Thoughts on Dating Someone with Kids

[Edward Snowden]

You sir,are retarded and lack any signs of common sense and lack all critical thought.

What a hypocrite. You first say that it's retarded to base a person's character on assumptions, and now you're making assumptions about me just by my posts on the internet, but you get triggered when I supposedly make "assumptions" about a person with a kid?
Claps slowly

 

[kimb]

No it really isn't.

Character and your actions dictate who you are and how others act in response.
Basing someones value on whether they have kids and are in a relationship with someone else is just baseless judgement otherwise known as an assumption.A very ignorant and crass assumption at that.

You ignore the history of the two who conceived the children and filter your own bias and stereotypes to fill in for the stuff you don't know about them and that makes you ridiculous.

Given your picture and the little quote above the Like/Dislike option leads me to believe your some type of pseudo-intellectual.

It exhibits the person's character that she is careless and irresponsible.

Let's say she was irresponsible when she was younger, but she's grown as a person and matured into a responsible adult who's self-aware of her situation. What then?

 

[Edward Snowden]

Here comes the feminazi

Here comes the ban hammer.

 

[Edward Snowden]

Let's say she was irresponsible when she was younger, but she's grown as a person and matured into a responsible adult who's self-aware of her situation. What then?

Although, the chances of this happening are very slim and she is just probably LARPing as an innocent damsel, you can go for it if you're damn sure about it. I mean, do your research about her past and possibly talk to her ex and baby's daddy about her.

IDK why are you so obsessed with dating her, but just know that it'll be a really pain in the ass if you get tricked.

It's fine if it's just a fling, though.

 

[Bad Touch Yakushi]

Some people on this thread have a terrible attitude to this.

This happens all the time. "Someone elses' mistake?" By this logic, these kids don't deserve or get fathers. Treating kids like mistakes is disgusting and there's such little stigma in the real mature world for 'step-dads' and 'step-mums'.

That's getting ahead of yourself though, just know it's a socially accepted role that makes next to no real difference for dating. If you're happy with it, then you make it work. Just know this and be familiar before making any kind of further commitment.

 

[CosmicPlayground]

What a hypocrite. You first say that it's retarded to base a person's character on assumptions, and now you're making assumptions about me just by my posts on the internet, but you get triggered when I supposedly make "assumptions" about a person with a kid?
Claps slowly

Ill reply just one more time because it seems like you really need to be enlightened.
1.I am not heated.
2.I say you are retarded based on your actions and your words.Remember that thing i said about not making baseless assumptions but on what people say or do ? {Their character}
3. You made claim that having children and not being with the other person who bore that child is an indication of irresponsibility and their lack of character lol You know nothing of the history between the two people you made a baseless claim and persist on standing by your baseless claims.

It means you disregard facts or learning anything before commenting on something.That shows a sign of stupidity ergo me calling you retarded.

Clearly you can type so you are not that mentally deficient.
You certainly aren't winning any awards in critical thinking that much is certain.

I don't want to be that guy that argues all day plus i have to go work so goodbye and good luck with all that.

 

[Styles]

I would do it if i liked/loved the girl.

 

[BenjerminGaye]

Some people on this thread have a terrible attitude to this.

This happens all the time. "Someone elses' mistake?" By this logic, these kids don't deserve or get fathers. Treating kids like mistakes is disgusting and there's such little stigma in the real mature world for 'step-dads' and 'step-mums'.

That's getting ahead of yourself though, just know it's a socially accepted role that makes next to no real difference for dating. If you're happy with it, then you make it work. Just know this and be familiar before making any kind of further commitment.

sins of the father is a real thing tho.

 

[Deadlift]

Here comes the ban hammer.

One plus one man is not equal to six

 

[Edward Snowden]

Ill reply just one more time because it seems like you really need to be enlightened.
1.I am not heated.
2.I say you are retarded based on your actions and your words.Remember that thing i said about not making baseless assumptions but on what people say or do ? {Their character}
3. You made claim that having children and not being with the other person who bore that child is an indication of irresponsibility and their lack of character lol You know nothing of the history between the two people you made a baseless claim and persist on standing by your baseless claims.

It means you disregard facts or learning anything before commenting on something.That shows a sign of stupidity ergo me calling you retarded.

Clearly you can type so you are not that mentally deficient.
You certainly aren't winning any awards in critical thinking that much is certain.

Okay, first of all, if my opinions are different than yours, doesn't mean they're wrong.

You're basically approaching it the way of "innocent until proven guilty", which I disagree with.
And yes, I make assumptions like that because it's the general rule. So, if she breaks that rule and comes out clean, then it's fine.

That's how I approach it, and your approach is different, which I disagree with, but you have your right to speech and so do I.

 

[Edward Snowden]

One plus one man is not equal to six

Really? How did you infer it?

 

[CosmicPlayground]

Okay, first of all, if my opinions are different than yours, doesn't mean they're wrong.

You're basically approaching it the way of "innocent until proven guilty", which I disagree with.
And yes, I make assumptions like that because it's the general rule. So, if she breaks that rule and comes out clean, then it's fine.

That's how I approach it, and your approach is different, which I disagree with, but you have your right to speech and so do I.

We can have different opinions but, our opinions have nothing do with facts.
Truth is separate from opinions entirely.
And making assumptions about someones character based on being a single parent is wrong and has no basis in fact.
In the most simplest of terms you were wrong.That is all there is too it.Get over it.

We now live in a world of "alternative facts" and its destroying and semblance or responsibility for what we say and its sad.

 

[Bad Touch Yakushi]

sins of the father is a real thing tho.

It's not more important than kids getting a father figure / stability and single parents being ostracised for ever feeling love again.

 

[Deadlift]

Really? How did you infer it?

I discovered and defended it while I was pursuing my Ph.D in philosophy of mathematics

 

[Kanino]

I probably could, depending on how much I like her and the kid.



I love how you capitalized "to me," like that means people wouldn't be able to respond in disagreement or something.

Did to avoid debates lol still got responses, I don't know how else to make it clear.

OT: not extra baggage

 

[Punk Hazard]

Did to avoid debates lol still got responses, I don't know how else to make it clear.

OT: not extra baggage

The key to avoiding debates is to ignore replies, not to say "Don't reply."

 

[Edward Snowden]

We can have different opinions but, our opinions have nothing do with facts.
Truth is separate from opinions entirely.
And making assumptions about someones character based on being a single parent is wrong and has no basis in fact.
In the most simplest of terms you were wrong.That is all there is too it.Get over it.

We now live in a world of "alternative facts" and its destroying and semblance or responsibility for what we say and its sad.

What "facts" are you talking about? There's nothing factual about dating and relationships anyway. This is not math.

"Truth" is a subjective thing.

"Wrong" is only your opinion. Why can't you understand the fact that other people can have different opinions with legit reasons?

I discovered and defended it while I was pursuing my Ph.D in philosophy of mathematics

I'm looking forward at your thesis.

 

[Troyg39]

1. Make sure you actually want to share a person with a child(ren). If not keep it moving.

2. Make sure you know exactly how much time YOU are willing to be around/interact with the kid(s). Not every parent is looking for a co-parent in a partner, so just be real and focus on what you want so you don't **** shit up later

3. Make sure you know exactly what you want to be to the kid(s) and stick to it unless you ready for more. Don't start playing "daddy" if you know you ain't even tryna be the lil ***** best friend

4. You make it through the first three, gone head and tell your girl/dude to answer 1-3 based on your answers. Now you've been upfront with them and they can decide using the real of the situation.

 

[chopstickchakra]

What an inept and low class thing to say.Really stupid.

Having kids prior to a current relationship or potential relationship isn't a cornerstone of basing ones self worth and value.
You have a very sexist stereotypical male view of the relationships and women in general.Its not for you to judge someone based off a relationship you have no information on.

Relationships fail for many reasons. Irreconcilable differences,fidelity,overall trust issues,abuse psychically and mentally.
Maybe the father was a deadbeat and was never in the picture at all ?


OP: Children can makes things more intricate but they also add a whole new dynamic and that could help you two bond and grow even closer.Women with kids have priorities.Maybe she just wants a fling or maybe she doesn't have any preexisting notions of this becoming more than what it initially is but,its worth noting that with certain priorities trust,reliability and consistency are most important.Take things slow and really decide whether you want to be apart of this family before integrating yourself in case you decide to pull out.It is not like a relationship with a single childless woman.That is not meant to make you doubt yourself or the relationship its just something that comes with the territory.

How do you come to the conclusion he's sexist based off that response? Men can have the kid too and he's still saying a woman shouldn't get into a relationship with a single father, his post never said you shouldn't get with a girl who has a kid because it shows she's a bad person like you're implying.

 

[Kanino]

The key to avoiding debates is to ignore replies, not to say "Don't reply."

I do that all the time, I got cha