What is love =\
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:| hmmm interesting topic how do I respond...well in my opinion love is an annoying emotion that will just screw you over like if your with someone and "love" that person and she/he dose not feel the same way you will hurt abit but it gets really bad if your with that person for along time and she/he "loves" you as well but something happens and you two brake up then your gonna feel really messed up in the head for quiet along time sadly these days teens are fall in "love" to easy and when something happens they get all sad and in some cases turn emo and your head gets messed up more and makes you weak on the inside so in my opinion love= hurt=pain unless your strong willd to get over it and get stronger hmm sounds like im rambling i hope you can get what im trying to say it is a difficult topic for me to discuss:faust:
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“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.” Some guys opinion forgot who it was but i can relate to it
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Wildtangent
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What is love, you ask? Prepare yourself for a wall of text. You have been warned.
Let's start at the right place and distinguish between different types of love. Naturally, love for a family member or a friend is going to be different from the love one feels for a romantic partner. I believe the OP is asking about the latter, so let's just focus on that.
The triangular theory of love is probably the easiest way to analyze this. It focuses on intimacy (closeness, sharing, and valuing one's partner), commitment (the decision to remain in the relationship), and passion (feelings of romance, physical attraction, and sexual desire). The ideal kind of love would be a combination of all three; this is what is known as consummate love. However, oftentimes we're lacking in one or two areas of the triangle, and we get different kinds of love that aren't nearly as fulfilling. Intimacy and passion without commitment gets you romantic love, which is probably more commonly known as lust. Intimacy and commitment without passion gives you companionate love, or friendship. Passion and commitment without intimacy and you have fatuous love, which is probably close to the obsession one feels when one has a crush on someone they've never even met. Commitment alone is an empty kind of love, intimacy on its own equates to simply liking the individual, and passion alone is a mere infatuation. The idea here is that all three are neccessary in equal measure to have true love.
Now, as for the body's physical symptoms of love; i.e. the sweaty palms, increased heart rate, flushed skin, dilated pupils, etc.? These can be explained by the cognitive-arousal model of love, as can the feeling of a 'rush' or a 'high'. In essence, the passionate component of love has interacting cognitive and physiological components. One experiences arousal as the 'rush', caused by the presence of someone one finds attractive, and one concludes that they must be falling in love.
For those who define love as a set of feelings-these feelings are caused by a sudden, heavy secretion of various feel-good hormones, such as oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine. This isn't to say that these feelings are diminished in any way by recognizing what causes them; they are powerful no matter how one views them. People who describe love as 'mere' brain chemistry would be wise to keep this mind. I would include graphics to help explain everything here, but since this is my first post, you'll have to Google image 'triangular theory of love' and 'love chemistry' if you want them. They should help if things aren't quite clear.
As for me, personally...well, I can tell that I am at least in the process of falling in love right now. I don't think I'm quite there yet, but I intend to pursue my feelings and see this process through to the end, no matter how bitter that end may be. Despite how rationally I described love in the previous paragraphs, I'm actually a hopeless romantic. I'm totally addicted to romantic comedies, I dream of whispering sweet nothings in my lover's ear, and sharing everything I have and everything I am with that one special person.
"You are a beautiful, flawless flower, and I will be the sun that warms you, the rain that nurtures you, and the soil that holds you tight."
Let's start at the right place and distinguish between different types of love. Naturally, love for a family member or a friend is going to be different from the love one feels for a romantic partner. I believe the OP is asking about the latter, so let's just focus on that.
The triangular theory of love is probably the easiest way to analyze this. It focuses on intimacy (closeness, sharing, and valuing one's partner), commitment (the decision to remain in the relationship), and passion (feelings of romance, physical attraction, and sexual desire). The ideal kind of love would be a combination of all three; this is what is known as consummate love. However, oftentimes we're lacking in one or two areas of the triangle, and we get different kinds of love that aren't nearly as fulfilling. Intimacy and passion without commitment gets you romantic love, which is probably more commonly known as lust. Intimacy and commitment without passion gives you companionate love, or friendship. Passion and commitment without intimacy and you have fatuous love, which is probably close to the obsession one feels when one has a crush on someone they've never even met. Commitment alone is an empty kind of love, intimacy on its own equates to simply liking the individual, and passion alone is a mere infatuation. The idea here is that all three are neccessary in equal measure to have true love.
Now, as for the body's physical symptoms of love; i.e. the sweaty palms, increased heart rate, flushed skin, dilated pupils, etc.? These can be explained by the cognitive-arousal model of love, as can the feeling of a 'rush' or a 'high'. In essence, the passionate component of love has interacting cognitive and physiological components. One experiences arousal as the 'rush', caused by the presence of someone one finds attractive, and one concludes that they must be falling in love.
For those who define love as a set of feelings-these feelings are caused by a sudden, heavy secretion of various feel-good hormones, such as oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine. This isn't to say that these feelings are diminished in any way by recognizing what causes them; they are powerful no matter how one views them. People who describe love as 'mere' brain chemistry would be wise to keep this mind. I would include graphics to help explain everything here, but since this is my first post, you'll have to Google image 'triangular theory of love' and 'love chemistry' if you want them. They should help if things aren't quite clear.
As for me, personally...well, I can tell that I am at least in the process of falling in love right now. I don't think I'm quite there yet, but I intend to pursue my feelings and see this process through to the end, no matter how bitter that end may be. Despite how rationally I described love in the previous paragraphs, I'm actually a hopeless romantic. I'm totally addicted to romantic comedies, I dream of whispering sweet nothings in my lover's ear, and sharing everything I have and everything I am with that one special person.
"You are a beautiful, flawless flower, and I will be the sun that warms you, the rain that nurtures you, and the soil that holds you tight."
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Rodukaime Namikaze
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**Sigh**
I really find the need to say this..........
I find it quite sad how many people got seriously mad about the topic =\ if your angry about love then fine its your opinion but the people that came just to troll and had nothing to say on the topic are the one's I'm referring to....
I seen a few post about the "rules of the internet" and unless the ACTUAL Creator of the internet, the president or the moderator of this site says so I follow NO rule >_____>
I know its a lot of really young people here and at certain ages people don't really believe or understand love.. I know I didn't and still don't fully..
as for the people that directed comments of "there is not one definition of love" I know that I stated that too there is never one definition of anything its always questionable..
and the comments of "why ask this one an anime and manga site" I ask because I want to there are literally threads about all kinds on this non anime and manga related why not ask them the same thing.? I find it funny that people pretend like they don't know one single person on this site that: liked each other, dated, ect..
I may be a noob here but this isn't my first forum I know people that met on a bleach forum site and actually got married..
So my point is that if you like or hate what you THINK love is then post it. But don't call yourself getting an attitude at me coz I actually had enough.. I'll just say guts
to post a thread like this >__________>
I really find the need to say this..........
I find it quite sad how many people got seriously mad about the topic =\ if your angry about love then fine its your opinion but the people that came just to troll and had nothing to say on the topic are the one's I'm referring to....
I seen a few post about the "rules of the internet" and unless the ACTUAL Creator of the internet, the president or the moderator of this site says so I follow NO rule >_____>
I know its a lot of really young people here and at certain ages people don't really believe or understand love.. I know I didn't and still don't fully..
as for the people that directed comments of "there is not one definition of love" I know that I stated that too there is never one definition of anything its always questionable..
and the comments of "why ask this one an anime and manga site" I ask because I want to there are literally threads about all kinds on this non anime and manga related why not ask them the same thing.? I find it funny that people pretend like they don't know one single person on this site that: liked each other, dated, ect..
I may be a noob here but this isn't my first forum I know people that met on a bleach forum site and actually got married..
So my point is that if you like or hate what you THINK love is then post it. But don't call yourself getting an attitude at me coz I actually had enough.. I'll just say guts
to post a thread like this >__________>
why would you want to close this? its not a bad topic i have seen alot of threads here that are ALOT worse then this one let the girl have her thread :hypertobi: so says the mighty Tobi!at last someone got it right
simple, kinda funni yet true
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IKR xdoh btw ama883 if you do find a mod can you plz put in a request for me???
can you ask him/her to change the title to: What Do You THINK!!!!!!!!!!! Love Is?
that would be Highly appreciated
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