Hey i have a serious question

[-Yard-]

i can't really choose "one"

my sister who was my best friend and my closest sibling became an alcoholic and a drug adict and is starting to actually go mental.
but at least she's 21 and doesnt live with me...

my niece died after 26 hrs of life and i didn't get the chance to see her when she was alive.

 

[Water Ninja]

I suffered from a broken heart, I thought I'd never get over it. (seriously, you think you will never get over it) took me 5 months though...

 

[shadedcrow]

Since im feeling emo right now im gonna be a b**** and ask you guys..whats the worst thing that ever happened to you?
forexplosing a loved one)
if you dont want to reply its perfectly understandable.

Watched someone slowly and painfully die of lung cancer. Watched another person I knew personaly again die slowly of lung cancer. This one his skin changed colors, green, yellow,gray, he would get healthy start smoking pot again, or do extasy and would have to go to the hospital and the cycle would continue till his body couldn't recover.

Knew some drunks/alcoholics who died because of their disease. Well they tried to stop and went into detox had a siezure crashed his car and died in the hospital.

2 Grandparents went peacefuly because of age. Both 90ish.

What ever it is your going through I wish you the best.

 

[Tsukoyomi13]

Again im so sorry for your losses guys.

 

[shadedcrow]

A persons life cant change if your at full capacity. If you knew 300 people and saw them and intreacted with them on a constant basis. Your life would be pretty full but if someone moves on, dosnet mean you have to forget about them or the memories you share, and it makes room for new people to be involved in your life and for you to get to know.


Like when a grandparent passes away, but a new baby in the family is born. Now think about how much more at max capacity life would be if no one passed away or passed away vary rarely while babies are being pooted out. It would be madness taking care of the elders, talking to your friends, being involved with family(mom dad bros and sisters) then you have intractions with aunts uncles and cousins, it would be crazy. Life has its own set of balances it uses, to keep things going.

Not that I want anyone to think its cool when people die, or I'm insensitve. But were all starting to die from the moment were born. Death is the only thing that is an absolute in life. Kind of cold but its conforting in its own way. If you have a idology system that talks about the afterlife then you know its just a door opeing to it and maybey everyone will be reunited next time.

Last post, but as Tsukoyomi13, sorry for any losses.

 

[Escorpiius]

This thread is so sad

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[Tsukoyomi13]

A persons life cant change if your at full capacity. If you knew 300 people and saw them and intreacted with them on a constant basis. Your life would be pretty full but if someone moves on, dosnet mean you have to forget about them or the memories you share, and it makes room for new people to be involved in your life and for you to get to know.


Like when a grandparent passes away, but a new baby in the family is born. Now think about how much more at max capacity life would be if no one passed away or passed away vary rarely while babies are being pooted out. It would be madness taking care of the elders, talking to your friends, being involved with family(mom dad bros and sisters) then you have intractions with aunts uncles and cousins, it would be crazy. Life has its own set of balances it uses, to keep things going.

Not that I want anyone to think its cool when people die, or I'm insensitve. But were all starting to die from the moment were born. Death is the only thing that is an absolute in life. Kind of cold but its conforting in its own way. If you have a idology system that talks about the afterlife then you know its just a door opeing to it and maybey everyone will be reunited next time.

Last post, but as Tsukoyomi13, sorry for any losses.

Ur very considerate and understanding and I really like the fact that you so optimistic

But the fact is that the pain doesn't really go away.I know I'm being selfish but the place in your heart remains empty(maybe that's just my opinion).
That emptiness just becomes a hole in ones heart...
As you said about afterlife.I believe it.I want to believe it as hard as i can
.but when I don't the thought that I might never meet my family again just hurts so bad.I'm in at a time in my life that I'm just growing.I'm not stable.
I begin to doubt that there is a god looking after us.cause I remember praying so much before my mothers and brothers
Death but God didn't listen...I don't want to think like that at all but I sometimes do....

And those of you who posted after my previous post(I'm sorry for your losses)
That's all I can say right now :\

 

[TsukUy0m1]

Ur very considerate and understanding and I really like the fact that you so optimistic

But the fact is that the pain doesn't really go away.I know I'm being selfish but the place in your heart remains empty(maybe that's just my opinion).
That emptiness just becomes a hole in ones heart...
As you said about afterlife.I believe it.I want to believe it as hard as i can
.but when I don't the thought that I might never meet my family again just hurts so bad.I'm in at a time in my life that I'm just growing.I'm not stable.
I begin to doubt that there is a god looking after us.cause I remember praying so much before my mothers and brothers
Death but God didn't listen...I don't want to think like that at all but I sometimes do....

And those of you who posted after my previous post(I'm sorry for your losses)
That's all I can say right now :\

:flaw: :flaw: :flaw: :flaw: dude it will all be algood as long as you keep your head up

 

[Tsukoyomi13]

:flaw: :flaw: :flaw: :flaw: dude it will all be algood as long as you keep your head up

haha

 

[Ryūjin]

Well , i've lost like 5 loved ones already , including gfs so i don't think i will be saying anymore in that area T.T

My worst experience in life is when i'm not able to cheer up my beloved gf when she's sad or crying , and when she is mad at me i feel like i'm going to die if she didn't forgive me right away....

Some guys of you may find this a bit unusuall , but to me the sadness of my gf is way more worse to me than anything else , even the death of a member in the family....

 

[Tsukoyomi13]

Well , i've lost like 5 loved ones already , including gfs so i don't think i will be saying anymore in that area T.T

My worst experience in life is when i'm not able to cheer up my beloved gf when she's sad or crying , and when she is mad at me i feel like i'm going to die if she didn't forgive me right away....

Some guys of you may find this a bit unusuall , but to me the sadness of my gf is way more worse to me than anything else , even the death of a member in the family....

1)im sorry for your losses..
2)guess thats how it is when you love someone...=/

 

[Pervyy]

Well , i've lost like 5 loved ones already , including gfs so i don't think i will be saying anymore in that area T.T

My worst experience in life is when i'm not able to cheer up my beloved gf when she's sad or crying , and when she is mad at me i feel like i'm going to die if she didn't forgive me right away....

Some guys of you may find this a bit unusuall , but to me the sadness of my gf is way more worse to me than anything else , even the death of a member in the family....

Sadness and pain of loved ones is the worst thing to me, like if anyone upsets my sister i will do anything to make that person pay. And i understand how ya feel. =/

 

[Ryūjin]

1)im sorry for your losses..
2)guess thats how it is when you love someone...=/

Sadness and pain of loved ones is the worst thing to me, like if anyone upsets my sister i will do anything to make that person pay. And i understand how ya feel. =/

Thanks guys

 

[shadedcrow]

Ur very considerate and understanding and I really like the fact that you so optimistic

But the fact is that the pain doesn't really go away.I know I'm being selfish but the place in your heart remains empty(maybe that's just my opinion).
That emptiness just becomes a hole in ones heart...
As you said about afterlife.I believe it.I want to believe it as hard as i can
.but when I don't the thought that I might never meet my family again just hurts so bad.I'm in at a time in my life that I'm just growing.I'm not stable.
I begin to doubt that there is a god looking after us.cause I remember praying so much before my mothers and brothers
Death but God didn't listen...I don't want to think like that at all but I sometimes do....

And those of you who posted after my previous post(I'm sorry for your losses)
That's all I can say right now :\

Actually I'm a blantant pecimist/realist.

No one makes you hold on to pain, other than yourself.

You dont have to replace those you lost (as in you cant) But no one will keep that empty space in your hart and soul other than you by being distant, and defensive(my gf does this all the time). Thats the wierd shit about the universe we dont know why shit happens but it does and its always going to work out. Sometimes people like to fight the world and resist the ways of life and the rules and actions of the universe, but it makes life way harder than it has to be.

Lastly you said your still growing, no one but you can rember the good times and thoughts of those you know the way you do. Because no one on the planet will experence life the way you do because their not you. Existing is diffrent than liveing life.

Manga example Sauskes exists in the manga( he has the hole in his hart ect) but so does Naruto but he lives life and loves and shares himself with those around him and can be said to truely living not just existing.

You'll work this out and come out on top only if you choose to every day of your life. Celebrate your life and the lifes of those you know. And in time you can look back and see those who have come into your life as others left. Takes a lot of time but its kind of trippy and mind effing when you do and can see it.

 

[Tsukoyomi13]

ur right but naruto doesnt know sasukes pain...he was always alone...naruto wasnt...and not to be dramatic but thats one of the reason why i like sasuke...i know what he goes through and if i was in his place im sure i wouldve done the same thing.(evil things etc )
but for the rest part ur right and thanks for the support

 

[Trinky]

All the experiences that I thought were the worst in my life just seem trivial to me now. The whole broken heart stuff, for example. At the time it was excruciating, but now it seems like it never really mattered.

Plus a lot of the stuff people have posted on this thread are far worse D:

I suppose if I had to choose something, it would be when I was pushed out of my group of friends when I was about 14. Doesn't sound like much, but it hurt a lot ~_~

 

[Pervyy]

All the experiences that I thought were the worst in my life just seem trivial to me now. The whole broken heart stuff, for example. At the time it was excruciating, but now it seems like it never really mattered.

Plus a lot of the stuff people have posted on this thread are far worse D:

I suppose if I had to choose something, it would be when I was pushed out of my group of friends when I was about 14. Doesn't sound like much, but it hurt a lot ~_~

That doesnt seem trivial, the feeling of loss is still a great one no matter in which way you lose the people...

 

[Trinky]

That doesnt seem trivial, the feeling of loss is still a great one no matter in which way you lose the people...

Compared to losing a mother, or a brother, it seems trivial xD

It's just that I was left with nobody through most of my school years, I've always been a bit of a loner ;P

 

[Pervyy]

Compared to losing a mother, or a brother, it seems trivial xD

It's just that I was left with nobody through most of my school years, I've always been a bit of a loner ;P

So you still lost someone/some people close to you, still sucks =/

I beent through friend dying, losing friends, heartbroken and they all suck just as bad IMO =/

 

[shadedcrow]

ur right but naruto doesnt know sasukes pain...he was always alone...naruto wasnt...and not to be dramatic but thats one of the reason why i like sasuke...i know what he goes through and if i was in his place im sure i wouldve done the same thing.(evil things etc )
but for the rest part ur right and thanks for the support

No one will expierence anything the way another does, the best we can do as humans is to try and understand what its like, and try and relate the best we can with out being in the exact same boat. Naruto has never walked in on Negato killing his parents, so even though his pain is similar its not the same. But Naruto is a good friend and trys to understand people and be empathetic to their situations.

And your welcome dude. There are a few good books, not sure if their your style, but I'll sugest them none the less, 1st being the joy of living by some buhadist dude, too lazy to go get it and tell you his name but if you see it you'll know. (its about 200 pgs but full of lessons and storys that are pretty good paraboles), and also The Master Key System, (really dry and somewhat factual about how the information is given but still rich and has exercises as well)

Compared to losing a mother, or a brother, it seems trivial xD

It's just that I was left with nobody through most of my school years, I've always been a bit of a loner ;P

Your not alone there are people here and there that you can talk to, not that you want to or have to. But the options there. And sorry about your loss. Best I can relate to that(and Ive never said this to anyone) is there was this girl I liked back in 1st grade, and in my church at the time, she liked me but her family was on a trip dad rolled their car and she passed away at the scene of the accident. She was kind of my first friend I ever had, and even though I was a kid I can say now that I loved her. And after she died I was a loner pretty much through most my child hood, had maybe 2 or 3 friends that I would see not in school, and was and still am pretty much a loner. Have a gf but I live inside my head, not many people I know do except one friend I made in jr high I know that kat inside and out, and know that he speaks even when hes silent. Most people just dont or dont know how to read him.

Would you mind taking and posting on my MBTI thread, a few threads down in this forum please? Dont have to but would like to see your posts there and the results?

Lastly when did you change your sig? Yesterday I think it said beakutsuki?? looks nice none the less.