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Hey guys, wanted to share a little story here
or maybe a little experience that i gained
feel free to comment ... bad ones/ good ones i accept it


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if you love a girl real really much..you love her with all your heart..
after having crush on her for few months..you decided to tell her
about your feeling..and that day you make up a little story to tell her
but you didn't let her know that story is you and her...after she heard the story
you told her about your feeling...after that she didn't reply you anymore...
past 2 day..you text her again..she didn't reply... another day past...you again text her...she again didn't reply... not only you got rejected but you also got avoided ... your tear flow down...you heart hurts as much as like you got a car bang... your mind is all about her... you can't think other thing... you cant focus on other thing...

you already text her saying that can your both just be normal friend
like it use to be...but she also didn't reply :(

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Questions :
- Should i give up ?
- Should i continue to text her ?
- How am i going to solve the problem ?


i know you guys are from all kind of country..your answer and my thoughts
may not be the same but at least some of your comment might help me too...
maybe you guys might be thinking '' why don't go ask your friend for advise / help '' ... sorry guys.. maybe you guys just didn't get to know my friend
they are not those kind of... willing to help... they are great friend but when come to this kind to thing..no matter your twitter/blogger/facebook wrote how you feel....feeling dam sad or something..they won't bother to even text you like '' are you okay ? '' they just pretend nothing happen...



- i really feeling terrible sad now
- i don't know what to do
- i don't wish to give up
- i don't wish to get avoided by her
- i really wish to text her
- i really wish we can text everyday like we used to be...
- i really love her :(
 

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Hey guys, wanted to share a little story here
or maybe a little experience that i gained
feel free to comment ... bad ones/ good ones i accept it
Give her a week or two, spend some time with some friends have some fun, mend your broken heart or something.
After maybe two-three weeks, ask her whats up, and why she didn't reply, tell her to give it to you straight, don't expect much though, cause this doesn't sound very good, but don't lose hope either, and don't be pushy and desperate.
 

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Hey guys, wanted to share a little story here
or maybe a little experience that i gained
feel free to comment ... bad ones/ good ones i accept it


===============================================
if you love a girl real really much..you love her with all your heart..
after having crush on her for few months..you decided to tell her
about your feeling..and that day you make up a little story to tell her
but you didn't let her know that story is you and her...after she heard the story
you told her about your feeling...after that she didn't reply you anymore...
past 2 day..you text her again..she didn't reply... another day past...you again text her...she again didn't reply... not only you got rejected but you also got avoided ... your tear flow down...you heart hurts as much as like you got a car bang... your mind is all about her... you can't think other thing... you cant focus on other thing...

you already text her saying that can your both just be normal friend
like it use to be...but she also didn't reply :(

================================================

Questions :
- Should i give up ?
- Should i continue to text her ?
- How am i going to solve the problem ?


i know you guys are from all kind of country..your answer and my thoughts
may not be the same but at least some of your comment might help me too...
maybe you guys might be thinking '' why don't go ask your friend for advise / help '' ... sorry guys.. maybe you guys just didn't get to know my friend
they are not those kind of... willing to help... they are great friend but when come to this kind to thing..no matter your twitter/blogger/facebook wrote how you feel....feeling dam sad or something..they won't bother to even text you like '' are you okay ? '' they just pretend nothing happen...



- i really feeling terrible sad now
- i don't know what to do
- i don't wish to give up
- i don't wish to get avoided by her
- i really wish to text her
- i really wish we can text everyday like we used to be...
- i really love her :(
Fap it. Will take your mind off things.
 

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Give her a week or two, spend some time with some friends have some fun, mend your broken heart or something.
After maybe two-three weeks, ask her whats up, and why she didn't reply, tell her to give it to you straight, don't expect much though, cause this doesn't sound very good, but don't lose hope either, and don't be pushy and desperate.
Thanks for your comment Mugiware :)
she just replied my text tho...and i asked her why she didn't reply
she said she was busy...but i don't think that was real
because however you are busy...at least maybe reply onces right ?
all i hope is able to chat with her everyday....
i won't give up on her still :)


Fap it. Will take your mind off things.
before she replys me, i try lots of thing to take my mind off
like playing game, hanging out with friends...
it doesn't really help... for example i play a online game for like half/hour
suddenly i think of it...then my mood will goooo downnn all the way...
same as hanging out... :)




I love this girl very much, i don't wish to give up now
yes, i may fail the first time but when there's a time for second
i will do it again :) thanks for your comment friends :D
actually i felt much better after she replied me tho :)
 

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Thanks for your comment Mugiware :)
she just replied my text tho...and i asked her why she didn't reply
she said she was busy...but i don't think that was real
because however you are busy...at least maybe reply onces right ?
all i hope is able to chat with her everyday....
i won't give up on her still :)




before she replys me, i try lots of thing to take my mind off
like playing game, hanging out with friends...
it doesn't really help... for example i play a online game for like half/hour
suddenly i think of it...then my mood will goooo downnn all the way...
same as hanging out... :)




I love this girl very much, i don't wish to give up now
yes, i may fail the first time but when there's a time for second
i will do it again :) thanks for your comment friends :D
actually i felt much better after she replied me tho :)
First love or ? :p
Again, as I said her being "busy" is prolly just bunch of lies, she didn't know what to reply.
Don't be pushy, give her some space.
 

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First love or ? :p
Again, as I said her being "busy" is prolly just bunch of lies, she didn't know what to reply.
Don't be pushy, give her some space.
I don't know if this first love or something o_O hehe
but i have this ... strong feeling...keeping me up..asking me not to stop
or give up on her... i don't know why... just this feeling :)

yeah...prolly she just don't know what to reply...
hmmm i don't know if i'm pushy or not
but after she reply me...i just asked if we still can chat like we used
to be..and she said okay then i stopped there...for the rest of the days
i try not to text alot hehe :)
but if thing gets better..maybe i will wish to have a longer chat hehe :)
 

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hah, it happend to friend of mine, but they actualy were together and had smth for 2 weeks, than one day she started to ignor him, avoid and shitt, best thing to do is not embrace urself and just FORGET IT, if girl acts like that theres nothing u can do about it, more u text more she pisses off, it wont do any good, maybe in future u meet her somewhere on party or park, u talk and who knows maybe things will go difrent :D what im saying is actualy confirmed by girls, (as soon as u feel that girls starts to avoid u or act weard GIVE HER SOME FREE SPACE ;))

and i agree with mugi, but again in 2 weeks, i bet nothing will change u just get embraced again
 

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i know how you feel.but if you will listen to me,i tell you that don't give a damm about her.she left you cuz she was not suited to you. you think that she was not meant to be with .i know its not too easy to do that

i too had suffered the same case.but now the time changed for
in past i ran for her and now she is.

just make your mind feel you haven't known her ,sty almost alltime with your friends talk about other things eventually you will forget her.

this is just my thought i hope it hasn't hurt you my friend.

advise:don't run for the cow that tries to jump from the :cliff.:)
 

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hah, it happend to friend of mine, but they actualy were together and had smth for 2 weeks, than one day she started to ignor him, avoid and shitt, best thing to do is not embrace urself and just FORGET IT, if girl acts like that theres nothing u can do about it, more u text more she pisses off, it wont do any good, maybe in future u meet her somewhere on party or park, u talk and who knows maybe things will go difrent :D what im saying is actualy confirmed by girls, (as soon as u feel that girls starts to avoid u or act weard GIVE HER SOME FREE SPACE ;))

and i agree with mugi, but again in 2 weeks, i bet nothing will change u just get embraced again
Right,Alright got that... :)
Thanks!
 

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Right,Alright got that... :)
Thanks!
but as advice
by steps, i wanna know if people will agree with me

1st: if u like a girl, alot. call her on date, do smth fun, cinema>food>walk (party is also good, but dont push on her)

wait 1-2 days, dont call first

2d: call her, cheap chat (how are you, whats up and blablabla:D nothing about feelings, just a friend talk)

analyse her reaction on her call

3d: next day: ask for her plans for tonight, if She?s free ask her out, if she accepts from this point u should start the flirt, couse just jumping on girl with love talk is abit WRONG :eek:
 

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Yes i love this girl lots...

1] last time, i did try asking her out for a moive but she turn it down tho

2] normally we don't chat on phone, we do it on facebook/msn or text

3] i guess it won't work now....as she know my feeling for her
it abit awkward if i ask her now maybe i have to wait longer before
asking her out again :)

thanks again ^^
 

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If she was mature enough, she would have a better reaction and would probably be a ''normal friend'' like you asked to. Or she would even answered you that she wanst ready or didnt like you and that you would both continue friends, but since none of those happened.. meh, i dont like those kind of girls >_> but that's just my opinion.
 

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Yes i love this girl lots...

1] last time, i did try asking her out for a moive but she turn it down tho

2] normally we don't chat on phone, we do it on facebook/msn or text

3] i guess it won't work now....as she know my feeling for her
it abit awkward if i ask her now maybe i have to wait longer before
asking her out again :)

thanks again ^^
She turning down the first date, means either that shes not interested, or busy, if you ask her when shes not busy, and she replies that she doesn't know, its bullshit, nobody doesn't have a few hours to spare...

2: Facebook/msn/texting doesn't work, tested it out many times...

3: Let her go, there are plenty of other fish in the ocean, learn from your mistakes, if you fall for someone and she aint there to catch you, get up again, dust yourself off and start climbing up again.
 

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i got song for the moment :D


my fav atm btw ^^


theres nowahere to run
no place u can go
no where u can hide
where u wont be found

theres no place on earth
where you could lay low
where ever you are
i will track you down

theres no way in hell
i will let you live :D:D
 
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If she was mature enough, she would have a better reaction and would probably be a ''normal friend'' like you asked to. Or she would even answered you that she wanst ready or didnt like you and that you would both continue friends, but since none of those happened.. meh, i dont like those kind of girls >_> but that's just my opinion.
Thanks for sharing your opinion sensei :)



She turning down the first date, means either that shes not interested, or busy, if you ask her when shes not busy, and she replies that she doesn't know, its bullshit, nobody doesn't have a few hours to spare...

2: Facebook/msn/texting doesn't work, tested it out many times...

3: Let her go, there are plenty of other fish in the ocean, learn from your mistakes, if you fall for someone and she aint there to catch you, get up again, dust yourself off and start climbing up again.
1] she turned the first date down because she said she celebrating one of her friend's birthday..so yeah maybe that the reason :)

2] i don't think we can chat by phone tho...quite weird haha...and i quite shy too... no choice got to talk by those... i dont think she will want to chat on phone with me either :)

3] i don't know why i can't go her go that easy....just this feel stopping me from doing that :(


i got song for the moment :D

thanks buddy :)

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i found out about something yesterday, to me.. it is the worst and most shocking thing i ever found out... as one of my female friend was same class+same school with her.. mostly i would ask my friend about her..etc..etc.. yesterday in msn.. my friend told me she saw my crush and guy holding hand [ i know who that guy, tho we are not friend ]
when my friend told me this.. i was stunned, shocked.. super sad...i don't know what to do.. she broke my heart by rejecting me already
she almost avoided me[tho she didn't] and now...this...soon my soul will be crushed :(
 

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thanks buddy :)

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i found out about something yesterday, to me.. it is the worst and most shocking thing i ever found out... as one of my female friend was same class+same school with her.. mostly i would ask my friend about her..etc..etc.. yesterday in msn.. my friend told me she saw my crush and guy holding hand [ i know who that guy, tho we are not friend ]
when my friend told me this.. i was stunned, shocked.. super sad...i don't know what to do.. she broke my heart by rejecting me already
she almost avoided me[tho she didn't] and now...this...soon my soul will be crushed :(
im sure you will get over her soon enough! where u from btw?
 

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Thanks for sharing your opinion sensei :)





1] she turned the first date down because she said she celebrating one of her friend's birthday..so yeah maybe that the reason :)

2] i don't think we can chat by phone tho...quite weird haha...and i quite shy too... no choice got to talk by those... i dont think she will want to chat on phone with me either :)

3] i don't know why i can't go her go that easy....just this feel stopping me from doing that :(





thanks buddy :)

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i found out about something yesterday, to me.. it is the worst and most shocking thing i ever found out... as one of my female friend was same class+same school with her.. mostly i would ask my friend about her..etc..etc.. yesterday in msn.. my friend told me she saw my crush and guy holding hand [ i know who that guy, tho we are not friend ]
when my friend told me this.. i was stunned, shocked.. super sad...i don't know what to do.. she broke my heart by rejecting me already
she almost avoided me[tho she didn't] and now...this...soon my soul will be crushed :(
Tell you female friend to come over and comfort you... :p
 

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You can not force someone to love you the way you love them. You are pretty much scaring her and that is why she is avoiding you. If any guy that I thought was just a friend started doing what you are doing.... Well, I will ignore them too. It is not that I am being a bitch but I just do not feel comfortable with the situation. If you keep doing it, then I feel that you are forcing the issue on me.

Just remember your love is nothing more then an infatuation with the person. Real love takes two to tango and takes a lot of getting to know a person. It takes actually spending everyday with that person and really getting to know all the flaws, all the interest, all the personality traits etc... of that person. Love and Infatuation can feel the same but they are different. Infatuation is something you feel first before you truly get to know someone.

I can understand why you would be upset but I suggest ignoring her and wait for her to contact you. If she does, ask her how she feels and if she feels uncomfortable asking, then ignore her again. Do not force the issue!
 

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You can not force someone to love you the way you love them. You are pretty much scaring her and that is why she is avoiding you. If any guy that I thought was just a friend started doing what you are doing.... Well, I will ignore them too. It is not that I am being a bitch but I just do not feel comfortable with the situation. If you keep doing it, then I feel that you are forcing the issue on me.

Just remember your love is nothing more then an infatuation with the person. Real love takes two to tango and takes a lot of getting to know a person. It takes actually spending everyday with that person and really getting to know all the flaws, all the interest, all the personality traits etc... of that person. Love and Infatuation can feel the same but they are different. Infatuation is something you feel first before you truly get to know someone.

I can understand why you would be upset but I suggest ignoring her and wait for her to contact you. If she does, ask her how she feels and if she feels uncomfortable asking, then ignore her again. Do not force the issue!
Thanks :) i will note that :D
thanks you very much for your advice + comment ~ :D
 
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