Thoughts on Dating Someone with Kids

[kimb]

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[Kanino]

TO ME it's stupid and you dealing with somebody else mistake.

 

[Everztar]

The most important thing is to take it slow. REALLY REALLY get to know the other part really well before getting involved and calling it a "relationship". Don't move together for atleast 1-2 years. Make sure that if you're going to move in with the other part, it's going to last and it's NOT going to be anything like her/his previous relationship.

You must understand that you're not just getting into a relationship with the parent, but you'll also be a part of the kids lives.
Understand that if you get another child with this man/woman YOU MUST ALWAYS understand that you can't love your own kid more than the other bonus-kids. EVERY KID should be treated equal, ALWAYS.

 

[BenjerminGaye]

don't.

 

[CosmicPlayground]

TO ME it's stupid and you dealing with somebody else mistake.

What an inept and low class thing to say.Really stupid.

Having kids prior to a current relationship or potential relationship isn't a cornerstone of basing ones self worth and value.
You have a very sexist stereotypical male view of the relationships and women in general.Its not for you to judge someone based off a relationship you have no information on.

Relationships fail for many reasons. Irreconcilable differences,fidelity,overall trust issues,abuse psychically and mentally.
Maybe the father was a deadbeat and was never in the picture at all ?


OP: Children can makes things more intricate but they also add a whole new dynamic and that could help you two bond and grow even closer.Women with kids have priorities.Maybe she just wants a fling or maybe she doesn't have any preexisting notions of this becoming more than what it initially is but,its worth noting that with certain priorities trust,reliability and consistency are most important.Take things slow and really decide whether you want to be apart of this family before integrating yourself in case you decide to pull out.It is not like a relationship with a single childless woman.That is not meant to make you doubt yourself or the relationship its just something that comes with the territory.

 

[BenjerminGaye]

What an inept and low class thing to say.Really stupid.

Having kids prior to a current relationship or potential relationship isn't a cornerstone of basing ones self worth and value.
You have a very sexist stereotypical male view of the relationships and women in general.Its not for you to judge someone based off a relationship you have no information on.

Relationships fail for many reasons. Irreconcilable differences,fidelity,overall trust issues,abuse psychically and mentally.
Maybe the father was a deadbeat and was never in the picture at all ?


OP: Children can makes things more intricate but they also add a whole new dynamic and that could help you two bond and grow even closer.Women with kids have priorities.Maybe she just wants a fling or maybe she doesn't have any preexisting notions of this becoming more than what it initially is but,its worth noting that with certain priorities trust,reliability and consistency are most important.Take things slow and really decide whether you want to be apart of this family before integrating yourself in case you decide to pull out.It is not like a relationship with a single childless woman.That is not meant to make you doubt yourself or the relationship its just something that comes with the territory.

why are you assuming it's a woman with kids?
Are single fathers not a thing?

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[Flakez]

Not a big fan of kids, so I personally would avoid that.

 

[CosmicPlayground]

why are you assuming it's a woman with kids?
Are single fathers not a thing?

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Did i say they don't exist ?
I never recall saying or implying as much.
Nevertheless if the one with kids does turn out to be male the logic still applies O:

 

[BenjerminGaye]

Did i say they don't exist ?
I never recall saying or implying as much.
Nevertheless if the one with kids does turn out to be male the logic still applies.

What an inept and low class thing to say.Really stupid.

Having kids prior to a current relationship or potential relationship isn't a cornerstone of basing ones self worth and value.
You have a very sexist stereotypical male view of the relationships and women in general.Its not for you to judge someone based off a relationship you have no information on.

Relationships fail for many reasons. Irreconcilable differences,fidelity,overall trust issues,abuse psychically and mentally.
Maybe the father was a deadbeat and was never in the picture at all ?


OP: Children can makes things more intricate but they also add a whole new dynamic and that could help you two bond and grow even closer.Women with kids have priorities.Maybe she just wants a fling or maybe she doesn't have any preexisting notions of this becoming more than what it initially is but,its worth noting that with certain priorities trust,reliability and consistency are most important.Take things slow and really decide whether you want to be apart of this family before integrating yourself in case you decide to pull out.It is not like a relationship with a single childless woman.That is not meant to make you doubt yourself or the relationship its just something that comes with the territory.

didn't imply it at all.

OT: let me reiterate.

DONT.

 

[CosmicPlayground]

didn't imply it at all.

OT: let me reiterate.

DONT.

:kk: How insightful

 

[BenjerminGaye]

:kk: How insightful

Thanks i'm here till 6. :bdpf:

 

[CosmicPlayground]

Thanks i'm here till 6. :bdpf:

In that case i will have my way with you.
{I have to leave for work soon and won't be done until 6}

 

[BenjerminGaye]

In that case i will have my way with you.
{I have to leave for work soon and won't be done until 6}

You're into whips? kinky AF. ahem security, i may need an uber so this person doesn't attack my when my shift ends

 

[CosmicPlayground]

You're into whips? kinky AF. ahem security, i may need an uber so this person doesn't attack my when my shift ends

Security ? Cops ? Restraining orders ? Those are just impediments to a great time am i right ?lol

 

[BenjerminGaye]

Security ? Cops ? Restraining orders ? Those are just impediments to a great time am i right ?lol

only if there's a safe word. :glomp^^

 

[Deadlift]

The most important thing is to take it slow. REALLY REALLY get to know the other part really well before getting involved and calling it a "relationship". Don't move together for atleast 1-2 years. Make sure that if you're going to move in with the other part, it's going to last and it's NOT going to be anything like her/his previous relationship.

You must understand that you're not just getting into a relationship with the parent, but you'll also be a part of the kids lives.
Understand that if you get another child with this man/woman YOU MUST ALWAYS understand that you can't love your own kid more than the other bonus-kids. EVERY KID should be treated equal, ALWAYS.

Keep calm k

 

[System001]

What an inept and low class thing to say.Really stupid.

Having kids prior to a current relationship or potential relationship isn't a cornerstone of basing ones self worth and value.
You have a very sexist stereotypical male view of the relationships and women in general.Its not for you to judge someone based off a relationship you have no information on.

Relationships fail for many reasons. Irreconcilable differences,fidelity,overall trust issues,abuse psychically and mentally.
Maybe the father was a deadbeat and was never in the picture at all ?


OP: Children can makes things more intricate but they also add a whole new dynamic and that could help you two bond and grow even closer.Women with kids have priorities.Maybe she just wants a fling or maybe she doesn't have any preexisting notions of this becoming more than what it initially is but,its worth noting that with certain priorities trust,reliability and consistency are most important.Take things slow and really decide whether you want to be apart of this family before integrating yourself in case you decide to pull out.It is not like a relationship with a single childless woman.That is not meant to make you doubt yourself or the relationship its just something that comes with the territory.

LoL, since when did he specify gender? If anyone is sexist here it seems to be you.

 

[Sophie Ezra]

The most important thing is to take it slow. REALLY REALLY get to know the other part really well before getting involved and calling it a "relationship". Don't move together for atleast 1-2 years. Make sure that if you're going to move in with the other part, it's going to last and it's NOT going to be anything like her/his previous relationship.

You must understand that you're not just getting into a relationship with the parent, but you'll also be a part of the kids lives.
Understand that if you get another child with this man/woman YOU MUST ALWAYS understand that you can't love your own kid more than the other bonus-kids. EVERY KID should be treated equal, ALWAYS.

i agree with this

 

[CosmicPlayground]

LoL, since when did he specify gender? If anyone is sexist here it seems to be you.

Not mentioning gender wouldn't make me sexist.
Did i segregate the genders for no other reason then their *** ? No.
Could he possibly be Homosexual ? Yes.
Is it statistically a higher possibility that he is a heterosexual ? Yes indeed.
If anything i made an assumption.Not a sexist remark.You should learn the difference before making assumptions of your own.

 

[CosmicPlayground]

only if there's a safe word. :glomp^^

:flakez: