Serious Advice. :/

[Kappy]

Okay... um I've never done this before and it's really embarrassing, but **** it everyone has problems they need help on right?

Me and my ex boyfriend have a 2 year relationship off and on and we finally broke up. We love each other- well I know I still love him and he claims to love me, but he's with another girl and says he loves her and he's called her his everything and now and forever and all this other crap he used to call me. He told me in order for him to fully love me again I have to so-called 'climb the ladder' to earn it. So should I risk my time to try and make him fully love me again? And if so how can I when I have to deal with him and his other gf being all lovey-dovey in front of my face??

 

[BluePhenix]

dump him already... i mean, come on, if he really loved you and had issues to clear out with you, he would have waited for you to 'climb the ladder' (whatever that means, seems like a pathetic excuse and mind-play/word-play) instead of moving on with his life...

 

[Kappy]

dump him already... i mean, come on, if he really loved you and had issues to clear out with you, he would have waited for you to 'climb the ladder' (whatever that means, seems like a pathetic excuse and mind-play/word-play) instead of moving on with his life...

I felt like that was the case. But everytime I tell him I feel like that he gets annoyed.

 

[Download]

don't wast your time if he truly loved you he wouldn't have made such an excuse as "climb the ladder"

 

[uzukyubi]

Lol, u aint got a brain?! Why pursuing his love when he got his heart sold to someone?! Thats the problem with girls! Cant get rid of anything!! Seriously, that guy deserves two words "f*** u"

 

[Hawker]

lol..I think the answer is clear..u wouldn't have that kind of problems if he would really love you

 

[Bipz]

I broke up with my g.f a month ago. Now i'm single , itz same story as yours , but i move on. Life is all about moving on no matter what. So, i think u should leave him, if ur love is true then he'll realise it.

 

[koolay0]

move on, he's a load bs playing mind games with you so when the time comes he has you to fall bk on. if he really loves you he would leave the chick and work it out with you. so fawk that guy.

 

[adams30]

you should leave him. if he dumped u for another girl and using pathetic word(if he think he is intelligent) to broke up with u, he does not worth that u continue to love him.

that my opinion

 

[-Shanks-]

c'mon, he is trying to make you jealous, every guy can see that.. dump him already..

 

[BluePhenix]

I felt like that was the case. But everytime I tell him I feel like that he gets annoyed.

does he act like he's angry because you've hurt him with what you're implying and shown that you do not trust him? does he then say that it would be best if he quits with you if you don't change for better by trusting him more and asking no more of such questions?

 

[Abysmal.]

You ought to dump him if you already haven't and if he doesn't approve of it...Well not your problem, he is playing you U_U

So i wouldn't bother getting his approval/love if he thinks you should be a certain way ( isn't that what 'climbing the ladder' implies ? ), if he doesn't like you for who you are then.... To hell with him ?



My word, my feminine side just came out then

 

[Kappy]

does he act like he's angry because you've hurt him with what you're implying and shown that you do not trust him? does he then say that it would be best if he quits with you if you don't change for better by trusting him more and asking no more of such questions?

Can you dumb that down? I don't understand it. I'm knida foggy in my head right about now...

 

[Zenryoku]

Okay... um I've never done this before and it's really embarrassing, but **** it everyone has problems they need help on right?

Me and my ex boyfriend have a 2 year relationship off and on and we finally broke up. We love each other- well I know I still love him and he claims to love me, but he's with another girl and says he loves her and he's called her his everything and now and forever and all this other crap he used to call me. He told me in order for him to fully love me again I have to so-called 'climb the ladder' to earn it. So should I risk my time to try and make him fully love me again? And if so how can I when I have to deal with him and his other gf being all lovey-dovey in front of my face??

he aint worth it leave him in the past

 

[Karmolo]

let him go and start thinking about yourself instead so stop waste time.

 

[BluePhenix]

Can you dumb that down? I don't understand it. I'm knida foggy in my head right about now...

well, i don't know why he's still attaching himself to you, the following reasons may be possible:

- he's afraid that you're gonna commit suicide or something if he leaves you... so his conscience is preventing him from doing it

- he's keeping you for the hard days when he doesn't have anyone in his arms

- money

well, whatever the reason, i'm sure that he's only pretending to love you... if you corner him with your questions, he probably will pretend to be more angry than you in order to buy time until he finds a good excuse to make it so that the blame falls on you... then you will agree to change yourself for the sake of your relation and the cycle will start again... even if someday he gets serious with you, don't expect that this would have changed, HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU TRULY...

 

[Kappy]

well, i don't know why he's still attaching himself to you, the following reasons may be possible:

- he's afraid that you're gonna commit suicide or something if he leaves you... so his conscience is preventing him from doing it
- he's keeping you for the hard days when he doesn't have anyone in his arms [ maybe ]

- money

well, whatever the reason, i'm sure that he's only pretending to love you... if you corner him with your questions, he probably will pretend to be more angry than you in order to buy time until he finds a good excuse to make it so that the blame falls on you... then you will agree to change yourself for the sake of your relation and the cycle will start again... even if someday he gets serious with you, don't expect that this would have changed, HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU TRULY...

I just made a new msn so I can't see his stupid statuses anymore.

 

[Redmantle]

Kappy is it? He's just a pathetic excuse of a boy trying to be a man... I mean Kappy you know the answer yourself, you really don't need anyone to state it for you, what you need is a push to let go and move on which really is very hard. But I mean cmon its better to cry for a month than suffer for how long - you may never know if you hold on to him and his idiotic ideals. I'm sure you deserve better than that. Everyone does.....

 

[BluePhenix]

Kappy is it? He's just a pathetic excuse of a boy trying to be a man... I mean Kappy you know the answer yourself, you really don't need anyone to state it for you, what you need is a push to let go and move on which really is very hard. But I mean cmon its better to cry for a month than suffer for how long - you may never know if you hold on to him and his idiotic ideals. I'm sure you deserve better than that. Everyone does.....

Listen to her Kappy...

 

[Kappy]

Kappy is it? He's just a pathetic excuse of a boy trying to be a man... I mean Kappy you know the answer yourself, you really don't need anyone to state it for you, what you need is a push to let go and move on which really is very hard. But I mean cmon its better to cry for a month than suffer for how long - you may never know if you hold on to him and his idiotic ideals. I'm sure you deserve better than that. Everyone does.....

I'm extremely persistent so if he wants to earn his full love for me I would try and even if I say I'm giving up I still don't cause there's always something that lears me back to him. And my heart is like 'I can't give up I refuse to cause he's the one I love and I want him back so much and maybe I really do have to work my way back to his heart..' but then my head is like ' get over yourself girl he doesn't want you. You see how happy he is with that bitch of his. He don't really love you. He's only playing mind games. Just get over it. You'll find someone better for you but right now just get away...cause you being this stress is giving me a headach and I'm hungry.'

Ugh... I'm really hungry right now, but I don't feel like getting up. You guys know that at least 20 people including him at one point told me to get over him? Then he changed his mind and was like don't. It's back and fourth with him. For 2 months he was being and ******* to me just to be one, but then I made him stop. to be brutally honest I just need someone to get my feelings out on right about now. Then I could get away.