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First of all It doesn't nullify the thread. I said it's possible for someone to improve their intelligence even if they are born average, this doesn't cancel out the theory that people are born smarter than you.
Let's say you are born with 100 IQ and I am born with 110 IQ. I was born naturally smarter than you were but if you train your mind and surpass me then It just means you practiced to become smarter while I was BORN smarter but didn't train it as much as you did.
Also about the second statement about attraction, don't take this as an insult but It's very easy to make a child want to learn something or care about something. You just don't understand the psychology of it.
I will give you a direct example, my mother always loved to do art when she was young but quit. She decided that her son/daughter would be good at art but didn't want to force me to love it. What she did was even when I drew terrible pictures, she encouraged me and told me they were very good and that I was gifted, the reward was my mother's attention and compliments so even though I didn't care about art I carried on and became good. Now I carry on because It would be a waste of talent to quit art now and It has many benefits so I carry on for fun and it turns out I am passionate to some extent now.
So the guy that said he could raise a doctor or a lawyer could use different trick to make them passionate about it... I mean he was a psychologist so he should know better than my mother.
i never said people cant get smarter relax, im disagreeing that they can in any area.
@bold: you did actually care about the art otherwise you wouldve dropped it. your mom would probably support you in whatever you wanted to do, they usually do that. but you kept going because there are things you enjoy about it plus it makes your mom proud
for instance i have a baby sister who has a drum set. she only plays solely when asked by my father because it makes him smile. doesnt mean she's playing it on her own for fun, she never did or does and probably wont. she doesnt care about it even if you encourage it, doesnt listen or care for tips, only plays when asked when company is around. she rather do everything else than play the drums if she had the option. tons of parents try to make their kids do things they did and completely fail because the kid just doesn't get it