No one is replacing *** with gender, people are distinguishing them. Hell, in two sentences right before your strawman, YOU distinguish between *** and gender, and continue to do so within this post. That is non-binary.
You are trying to insist that there is some way that people can relate to each other aside from those of male and female. There is not.
I'll address down below, since you're just making the same point in the second next quote.
Some people require repetition in order to understand things. In your case, a baseball bat is a required supplement.
Gender is not independent on *** because *** is biological and gender is socially and psychologically derived. *** is fixed, and cannot be changed. Gender is not, and can change with time and choice.
Incorrect. Gender is underwritten by ***. The problem is that "non-binary" people believe that women can, somehow, be something other than a woman. Or that men can, somehow, be something other than men. There is no major difference between a lesbian and a normal woman. Nothing so great as to require a completely different understanding of the person.
Every lesbian who I've had as a friend ultimately developed weird-romantic-ish feelings for me... why? Because I treated them like the women they were, as a man should treat women. They aren't "one of the dudes" - and I never talked to them as though they were. The reason they were lesbians came from a multitude of factors - but ultimately come down to an insecurity around men. The role of men as it relates to women is to provide security/support at its most fundamental level. Make problems for women go away, and they generally want you to stick around.
The way women relate to other women, the way men relate to other men - there isn't such a thing as non-binary. Not every interaction between men and women has to do with sexual preference.
This is where you are getting confused. *** is not about the ACT of ***. The way I treat a woman isn't necessarily because I do or don't want to put my dick in her, to put it bluntly. Gender is not about the ACT of choosing a mate. It is about how the sexes relate to each other and will vary somewhat by culture, but have very strong trends across cultures BECAUSE it is underwritten by ***.
Hence, the "Hyper-sexualization" of society. By making gender about the ACT of ***, and trying to insist that a man's decision to take it up the butt somehow changes how his biology impacts his thoughts and relation towards others... is just absurd, which is what you are doing - that a man can somehow choose to be some other gender by his preferential act of ***, thereby changing how his physiology works and how he relates to other people.
The only people who really have much of an argument, there, are those who go through the extremes of hormone replacement therapies and the like... but even then, it's only a tiny slice of an argument. If I were to castrate myself and try to pump my body full of estrogen, it isn't likely to change the distinctions of my neurology and other aspects that make me male. I would just get more cutaneous fat and my muscle mass would change composition, to some degree.
Likewise with a woman who tries to pump testosterone in order to become more masculine. It will change some things, but in most of the ways that count, she's still going to think and act like a woman. The genuine cases where this is not the case are extremely rare, and are often the proverbial exceptions proving the rule.
Uhhh there is no pretending. In your example of "put a group of men in front of women and they'll start trying to impress her more than each other," that only works for straight men. There are people, such as gay men, asexual men, or even something as simple as men in a relationship that would betray your example.
There is no research to support this, however, what research is there suggests it is a physiological response.
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(study on birds - this is animal-wide).
If you have any kind of data to suggest that homosexual men differ in this category, then it would be interesting to review.
Your example is also fucked on the fact that different genders can have the same effect depending on the man. For example, one man will see a feminine woman, and that gets him going. Another will see a masculine woman, and that will get him going, while they would have no interest if they switched places.
This is not what the research shows. Testosterone levels generally increase in men when they come into the presence of a woman. While there are likely 'grades' of response, the notion that the
choice to be homosexual is going to alter men's physiological response ....
Wait... is it a choice? Now, suddenly, homosexuality is a choice. Gender is a choice. It is this fluid thing that we can swing through like monkeys in the tree.
This is why *** is associated with gender, but also independent. Not only will you find people of the same *** and different gender, but different combinations of *** and gender mean different things to people, and can be irrelevant to others.
Sorry, kiddo. If you've got boobs and a vagina, then you're a woman. If you've got boobs and a dick, you need to hit the gym. If you've got a wang between your legs, you're a man. The only "non-binary" position is someone who is neither man, nor woman, but insane and should be handled as someone who needs psychological and possibly medical care.
Even though the tom-boy may jump out there into the mud pit with the rest of the dudes - she's still a girl. She's going to bruise more easily, she's not going to have the same peak strength. Her bones are going to break easier, and her instincts will still look for someone to provide security for her. Exactly what that security means and what form it takes - that's the "spectrum."
Nope. It means that people can go "I am a man, but I want to act feminine." Or, "I am a woman, but I want to act masculine." Or, "I am a man, but I want to act masculine when I feel like acting masculine, and I want to act feminine when I feel like acting feminine." And anywhere in between. Non-binarism doesn't deny the concept of biological ***, or deny that a person is their biological ***, it just means a person's identity is not JUST their biological ***.
And here is where we are getting off in the world of insanity. Is a man choosing to be a hair-dresser a man who is choosing to act feminine? Is a man choosing to act feminine when he turns into "chatty cathy" with his friends?
Is a woman choosing to a "act masculine" when she goes to the gym? Is she choosing to "act masculine" when she tells her room mate to shut up so she can focus on her studies?
The things we choose to do are not inherently masculine or feminine, even if the things we choose to do pattern according to our ***. However, we are always doing those things as men or as women, and in a world where there are other men and women present. This idea that we need to label actions/choices as masculine feminine and then identify people as a unique gender because of what things they choose to be more masculine/feminine about .... and when.... is just absurd.
It's creating much to-do over nothing.
Which is precisely what your kind love to do.