I'm in desperate need of advice! Help please!

[Pukkake Pokayo]

<div class="bbWrapper">Meanwhile adults b!tch about teens not making enough eye contact...</div>

 

[Obito the supreme jin]

Dude just ignore their stares. It always helps to get rid of problems if you start to ignore. Maybe you are to flashy in the streets, if it irritates you so much start wearing some clothes that make you look less noticable.

Honestly I haven't met anyone with a problem such as yours but it is always interesting to meet different people.

 

[The Work]

If a girl stares at you she wants the D.

Just give her the work man.

 

[Guardian of the Rain]

This has actually been bothering me too as of recently, and unlike some seem to think here, it's not nice in the slightest, and it is indeed bothersome. I don't know the reason why they stare, but I wouldn't go as far as to assume that it's because of my supposed good looks (not saying I don't have them, but unlike our dear OP here, I don't rate myself, and never really cared whether I look nice or not, and yes, I do realize that I sound like an ugly person pretending not to care), perhaps it's because I don't look like my fellow countrymen (?), either way, OP, if a random fgt or a real ****ing ugly girl stares at you, just imagine what you would do in a scenario where they're in an isolate room strapped to a table/chair whilst you have a large selection of blades to pick from, and of course, stare back at them while you imagine, they'll immediately look down and avoid eye contact. If it's a pretty girl, then you still stare back, but minus the whole imagination thing.

I'm both glad and disheartened that you share this particular issue. No one should have to be bothered by such stupid people who don't have any manners or decency. Aren't we all taught at a young age that staring is impolite?
And LMAO I usually imagine a similar scenario in my head, but it goes more like: myself and the starer are in a dark alley with no witnesses or cameras around, what will that coward do? lol sure as hell would learn some respect then
Yeah, I don't mean mug girls. I just look at them like "Could you stop f*cking looking at me please?" lol

Dude just ignore their stares. It always helps to get rid of problems if you start to ignore. Maybe you are to flashy in the streets, if it irritates you so much start wearing some clothes that make you look less noticable.

Honestly I haven't met anyone with a problem such as yours but it is always interesting to meet different people.

Yes, yes, I know that the mature thing to do is to ignore the stares. It's gonna be hard, but I'll try it.
And I thought that I was alone in this, but there's a CRAPLOAD of people who struggle with this, too. I was pleasantly surprised to find out.
And thanks very much for being tolerable of someone who's different from you You're one of the higher quality members on this site.

 

[Avani]

Sounds like a social anxiety related disorder where you are reading too much in other people's behaviour. People often look around them without meaning to stare at something or someone particular. They may glance at other people surrounding them to see where they are walking or what's going around them. Some one maybe just thinking if you look like a cousin, or the guy who works in their office and may look for half a second extra. Some of them have been looking in your direction just casually and it's your reaction that makes them really focus at you and if you are uncomfortable or reacting in some way it may end up prolonging that look for an extra second making you even more self conscious. Sometimes a foreigner where people are not used to tourists or differently dressed people may get extra attention as they draw attention of that uniqueness ( the new person in the locality). But that ultimately goes away ( for the most part) when it becomes a norm.

Have you ever tried observing people looking at OTHER people and seeing if they really do stare at you an abnormal amount? You may find that they look at you just as much as they look at anyone else.

( I am taking it for granted that if you have that much anxiety you have already checked out that you are not dressing up or acting in a way to attract that extra attention.)

 

[Xlad]

Knowing your ass, I can't really see you trolling over matters like this. It actually seems be a serious problem. I can only say to you to ignore them and do what you do. You may do things casually so they'll realize there isn't anything interesting to look at.

 

[Adam Driver]

-wear some shades
-stare at ass all day from a distance at your local mall.

 

[Guardian of the Rain]

Knowing your ass, I can't really see you trolling over matters like this. It actually seems be a serious problem. I can only say to you to ignore them and do what you do. You may do things casually so they'll realize there isn't anything interesting to look at.

Hahaha @bold are you very familiar with me as my old username, "ItachiLeeHatake"? I'm just not the trolling type
Thanks for the tip. I'll muster all the maturity I have and attempt to ignore the bastards.

Sounds like a social anxiety related disorder where you are reading too much in other people's behaviour. People walk and look around them without meaning to stare. They also may glance at other people surrounding them to see where they are walking or what's going around them. Some one maybe just thinking if you look like a cousin, or the guy who works in their office and may look for half a second extra. Some of them have been looking in your direction just casually and it's your reaction that makes them really focus at you and if you are uncomfortable or reacting in some way it may end up prolonging that look for an extra second making you even more self conscious.

Have you ever tried observing people looking at OTHER people and seeing if they really do stare at you an abnormal amount? You may find that they look at you just as much as they look at anyone else.

( I am taking it for granted that if you have that much anxiety you have already checked out that you are not dressing up or acting in a way to attract that extra attention.)

Yeah, I do have anxiety. Preferably, I'd prefer if people treated me as if I'm invisible. It's just so distracting when people have their stupid eyeballs on me as I'm deep in thought and minding my own business.

I'm know it doesn't have to me alone. Today was a wonderful day for me because after searching Google, I discovered that this problem drives MANY other people crazy as well. I'm not the only one who thinks it's impolite and indecent. You should Google "Why do people stare?" or "What to do when people stare at you?" You'd too be astounded by the amount of people who are bothered by this.

And I do agree with you that some people are actually aren't staring at me and it just seems like they are. However, it's plainly obvious that at least half of them--if not the majority--are just being rude.

Thanks for the input though!

 

[Desiigner]

In my long history on NB, I've only trolled once, and this sure as hell isn't another one. If you have no decent advice, then I prefer you just don't post, man.
Just because you can't relate, you think it doesn't make sense smh

I was expecting this kind of reply. Reading through this thread Ive noticed that I am not the only one who had that impression. Also, you cant tell if I relate to this or not. You were just describing yourself so much that I got the impression youd want to get comments about your looks, not the problem itself.

 

[Guardian of the Rain]

-wear some shades
-stare at ass all day from a distance at your local mall.

lol wish I could wear shades in the warehouse. This problem mostly occurs at my job
I stare at asses. Since it's obviously the girl's behind and she doesn't see me, I don't think it's rude in the same way I'm accusing people of haha

I was expecting this kind of reply. Reading through this thread Ive noticed that I am not the only one who had that impression. Also, you cant tell if I relate to this or not. You were just describing yourself so much that I got the impression youd want to get comments about your looks, not the problem itself.

I just felt the need to let you guys know that I'm decent looking because if I didn't, this thread likely would've went like this:
Me: Why do people stare at me so much?
You guys: Maybe they think you're attractive
-_-
So I wanted to prevent receiving that answer

 

[Guardian of the Rain]

Struck a nerve, have I? Mr. Irresistable. He's more intelligent than every user as well as having the superior the looks. I didn't even call you out on any of the bs in your post before but now I can't help myself.

My God you're making yourself sound even more pretentious. "They can't help their faults." XD

I wasn't saying you were depressed but what you're experiencing at the level you are, is often a side effect of a mental illness. Just saying. :th:

Staring for no reason is impolite, especially if you're looking at something abnormal/alien to you like a kid seeing a disabled person for the first time. Are you sure your body language is conveying the message you think it is? Because if it was people would think "What's his frickin' problem" and stop staring. Unless you look at them so menacingly they're afraid you might stab them

You know you're no goblin looking mofo so why care?

Please kill it with the whole looks thing. You guys misunderstood my post.

And if you're correct in saying that I have some form of mental illness, then it's sure as hell is a minor and common one. As I've told other members, there's an abundance of people you can find online who are similar to me regarding this topic.

Staring for no apparent reason is EXACTLY what bothers me lol
I'm not looking at them, I don't dress funny, I don't look funny, I don't walk funny, I don't smell funny...like WTF?! lol
And yes, I give dudes a very malicious glare in return haha wish I didn't have to though, but like little kids say "He started it!"

But thanks anyway. You're right that I have no good reason to care. Even though many of you guys misinterpreted my post and annoyed me, I received the advice I was looking for:xD:

 

[Karna]

Ok, so for years I've been struggling with people staring at me in public.

It's very distracting and irritating. Yes, I am good looking. Just about a 7 though, which is nothing special. So that rules out people staring at me becaus

Is that modesty? A human face can be attractive to some for more then wanting-to-go-dunka-dunka reasons, people are different and they react differently to different situations, you may not know one is a bad person until a situation arises where they are allowed to be bad, that is to say if they can't relate to you, if they don't understand you they will stare like pigs they are and think it's warranted, I get it, none of your description is not incorrect about the annoyance this causes, for me just casually looking at the direction as if I was unaware of their deranged act solves the problem, and personally I try to stay as low profile as I can and try to keep myself not up for show/ viewable- it doesn't accomplish anything anyway, otherwise I got no useful advice, despise humans like me i guess.

and about people telling you to stahp being arrogant and saying you good looking, that isn't going away by you arguing logically and trying to explain things, they are petty and no one can say they look good as it harms their ego, that and they are insecure, so they are gonna hold on to the invalid criticism for their life, basically logic isn't' the one making that decision for them.

 

[Ryu Kishi]

Oh your just a seven that must be so troubling for you, you must be having such a hard time I feel like criying , lucky your not a ten can you imagine the suffering you would have gone through :T_T: the world is such a tragic place PEOPLE CANT A SEVEN JUST GO OUT FOR ONCE AND NOT be PLAGUED by YOUR THIRSTY STARES :NO: oh the tragic lives of fives and above

 

[Marin]

I kinda know what you mean. I also don't like when people look at me, but to me it's because I start thinking "wtf did I do now" xD

Just try to ignore it, it really can't be helped. :/

PS: Feel srry for the girls tough, imagine if everyone was turning around to drool over your ass. Sheesh...

 

[Deadlift]

Ok, so for years I've been struggling with people staring at me in public.

It's very distracting and irritating. Yes, I am good looking. Just about a 7 though, which is nothing special. So that rules out people staring at me because I'm attractive. Even if I were a 9 or 10, that wouldn't give people the right to have their ugly eyeballs on me. It's so beyond rude and indecent.

Rudely staring at strangers—for whatever reason—may not make you as bad a person as Hitler, but you're still a subhuman P.O.S. in my book.

When the staring begins whenever I'm out and about, it almost always puts me in a bad mood, or a worse one if I'm already having a bad day.

Thanks to my muscular physique, I'm able to divert people's stares when I mean mug them. But I'm still annoyed that I even have to do that in order for people to stop looking at me.

And to be honest, I don't even like when girls stare at me (unless they're smiling and giving me that "I want you" look).
If girls stare at me with an indifferent expression, then I just think to myself, Hoe, if you're not gonna say something, then you might as well not look at me at all. You're just another random chick in that case.

I searched Google and found some good advice on this old blog:

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Nickster's post is great, but isn't enough. Some additional advice would be much appreciated!

P.S. - Surely some of you members are the very kind of people I'm talking about. So, if you're an inconsiderate dipsh*t who stares at strangers in public, I hope you will change your ways. If not, then I truly wish the worst for you because many people, like myself, are sick and tired of being stared at by you trash.

Ahahahha this also happens to me quite often. I mean, I probably am not as handsome as you, but I'm decent looking and so a number of girls that I don't know, specially when I'm walking in places where no one knows me, stares at me and/or smiles. But that really isn't a problem, I only smile back and go ahead.. If I ignore them I feel an *******, kindness is very important to me, I also am naturally happy when a girl that I'm looking looks at me back

In my long history on NB, I've only trolled once, and this sure as hell isn't another one. If you have no decent advice, then I prefer you just don't post, man.
Just because you can't relate, you think it doesn't make sense smh

YOTO = You Only Trolled Once XD

 

[Scooby Doo]

First I thought you are in desperate need of a 6 months vacation, twice a year xd

 

[Natsu Shazneel]

How will you get married if you are not used to people staring at you?

 

[Frankenstein]

I always stare at strangers with the eyes of dead fish.