When you lose someone...

[Hawker]

Life is hard, and sometimes stuff happen and we have to deal with it and get on with our lifes. But it's not always easy AT ALL. How do you people deal with break ups or even losing someone forever (death)?

I myself just broke up with my girlfriend. We knew everything about each other, and we thought we we're gonna be together forever, but the miles between us (60) just drove us away from each other. Ending tear us both apart and we said that we won't never forget what we had. Now I'm sipping beer (and listening to this

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) and thinking is life always going to be like this...? That there's no love without sacrifice. That all good things come to an end. How can you not be cynical in that kind of world. Where do you seek comfort from?

This is how I felt today after I agreed to break up 'cause it was the best choice:

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(gay I know but that's how I felt)

I'm not usually like this and I'm not trying to be selfish crybaby, but I created this thread so that I can hear your opinions that how you cope with situations like this. What has happened to you that's put you up for a test? No matter how you look at it, life's always hard, but well just have to move on, the question is how... how do you fill that void in your life?

"When the drugs don't work no more you get high on life", right?

 

[Two]

i know exactly how you feel, and it's like you just wanna escape from the pain right?? just cry it all out and try and keep your mind on things the pain will go away soon, or just fully come to terms with what happened (but don't think about it too much) and pretty much tell yourself it's ok because it is and you'll be fine i promise [=

 

[Hawker]

i know exactly how you feel, and it's like you just wanna escape from the pain right?? just cry it all out and try and keep your mind on things the pain will go away soon, or just fully come to terms with what happened (but don't think about it too much) and pretty much tell yourself it's ok because it is and you'll be fine i promise [=

Yeah, It's just hard not think about it. I've pretty much come to full terms with it, 'cause there was no other choice, but it's still frustrating, 'cause we knew we had found the right ones for ourselves, but now I see, that's not always enough.

...And I just thought, is there any joy in life that is not followed by any pain?

 

[uzumakikenshin]

life is hard i guess..

people come and go... they say but it's not that easy...

well what do i do...?

i cry

then... i drink

then... i let go

then... i move on...

life is hard but living is harder...

but you need to grasp yours and live with it...

(so man cheer up.. and as i said earlier.. here's another bottle for you...)

 

[Jae Dong180]

Well.... I know how u feel I have a gf that lives across the globe..

 

[Two]

...And I just thought, is there any joy in life that is not followed by any pain?

I suppose one day we will but for now we jus gotta move on and keep trying.

And sorry your relationship had to end like that it's really a sucky way ]=

 

[Hawker]

Well.... I know how u feel I have a gf that lives across the globe..

Yeah..I gotta say for me that would be too far, even with 60 miles between us we could only see each others like twice in a month, for 4-6 days in a row at a time, and that lasted for 4 months and now I realize there was no future for that kind of relationship. But it's still a hard choice. I hope your things are going well though!!

 

[Jack Spicer]

That sucks man, but I believe it'll get better. Life has ups and downs.

 

[Don Roberto]

I don't know, my dad died 7 years ago, at the time I was a kid and didnt realise what I have lost...but know its killing me. I havent said to him that I love him , he died too quickly.
Sometimes I like to drink and silently cry inside my head, but I keep smilling at the same time , knowing that he teached me a lot of things.
I would like to have him back, theres still a lot of things we never talked about, a lot of things he didnt teach me.
But I will remember him to the rest of my life, as he was great person, always hardworking to make my and my sisters life easier, always helping others, but never he really thought about himself,and thats sad. I know that I will never be as good as him.
Right now I'm thinking on making a tattoo to represent him, and to carry him on my chest iow in and on my heart. :3
Also I feel that I'm talking too much

 

[-Kratos-]

Well, to be honest I don't know how you feel! I really don't but I'm giving it a shot, I'd like to say to you that you don't need to be so desperate, go outside or hang out with your friend, it's useless if you sit on a chair waiting for a miracle to fill that emptiness which is created in your heart, things like that WON'T happen, you can determine if you're going to be happy and just get over with it or just be sad!

 

[Hawker]

That sucks man, but I believe it'll get better. Life has ups and downs.

That's true. But I'm starting to believe there are downs more than ups. NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE.

I don't know, my dad died 7 years ago, at the time I was a kid and didnt realise what I have lost...but know its killing me. I havent said to him that I love him , he died too quickly.
Sometimes I like to drink and silently cry inside my head, but I keep smilling at the same time , knowing that he teached me a lot of things.
I would like to have him back, theres still a lot of things we never talked about, a lot of things he didnt teach me.
But I will remember him to the rest of my life, as he was great person, always hardworking to make my and my sisters life easier, always helping others, but never he really thought about himself,and thats sad. I know that I will never be as good as him.
Right now I'm thinking on making a tattoo to represent him, and to carry him on my chest ino in and on my heart. :3
Also I feel that I'm talking too much

That's sad man. And I'm glad you have great memories from him, and that's what keeps you going right?! Tattoo sounds great idea, your turning your negative feelings into something else and that's the way to do it...

Well, to be honest I don't know how you feel! I really don't but I'm giving it a shot, I'd like to say to you that you don't need to be so desperate, go outside or hang out with your friend, it's useless if you sit on a chair waiting for a miracle to fill that emptiness which is created in your heart, things like that WON'T happen, you can determine if you're going to be happy and just get over with it or just be sad!

True true. I'm not desperate. Just sad. And thinking is it always going to be like this..'cause when does the limit come for us people..?..It's not so easy to just get up and get over for it.

 

[Jae Dong180]

Life is hard, and sometimes stuff happen and we have to deal with it and get on with our lifes. But it's not always easy AT ALL. How do you people deal with break ups or even losing someone forever (death)?

I myself just broke up with my girlfriend. We knew everything about each other, and we thought we we're gonna be together forever, but the miles between us (60) just drove us away from each other. Ending tear us both apart and we said that we won't never forget what we had. Now I'm sipping beer (and listening to this

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)and thinking is life always going to be like this...? That there's no love without sacrifice. That all good things come to an end. How can you not be skeptic in that kind of world. Where do you seek comfort from?

This is how I felt today after I agreed to break up 'cause it was the best choice:

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(gay I know but that's how I felt)

I'm not usually like this and I'm not trying to be selfish crybaby, but I created this thread so that I can hear your opinions that how you cope with situations like this. What has happened to you that's put you up for a test? No matter how you look at it, life's always hard, but well just have to move on, the question is how... how do you fill that void in your life?

"When the drugs don't work no more you get high on life", right?

When u first break up with sum1 it feels like the end of the world...Ur in a lot of pain and u feel like that person is irreplaceable, but, theres many fishes in the sea and even though at the time she feels like "the one" u'll find another. Time will heal all pain. Losing a loved one is hard. Always remember them and make them proud of what u've become if they were still alive.

Not to get too personal(pm me if u want), but if u knew everything bout each other n love each other so much y did 60 miles stop u..That is only an hour drive... but yes I know long distance relationships can be hard...but if the attraction n love is strong enuff the distance and time apart won't break it. I am in a LDR myself... she lives across the globe...so i know it can be hard, but, like i said if the attraction n love is strong enuff they will wait 4 u.

U will find another girl...believe it.... and at least u n ur ex didnt break up on bad terms so in the future u can get back wit each other(idk ur exact circumstance) Crying is not gay btw. Many guys do it but we have this image of being masculine so many ppl dun wana talk bout it, but showing vulnerability is attractive quality as well. It seems to me u love her more than she loves u....like did she bring up the thing about breaking up first?

What I'd suggest right now is for u to just cry it all out of ur system... and then stop dwelling on the negative n how hard this situation is....Start feeling happy as soon as possible and move on. There's many fishes in the sea and u'll find sum1 new soon.

 

[Hawker]

When u first break up with sum1 it feels like the end of the world...Ur in a lot of pain and u feel like that person is irreplaceable, but, theres many fishes in the sea and even though at the time she feels like "the one" u'll find another. Time will heal all pain. Losing a loved one is hard. Always remember them and make them proud of what u've become if they were still alive.

Not to get too personal(pm me if u want), but if u knew everything bout each other n love each other so much y did 60 miles stop u..That is only an hour drive... but yes I know long distance relationships can be hard...but if the attraction n love is strong enuff the distance and time apart won't break it. I am in a LDR myself... she lives across the globe...so i know it can be hard, but, like i said if the attraction n love is strong enuff they will wait 4 u.

U will find another girl...believe it.... and at least u n ur ex didnt break up on bad terms so in the future u can get back wit each other(idk ur exact circumstance) Crying is not gay btw. Many guys do it but we have this image of being masculine so many ppl dun wana talk bout it, but showing vulnerability is attractive quality as well. It seems to me u love her more than she loves u....like did she bring up the thing about breaking up first?

What I'd suggest right now is for u to just cry it all out of ur system... and then stop dwelling on the negative n how hard this situation is....Start feeling happy as soon as possible and move on. There's many fishes in the sea and u'll find sum1 new soon.

The main point that she didn't have any money. And it takes a lot of money to see even for once a month. It's about 40euros (57 dollars) back and forth.
She said I'm wonderful and that she never would forget what we had, but there's was no going back as the anxiety of thinking the future of our relationship had taken over. 'Cause there's no hope when you know you can't get to live close by each other at the near future. And all that was true. It became too hard, and we did start feeling distant from each other. It's better this way, but still hard.

 

[-Kratos-]

That's true. But I'm starting to believe there are downs more than ups. NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE.



That's sad man. And I'm glad you have great memories from him, and that's what keeps you going right?! Tattoo sounds great idea, your turning your negative feelings into something else and that's the way to do it...



True true. I'm not desperate. Just sad. And thinking is it always going to be like this..'cause when does the limit come for us people..?..It's not so easy to just get up and get over for it.

Yes, you're right, I know it's not easy because I never felt like you did. I hope you'll feel better. Trust me, you'll get over it, you'll be stronger. Remember that you can change the situation, YOU CAN!

 

[Passion]

Sorry for your loss.

 

[-Naruto Uzumaki-]

Life is hard, and sometimes stuff happen and we have to deal with it and get on with our lifes. But it's not always easy AT ALL. How do you people deal with break ups or even losing someone forever (death)?

I myself just broke up with my girlfriend. We knew everything about each other, and we thought we we're gonna be together forever, but the miles between us (60) just drove us away from each other. Ending tear us both apart and we said that we won't never forget what we had. Now I'm sipping beer (and listening to this

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) and thinking is life always going to be like this...? That there's no love without sacrifice. That all good things come to an end. How can you not be skeptic in that kind of world. Where do you seek comfort from?

This is how I felt today after I agreed to break up 'cause it was the best choice:

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(gay I know but that's how I felt)

I'm not usually like this and I'm not trying to be selfish crybaby, but I created this thread so that I can hear your opinions that how you cope with situations like this. What has happened to you that's put you up for a test? No matter how you look at it, life's always hard, but well just have to move on, the question is how... how do you fill that void in your life?

"When the drugs don't work no more you get high on life", right?

I feel for ya, man. :/

 

[aro]

sorry am sure it will get better

 

[Hawker]

Yes, you're right, I know it's not easy because I never felt like you did. I hope you'll feel better. Trust me, you'll get over it, you'll be stronger. Remember that you can change the situation, YOU CAN!

Yeah, I guess it's gonna be alright. But I just wonder when there will be more ups than down in life..?

Sorry for your loss.

I feel for ya, man. :/

Thanks dudes, means alot. Even though I'm not looking for pity in here, but just rasing a discussion about the hardships of life, that we all encounter.

 

[Jack Spicer]

That's true. But I'm starting to believe there are downs more than ups. NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE.

It does matter who you are. If you're sad and depressed all the time then you won't have any ups, only downs. You should be sad, anyone would be, but eventually you'll need to pick yourself up and move on.

 

[Hawker]

It does matter who you are. If you're sad and depressed all the time then you won't have any ups, only downs. You should be sad, anyone would be, but eventually you'll need to pick yourself up and move on.

It's not always up to yourself. Cheerful people too have hardships. It's not that simple so that's why I raised the discussion. But I appreciate your inshight man, your partly right.