Bro advice.

[Jin Hayami]

Thanks guys, all of this helped.

She swears nothing happened, I took her virginity and she shows displeasure in other guys.

Like we were on a break and she said every guy she "made out" with weren't good kissers.

I decided to trust her because she's really the only bright thing in my life besides my good friends. I wouldn't want to mess anything up over my trust issues and my lack of knowing.

She cried last night cause I wouldn't believe her.

BUUUUUT, ALL of you, not just SOME, but all of you guys helped in one way or another.

Wish you the best of luck. Remember crying doesn't equal innocence. I learned it the hard way.

 

[killer1]

you will do what you have to do however i would use her like fun bag

 

[Uchiha Riyo]

I would be there for her and ask her all about it. If she won't tell you the truth then I guess that just means she's holding something back.

 

[blackstar9]

Smh if she used to love him then slept at his house. That means they had ***. I doubt her friend was there three is a crowd.her story doesn't make sense. Man up and dump her she is playing you. No commited girl sleeps at another guys house. And has guys texting her at night

 

[corpscommander1021]

You should dump her. She seems to be flirting with other guy from her sending a text saying do you miss me? Plus the whole ex thing seems to have her thinking. Break up or take a break. Seems like she has some thinking to do.

 

[Jukain]

Communication is KEY! Talk to her about it and make the wisest choice from her answer.

 

[CommonSense]

Smh if she used to love him then slept at his house. That means they had ***. I doubt her friend was there three is a crowd.her story doesn't make sense. Man up and dump her she is playing you. No commited girl sleeps at another guys house. And has guys texting her at night

Good point. I realy don't know why she would stay there, but that's forgivable, but calling me his name in the middle of the night... I walked outside and sucked down 4 cigarettes.. in a row...

 

[Aim64C]

Thanks guys, all of this helped.

Glad to be of service.

She swears nothing happened, I took her virginity and she shows displeasure in other guys.

Sounds like what I'd want to hear.

Like we were on a break and she said every guy she "made out" with weren't good kissers.

Well, I suppose the probability of that being true is inversely proportional to the number of guys in question. Still... she came back to you for something.

I decided to trust her because she's really the only bright thing in my life besides my good friends. I wouldn't want to mess anything up over my trust issues and my lack of knowing.

Here's my concern with this... there's the saying "Nice guys finish last." While I do not live by such a mantra, I am aware of the validity of the statement. Kindness gets used and abused in this world. I've seen more than one guy with a girl who hangs around him because he's supportive and provides a structured/stable environment... but then the girl runs off and chases whatever makes her loins tingle when she thinks he isn't looking.

There again - you sound like you have some things to work as an individual, as well. There need to be more bright things in your life than just her. By all means - let 'her' (or whomever sits in the place of your significant other) be the brightest, but there needs to be a groundwork and individual sense of accomplishment.

That is a large factor in what caused my relationship to go sour - I was not happy with my life as an individual; I was not secure as a single person - the security I had came from the hope of a future with her.

Whether she realizes it or not, she picks up on that and reacts to it. She can pick up on your personal insecurity and find herself drawn towards people with more personal security.

She cried last night cause I wouldn't believe her.

The past is the past and it cannot be changed. In many cases, it cannot be known. What is important is what is to be done about the future.

It sounds like both of you have some considerable development to do (she is probably needing to find individual security as well). That makes things challenging, being in a relationship. Change tends to be very upsetting to relationships - people get into relationships for increased stability (of some variety or another). But the reality is that both of you are going to have to develop into stronger individuals who want to tackle life together (or... stronger individuals who decide to tackle life with another person - but stronger individuals regardless).

That's the challenge. You both must accept the challenge for what it is before you can begin, let alone complete it.

I would recommend asking her if there is anything she would like to see you do/accomplish (as a person) - and so long as it is something you find agreeable, offer to help her help you accomplish it. Be practical (something that can be done within a week or two - maybe just something as simple as rearranging a room), and economical (don't break the bank with this). Offer to help her with the same (so long as she seems receptive) - let her know what you've always wanted to see her do or accomplish for herself, and help her in what ways you can (it may just be that the nature of each thing is simply to be emotional support).

A relationship is a partnership - an agreement to support and help each other in life. It's not merely a romance - it's a functional and mutually beneficial arrangement. Neither stands ahead or in shelter of the other; you are at each others' sides. Through all the storms of society, against all the chaos of money, you two stand as the shield and sword of a will; the mattress and comforter of a dream for the future - your combined future comprised of a heritage extending back millions of years.

If you two accept both the challenge and each other, then you both cast aside the past like the husk it is and start building your future from the present before you.

I should really start up an internet talk show or something...

 

[KING KISAME]

They probably boned. You should cheat on her so she knows how it feels
or maybe call her some other chicks name, see what her reaction is

 

[Gary777]

It could be an accident calling d name or
They were making out at the house and telling to u that she went with a friend it can be a lie to prov nothing went on there ....or just ask the frnd ...if she wants to prove her innocence she should allow u question her frnd ...
Btw she should have not went to this guys house being in a relationship with u ..

 

[Sinnister]

Honestly man. She is playing you. Don't buy those ****ing croc tears. If you really live this girl confront her friend and her bitch ass ex. Look, for all you know, her ex had no idea she was with you so you can't really be mad at him, unless he did know.

Everyone is telling you to leave her. You are playing "who wants to be a millionaire" and you're refusing to listen to the audience after using a lifeline. Not good.

This all sounds hella shady to me. I understand you love her, but maybe she don't live you if she's willing to go to her ex's place. Don't be afraid to live without her. Embrace the change bro. It could save you a heartache down the line.

 

[ghetto gladiator]

aaahhh ggeezzeee,,,, ,here's what's up man,,, first of all if this story is even true,there's something about you that she DOESN'T like or something about him that she really likes if she's willing to sleep by him and didnt even mention it till however long after. let me see,,,,, the last time i heard, the ratio female to male was about ten to one. now this should tell you that if this bitch wants to play the feelings game with wolverine(xman)-lol then you should have some balls to do your own thing,unless thats the reason she didn't tell you a thing becus you have no balls. i'm tired of telling people that most women likes when a guy takes control,if you sit there and pitter patter all damn day then it won't be the rain drops coming,but your tears instead,,, ty have a nice day

 

[Putokage]

go hump her friend if u can't take it anymore. you will get the truth one way or another.

 

[Andrediemasjien]

Make sweet love to your ex-girlfriend, make sweet love to you current girlfriend and then call her by your exes names 'by accident' see her reaction and then react in the same way.

Even if you end up getting dumped or w/e you still get laid twice. WIN times WIN = WIN^2

 

[-Punk-]

Did you dumped her a$$ yet ?

 

[BeEasyMoMeezy]

lmao ok first off dude
1. she said all the guys shes been with were bad kissers and your the best XD lol okkkk the average girl dates a minimum of 5-6 guys so in the number range she said ALL of them sucked? cmon now or maybe she was just telling you that because like u admitted to, your the jealous type and she knew you would get mad if she said how her exes really were.
2. You've been together for 2 years. Why the hell are you just knowing about this now? why are you just learning about the name Dennis and why are you learning about if from hearing her saying it in the middle of the night by her calling you that name, a girl that you've been with for 2 years?
3. She went over to her exes house with a friend...cmon dude. really. really. first off why are you at your exes house? its called ex for a reason second you went over there with a friend? Or maybe shes telling you the friend part to justify why she went over:Girl trying to keep the fling a secret but trying to also get your trust:" hey watever your name is you wanted me to be honest so i will be, I went over to Dennis house the other day....oh but i went with a friend' XD lol she said friend so it wouldnt make it seem like she went over there to have *** which is wat she did but you mr.gullible believed her.
Cmon dude your name is common sense you gotta use it. Wish you the best

 

[Ron Stoppable]

"she said she stayed at his house with her friend." They had a threesome. I'm sorry to hear that bro.

 

[ProGun]

Ok, just a little pre story.​

My gf went to this college town and she saw one of her exes. Later on she would tell me that she did love him, but anyway, he cried and explained that he wanted her back. She said she didn't want any part in it.

So we're sleeping together, and in the middle of the night I get up and she calls me his fcking name. She says "Dennis?" In getting up I woke her up.

Anyway, I asked her why she would call me that, and she says "i really don't know", and I asked her what all happened with her and her ex and she said he cried and blah blah blah. But later that day I told her to be honest about everything and she said she stayed at his house with her friend.

What do you think it means?

Think it sparked some emotional shit in her and she misses him?

First of all she was sleepy. That could mean she let something slip or simply THAT SHE WAS PROCESSING recent activity trying to get her brain to settle out everything and was confused.

If she did anything else at all to make you suspicous fine. Continue your suspicion. If you two don't mind fantasies to spice up your time in the sack, then just ask her make her other/multiple dudes faceless and not give them names as it freaks you out.

Just be open, honest and discuss this stuff with her. If she wants she she will stay and won't give you cause to stress or suspect. If you can;t give her a couple days to process and clear out her old emotional baggage after seeing an old ex then you are more of an ass than she is.

 

[Dęvîa Puęrî]

You should ask her what she "thinks" her feelings are for her ex. The best way to sort through all this is to talk it out. How long have you and her been dating?

This

 

[DeadManWonderLand]

You can't change a persons feelings so to put it as bluntly as possible.Drop her like shes hot.