Do You Believe Beatings Should be Used to Discipline?
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Tennis Robot
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Well some parents/guardians think that :/
Oh also I really like Rajna's idea. I feel like it is too easily tossed aside by a lot of people.
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Nah, I got hit on the foot with a stick when I was little. Slapped in the back of the head or the face when I got a little older. I don't get hit anymore though.
I would always be warned before I did something though so I should have seen them all coming.
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I was hit as a child within the context you're talking about(beating isn't the right word btw), and it helped the issue it was towards far less than it did when my parents or guardians applied negative punishment and simply explained why it was wrong.
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Well, like I said, every kid is different.
That's why it should be used as a last resort. I should stop saying beatings though.
I can only speak from my own experiences and i got hit with a belt for the extreme things like stealing from stores or doing fighting in school but i mostly was grounded for weeks at a time and that was more effective only because im a social person
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A good smack on your ass or hands seems to be alright. Not more then 1 time tho.
Its not fun to hurt your children but when they
Got to learn what is bad i gotta smack his ass .
Hitting your children in the face or kicking is not what we mean imo
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No. Beating a child means you have already failed them as a parent. When they are young you should teach them right from wrong with your words and actions, not do as you please in front of them and complain when they turn out wrong.
Kids get beat for being "bad" and that's how they learn to be "good" even though it's the parents fault they never even knew.
Kids get beat for being "bad" and that's how they learn to be "good" even though it's the parents fault they never even knew.
Beatings is too harsh of a word. Whoopings or smacks are better. And I see it as a last resort, definitely not something a parent should jump at the opportunity to do so and there's a time and place where it may call for it more than others. Mostly, it's better to discuss with a child what they did wrong, why it's wrong, and express to them not to do it again. In my own experience, I was whooped when I consistently did something bad or if I was violent myself.
Like in 1st grade, me and my friends jumped a kid. So in turn, my dad whooped me on the ass. His logic was, if you go around hitting people, you are bound to be hit back. He also told me that this is how it feels to be hit, but much worse since the other person isn't usually a parent. He explained that I shouldn't go around afflicting pain on others. So from that case, I didn't go around fighting people so I wouldn't get hit by them, or my dad especially, he used a paddle once and that was that Lol. Other times, he'd smack my hands or the back of my head but it was never extreme. It helps with discipline sometimes but it was never something he preferred to do.
Like in 1st grade, me and my friends jumped a kid. So in turn, my dad whooped me on the ass. His logic was, if you go around hitting people, you are bound to be hit back. He also told me that this is how it feels to be hit, but much worse since the other person isn't usually a parent. He explained that I shouldn't go around afflicting pain on others. So from that case, I didn't go around fighting people so I wouldn't get hit by them, or my dad especially, he used a paddle once and that was that Lol. Other times, he'd smack my hands or the back of my head but it was never extreme. It helps with discipline sometimes but it was never something he preferred to do.
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Exactly. From the beginning, the adults in my life were sure to teach me that there's right and wrong. If I did something wrong, they explained why it was wrong, and if I did it again, I either got hit or got stuff taken away, and I responded a lot better to the latter than former.
Thing is, beating your kid doesn't teach them why something is wrong, which is the important part. It's more important for your child to go ¨I won't do this because I know why it's wrong" rather than ¨I'm not gonna do this because I know I'll get hit.¨ Chances are, the latter is gonna lean more towards your kid trying to find ways to get away with it.
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This ^^^
I'd hate to hit my kids, but some people just slap their kids over anything and it sickens me.
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Why do people think a whooping or getting hit is simply you doing something bad, your parents run up and beat your ass, then throw you in a room. At least for me it wasn't like that. They would call me in the office, my dad would ask me if I did something. I would say yeah I did something wrong. Then he would explain why I shouldn't do that and proceed to beat my ass. Then he would explain again why what I did was wrong and why I shouldn't do things like that.
Personally the getting whooped worked better than simply talking, but it's different for every child.
Personally the getting whooped worked better than simply talking, but it's different for every child.
Yusuke Urameshi
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If you're stealing from stores, maybe some physical discipline is needed. You can't be doing that stuff, man.
OT: Beating is the wrong word.
beat·ing
ˈbēdiNG/
noun
1.
a punishment or assault in which the victim is hit repeatedly.
That's not quite what a parent should do to discipline his kid. A spanking or grabbing them by their face and making them pay attention to you while you're telling them what they did wrong is more effective. I got spanked when I was kid and, to be quite modest, I'm a very good kid. So...it works, apparently. Too many times you'll see spoiled brats that haven't been disciplined in any way that deserve a beating or two. lol There's a difference between abuse and discipline, and I think many people fail to see that.
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"beating" is a pretty strong word, I don't support "beatings" and any sane person would denounce it lol
A little physical discipline from time to time can work. It did for my immediate family and my cousins
A little physical discipline from time to time can work. It did for my immediate family and my cousins
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Nope.
It never works; when it appears to work, all it does is cause your child to suppress emotions causing a bunch of psychological problems and when it doesn't... count yourself lucky that they're releasing the resulting anger instead of bottling it up. Studies prove that it doesn't work, and from knowing someone who was exposed to that belief of punishment from his father, it doesn't work.
Luckily, his mother was a good parent and never need lay a finger. Through that, a close bond developed between them with mutual respect. And by choosing his mother's way, he grew up to be a good (sane) person. His relationship with his father... well, let's not go there.
It never works; when it appears to work, all it does is cause your child to suppress emotions causing a bunch of psychological problems and when it doesn't... count yourself lucky that they're releasing the resulting anger instead of bottling it up. Studies prove that it doesn't work, and from knowing someone who was exposed to that belief of punishment from his father, it doesn't work.
Luckily, his mother was a good parent and never need lay a finger. Through that, a close bond developed between them with mutual respect. And by choosing his mother's way, he grew up to be a good (sane) person. His relationship with his father... well, let's not go there.