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123fire

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What does Naruto say? NEVER GIVE UP!!!!!
 

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1) smile more. Even if there's nothing funny out there, force yourself to smile. It changes your mindset in an incredible way
2) wear bright. Light red or green tee help to get happier in the short term
3) look at how successful people behave. For example, successful speakers have a "certain something" that makes others like them.
4) stay with people the most time you can.
5) find something you really like and want to replicate.
6) go out and be victorious
 

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Go out and be GREAT! stop dicking around and take charge of your life, shape it how you want it to be
 

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I am a little unclear how posting artwork on Deviant Art is your way of asking for help. Please clarify. That comment that was left for you was definitely good counsel. Our thoughts and behaviors are directly linked to our emotions (well the reuptake process of neurotransmitters...but anyway). Here is a brief clinical psychoeducational course:

Work on identifying rational and irrational thoughts, and then remove irrational. Rational: I haven't made any friends. I am feeling depressed. Irrational: I haven't made any friends because "I'm a loser and my life sucks."
--The reality is, it is hard (unless you live in a college dorm) to make friends when you don't leave your house and put yourself out into the community.

Thought Reframing. Original thought: I'm not in a relationship; I'm a horrible person. No one wants to date me or be my friend. Reframed thought: I'm definitely going through a slump now. Everyone has periods where they feel like that. This is a good time to learn to appreciate myself and if someone else sees my value, good for them, if not I will learn to enjoy my own company.

Stop Catastrophizing. Example: Everyone hates me. Everything is awful. I don't deserve any friends. -- Stray away from extreme thoughts; that "all or nothing" mentality.

Thought Stopping. Learn to recognize and quickly stop negative thoughts that impact your overall outlook on life; out of sight-out of mind.

Behaviors:
Start exercising - Exercise boosts mood, increases production of Serotonin and Dopamine. It also boosts self confidence. It gets you outside so you get some Vitamin D.

Start eating well - When we get depressed we tend to gravitate toward the salty foods, or sugary snacks and high fats. Cut those out of your diet. Your brain needs well balanced nutrients. It will create a cycle of poor energy/lethargy.

Force yourself to talk to new people - What's the worst that can happen? If they reject you, you don't have to reject you. That's on them.

Get outside! - The world doesn't revolve around us, and definitely not our room.

Force yourself to smile more - People who smile are found to be smarter, friendlier, and more attractive. If you don't feel like smiling, just do it. Practice smiling in the mirror. The more we smile, the better we feel.

Don't try to illicit sympathy - It's ok to have a pity party once in awhile...just don't make yourself a permanent party goer. People gravitate toward confidence. Work to act as if you are happy. The cliche saying goes, "Fake it till you make it." Also, people who have a "I'm a loser" sign over there head may attract selfish people who wish to take advantage of it.

There's a good beginning. Good luck! You get out of life what you put into it.

:pekoms2:

You'd make a great psychologist. Those are problems that i'm facing right now, every single one of them. And very good advice on every one of them. Thank you : )
 

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Is there something that you really love to do?
Do as much of it as you can and try to seek out others who share your passion.

If there's something that you've always wanted to learn, set a goal for it, and throw yourself into it.

Remember that beliefs create thoughts, and thoughts create emotions. If you're feeling bad, you obviously have some beliefs that prevent you from being your best and some thoughts that are probably untrue and illogical. Find a self-help book and work on these concepts. You'll be surprised how quickly your life will improve.

Good luck❤️
 
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