 

[Y3LL0WM4GT]

It's going to be difficult to be or act like a friend to an ex, but give it a try, if it doesn't work then just move on.

That's the case with most of the relationships.

I would say that the end of something beautiful brings something good at the end too so don't give up my friend.

 

[Transcendence]

Hi there, don't worry about the grammar. Your english writing/typing is good enough for us to follow.

As for your girlfriend; It seems that she wants to move on so you're better off giving it a rest and moving on yourself. Focus on your child.

See if you can be friends for a while and see how that is. If it is bad, you don't need to talk to her anymore if you don't want to. If it's good, then that's great. Take good care of your son and if you're still interested in romance, just remember that there are plenty of fish out there in the sea and I'm sure that you'll find another girl that's good to you.

A mix of these two.

It seems she isn't on the same emotional level as you and you deserve someone who will be. Give it time and if she doesn't come back or doesn't want to work it out, then move on. There's plenty of people out there who are worth your time.