Friend came out the closet to me......what should I do?

[Narusaku619]

But the question is, has he came onto you?

Not really but messaged me saying he has liked me a lot....can you see how that makes it uncomfortable?

 

[PlatinumTitan]

Recently a close friend of mine came out the closet......we have been Extremly close for 5 years

In no way did I ever think he was a homosexual, we always talked about girls, had girlfreinds, if anything he got more woman then I did.......

After he told me I really was at a loss for words.....and now our relationship is to akward.....talking about girls is weird, talking about *** is weird, talking about going camping with the rest of our buddies is weird because no one wants to share a tent with him....

I have nothing against gay people personally.....but being around my friend is now WAY TO UNCOMFORTABLE......


THE THING THAT MAKES IT THE WEIRDIST IS THAT HE SAID HE LIMES ME ROMANTICALLY......NOW CAN ANY OF YOU SEE HOW THIS KINDA RUINS THE FRIENDSHIP SINSE IM STRIGHT??


If he was a regular gay dude I think I would accept it over time but it's just to WEIRD


The main reason I am trying to AVOID HIM IS HE TOLD ME HE LIKES ME.........

First im MUSLIM so we don't alow homosexuality......second is our friendship is not the same.....


I RECENTLY STARTED AVOIDING HIM AND HE CONFRONTED ME ABOUT IT......I JUST WALKED AWAY..


Being around him is to WEIRD NOW I don't think I can treat him as a true friend anymore......


HOW SHOULD I TELL HIM THAT WE ARNT FREINDS WITHOUT HURTING HIS FEELINGS OR BEING DUSRESPECTFUL TO HIS SEXUALITY??

OR SHOULD I JUST AVOID HIM COMPLETEL??

Here me out, the homosexuality part freaks you out. I understand. Most people pushing for Gay rights don't understand that social change is hard to adapt to. They'll just be *******s. So I apologize for the people on this forum that are bashing you for feeling weird about homosexuality. You were raised differently, and your convictions also conflict with it. So it's completely natural.
Here's what you should do, tell him that you're not into him the way he's into you. And explain to him why you've been avoiding him.
Don't push him out completely, that just makes you look bad and will cause bitter feelings between you two. Still be friends with him, as different as it is. If he talks to you, try to bare the awkwardness. You'll eventually get used to it.

 

[Melanin]

Mate why dyu have religion in to this?? It's a friendship matter yu sort it out between yourselves. Or are yu one of them rats that do everything in the name of religion?

:lol Never understood why people use religion to debunk something considered
"taboo", while going back and turning around just to commit a major taboo of
cursing, as opposed to one of the minor things(according to the book) such as
homosexuality.

It's funny how most people pick and choose what they want to believe from religious rhetoric.

The Bible says women aren't so pose to make coffee but my mom makes my dad coffee every morning.

 

[scorezor]

Man the fuc up and talk to your friend. Tell him how you feel. He either understands or he don't. But if your don't accept him for what he truly is, than you was a shitty friend from the start.

and how's that his fault? lol. is just the way he is , nothing can be done to change that , so dont say those things

Recently a close friend of mine came out the closet......we have been Extremly close for 5 years

In no way did I ever think he was a homosexual, we always talked about girls, had girlfreinds, if anything he got more woman then I did.......

After he told me I really was at a loss for words.....and now our relationship is to akward.....talking about girls is weird, talking about *** is weird, talking about going camping with the rest of our buddies is weird because no one wants to share a tent with him....

I have nothing against gay people personally.....but being around my friend is now WAY TO UNCOMFORTABLE......


THE THING THAT MAKES IT THE WEIRDIST IS THAT HE SAID HE LIMES ME ROMANTICALLY......NOW CAN ANY OF YOU SEE HOW THIS KINDA RUINS THE FRIENDSHIP SINSE IM STRIGHT??


If he was a regular gay dude I think I would accept it over time but it's just to WEIRD


The main reason I am trying to AVOID HIM IS HE TOLD ME HE LIKES ME.........

First im MUSLIM so we don't alow homosexuality......second is our friendship is not the same.....


I RECENTLY STARTED AVOIDING HIM AND HE CONFRONTED ME ABOUT IT......I JUST WALKED AWAY..


Being around him is to WEIRD NOW I don't think I can treat him as a true friend anymore......


HOW SHOULD I TELL HIM THAT WE ARNT FREINDS WITHOUT HURTING HIS FEELINGS OR BEING DUSRESPECTFUL TO HIS SEXUALITY??

OR SHOULD I JUST AVOID HIM COMPLETEL??

okay man , dw about it , just be straight forward with him , but be nice about it. just tell him the truth.

 

[Kurama2012]

And I really have nothing against gays.....even thou my religion says its wrong, and it's something I would never do, I still respect gays....

Now as a stright guy it's way to UNCOMFORTABLE when another dude tells you he loves you....if he had simply said he was gay I think I woulda accepted it over time......but now it's TOO DIFFRENT..

Then tell him nothing will ever happen he's probably telling you so he can move on this has probably been eating away at him and he needed to tell you so he knows where he stands

My brother has a friend who is bisexual and he liked my brother and you know what there still friends hang out all the time as he eventually moved on

Now if this friend of yours doesn't respect you not being interested and keeps coming on to you then I can see why you might wanna end the friend ship but you need to talk to him let him know where you both stand

 

[Ripple Hole]

It's funny how most people pick and choose what they want to believe from religious rhetoric.

The Bible says women aren't so pose to make coffee but my mom makes my dad coffee every morning.

I can't blame them..... I'd do the same.:lol
...But at the cost of chancing that I'll go to hell :/ not sure If I ... tough decision ;-;

 

[Blizzard3]

And I really have nothing against gays.....even thou my religion says its wrong, and it's something I would never do, I still respect gays....

Now as a stright guy it's way to UNCOMFORTABLE when another dude tells you he loves you....if he had simply said he was gay I think I woulda accepted it over time......but now it's TOO DIFFRENT..

He said he loves, and you don't return the same feelings. Just tell exactly what you just wrote. If he can't respect that then cut ties with him. But the point is talk to him, don't just ignore him, otherwise you do come out looking like a D.

 

[Joon]

and how's that his fault? lol. is just the way he is , nothing can be done to change that , so dont say those things



okay man , dw about it , just be straight forward with him , but be nice about it. just tell him the truth.

I was little harsh, but we all know the right thing to do is talk to his friend right.

Anyway, it is his choice tho and he already made up his mind.

 

[Omaristar]

Recently a close friend of mine came out the closet......we have been Extremly close for 5 years

In no way did I ever think he was a homosexual, we always talked about girls, had girlfreinds, if anything he got more woman then I did.......

After he told me I really was at a loss for words.....and now our relationship is to akward.....talking about girls is weird, talking about *** is weird, talking about going camping with the rest of our buddies is weird because no one wants to share a tent with him....

I have nothing against gay people personally.....but being around my friend is now WAY TO UNCOMFORTABLE......


THE THING THAT MAKES IT THE WEIRDIST IS THAT HE SAID HE LIMES ME ROMANTICALLY......NOW CAN ANY OF YOU SEE HOW THIS KINDA RUINS THE FRIENDSHIP SINSE IM STRIGHT??


If he was a regular gay dude I think I would accept it over time but it's just to WEIRD


The main reason I am trying to AVOID HIM IS HE TOLD ME HE LIKES ME.........

First im MUSLIM so we don't alow homosexuality......second is our friendship is not the same.....


I RECENTLY STARTED AVOIDING HIM AND HE CONFRONTED ME ABOUT IT......I JUST WALKED AWAY..


Being around him is to WEIRD NOW I don't think I can treat him as a true friend anymore......


HOW SHOULD I TELL HIM THAT WE ARNT FREINDS WITHOUT HURTING HIS FEELINGS OR BEING DUSRESPECTFUL TO HIS SEXUALITY??

OR SHOULD I JUST AVOID HIM COMPLETEL??

I'm gay and when I came out to my best friend I also told him I liked him and things did get awkward between us. But one of the worse things you can do as a friends is the avoid him....you will crush him and probably put him in the closet more than he has ever been. He told you this because he trust you and figure you would support him. Trust me, let him know why you are avoiding him and that they will never be feeling between you guys...he will respect that.

 

[Melanin]

Not really but messaged me saying he has liked me a lot....can you see how that makes it uncomfortable?

Okay I get it.

 

[Umnipotent]

Spoiler

an intresting story

 

[Narusaku619]

Thanks for the advise man....it's nice to hear from someone who's dealt with a similar situation.......I'll try to talk to him let him know I'm stright.....I'll try to warm up to the whole homosexual thing, I've never meet or had any gay friends but I'll try to adjust.....


I really DIDDNT wanna be rude I just DIDDNT know how to handle this kind of situation....

I'm gay and when I came out to my best friend I also told him I liked him and things did get awkward between us. But one of the worse things you can do as a friends is the avoid him....you will crush him and probably put him in the closet more than he has ever been. He told you this because he trust you and figure you would support him. Trust me, let him know why you are avoiding him and that they will never be feeling between you guys...he will respect that.

 

[IcyStar]

Well, to start off, you don't brush him off and ignore him. That's just plain rude. Second of all, tell him you accept his feeling, and actually care about the person you're talking to. You'll probably become an ass later in life if you don't respect others lives.

 

[Forest]

One of my best friends came out the closet to me when i was younger, and told me he thought he liked me. I told him the feeling was not mutual but also tried to react as understanding as I could. Inside deep down I was Hella uncomfortable, not because of anything he did but because of my own self, when I was younger I had bad ocd and anxiety about my self and the fact that my friend came out to me was like a horror. (What would people think if they found out blah blah, was it something I did?, etc.) But when I got my mind right everything was cool, and I rarely think about it these days when I see him. If your friendship means Alot to you than jus maintain the love you had for him before he told you as if it didn't matter, since it shouldn't, if you got your mind right. If you do that, there's no reason for awkwardness on your behalf , or any feelings if u are comfortable with yourself enough to still continue. If there's too much than try 2 be respectful and honest to tell him how u feel, be as real as u can so you don't hurt his feelings and show that u care enough to let him know, (assuming u do.) Than you might jus part ways, it's nothing to freak out about really.

 

[slimreaper]

If homosexuality doesn't make you comfortable then don't be around it. Don't let anyone of these bigots here influence your own personal prefrences.

 

[baah]

just tell him you don't like him as a friend because he is gay... the one you knew as a friend was a man....

 

[Filosoofis]

Disable all contact with him and run for your life before you get **** raped

 

[Filosoofis]

He may be the homosexual, and you may think of him as less of a man, but he will be more of a man than you will ever be. It takes so much courage to come out like that. His nutz are bigger than yours. You're the *****.

Being gay take a courage?Lmao pussies maybe in Russia, Asia or the middle east but besides that just no