Friend came out the closet to me......what should I do?

[Narusaku619]

Recently a close friend of mine came out the closet......we have been Extremly close for 5 years

In no way did I ever think he was a homosexual, we always talked about girls, had girlfreinds, if anything he got more woman then I did.......

After he told me I really was at a loss for words.....and now our relationship is to akward.....talking about girls is weird, talking about *** is weird, talking about going camping with the rest of our buddies is weird because no one wants to share a tent with him....

I have nothing against gay people personally.....but being around my friend is now WAY TO UNCOMFORTABLE......


THE THING THAT MAKES IT THE WEIRDIST IS THAT HE SAID HE LIMES ME ROMANTICALLY......NOW CAN ANY OF YOU SEE HOW THIS KINDA RUINS THE FRIENDSHIP SINSE IM STRIGHT??


If he was a regular gay dude I think I would accept it over time but it's just to WEIRD


The main reason I am trying to AVOID HIM IS HE TOLD ME HE LIKES ME.........

First im MUSLIM so we don't alow homosexuality......second is our friendship is not the same.....


I RECENTLY STARTED AVOIDING HIM AND HE CONFRONTED ME ABOUT IT......I JUST WALKED AWAY..


Being around him is to WEIRD NOW I don't think I can treat him as a true friend anymore......


HOW SHOULD I TELL HIM THAT WE ARNT FREINDS WITHOUT HURTING HIS FEELINGS OR BEING DUSRESPECTFUL TO HIS SEXUALITY??

OR SHOULD I JUST AVOID HIM COMPLETEL??

 

[narutocentral]

Your stupid as ****.. Your a horrible human being. gosh people like your are jackasses. 5 years friends and he tells you something super important and you diss him. Gosh think about what you did cuz of a religion... go jump off a bridge you Muslim jihadis terriorist. Please give me a negative rep it's worth it when I'm talking to a dumbass like you.

 

[Joon]

Man the fuc up and talk to your friend. Tell him how you feel. He either understands or he don't. But if your don't accept him for what he truly is, than you was a shitty friend from the start.

 

[Ripple Hole]

Not like he ever came onto you...............
Lel, I could get how it's weird though.:lol
Not as if males can't have females friends without feeling weird though o-o

 

[Ōkami]

Tell him that your douche bag religious beliefs somehow make his sexuality wrong and instead of just accepting him you rather be a **** and throw away a friendship over something so insignificant.

See? Easy.

 

[Venomous Cobra]

You're already disrespecting him by thinking that his sexual interest has magically messed up everything you both were. In fact, if being a homo was all it took for you to stop being his friend then I guess you were nothing to begin with, so I suggest you just act"normal"...


Don't get me wrong, what you want to do is by no means "wrong", it's just that you were really not his friend all along.

 

[Kurama2012]

You say you have nothing against homosexuals yet your no longer his friend?

What I would do is continue being his friend share a tent just because he's gay doesn't mean he has uncontrollable urges to *** up all men
Just be his friend nothing has changed has it if your gonna let this bother you and not be his friend then you do have a problem with homosexuals

 

[Levell]

First off, I think you're being extremely disrespectful and ignorant.

Nothing about your friend has changed other than the fact that he shared a fact about himself. He was homosexual even when you were friends. Nothing has changed.

You must be 15 or something. Man the fucc up.

 

[Levell]

He may be the homosexual, and you may think of him as less of a man, but he will be more of a man than you will ever be. It takes so much courage to come out like that. His nutz are bigger than yours. You're the *****.

 

[Narusaku619]

Your stupid as ****.. Your a horrible human being. gosh people like your are jackasses. 5 years friends and he tells you something super important and you diss him. Gosh think about what you did cuz of a religion... go jump off a bridge you Muslim jihadis terriorist. Please give me a negative rep it's worth it when I'm talking to a dumbass like you.

I forgot to mention the dude said he likes me......in a romantic way......I feel bad that I'm losing a buddy.....but if another dude tells you he loves and your stright that kinda RUINES THE FRIENDSHIP....

AND religion DOSENT really matter.....I respect everyone the same....I respect the rights of all people....unlike most muslims out there.....but I would never do any gay acts

 

[Blizzard3]

Can't believe why others are acting all high and might about what you should and shouldn't do.
He's a homo ok. He likes you.....can see why that's weird. It's the same as if a guy tells a girl he likes her, but she doesn't. It's going to be weird. as what you should do is just be honest. Chances are he really doesn't like you, but thinks he does because he is vulnerable at the moment

 

[Joon]

I forgot to mention the dude said he likes me......in a romantic way......I feel bad that I'm losing a buddy.....but if another dude tells you he loves and your stright that kinda RUINES THE FRIENDSHIP....

AND religion DOSENT really matter.....I respect everyone the same....I respect the rights of all people....unlike most muslims out there.....but I would never do any gay acts

Bro! You doing too much.... :|

If you don't like him, tell him. And If those feelings for you can't go away, then you have to cut the friendship. Simple.

 

[Melanin]

Not preaching nor am I saying that I know the right answer but here it is...

If you're contempt, 100% solidified and secure of your sexuality then being in a homosexuals company shouldn't waiver anything about you.

And if a gay persons presence makes you uncomfortable, your doomed.


America has:

Gay Lawyers
Gay Doctors
Gay Dentist
Gay Soldiers
Gay Teachers
Gay Janitors
Gay McDonald's Workers
Gay Barbers
Gay Chefs
Gay Cashiers
Gay Actors
Gay Artist (Musicians)
Gay Scientist
Gay Wallstreet Broakers
Gay Politions
Gay Farmers
Gay Professional Athletes
*Basically think of any job/career there will be a gay person doing it*

But at the end of the day dude, your friend being gay doesn't have to change the nature of your friendship as long as he can respect you as a person and your beliefs.

 

[Narusaku619]

And I really have nothing against gays.....even thou my religion says its wrong, and it's something I would never do, I still respect gays....

Now as a stright guy it's way to UNCOMFORTABLE when another dude tells you he loves you....if he had simply said he was gay I think I woulda accepted it over time......but now it's TOO DIFFRENT..

Can't believe why others are acting all high and might about what you should and shouldn't do.
He's a homo ok. He likes you.....can see why that's weird. It's the same as if a guy tells a girl he likes her, but she doesn't. It's going to be weird. as what you should do is just be honest. Chances are he really doesn't like you, but thinks he does because he is vulnerable at the moment

 

[PlatinumTitan]

Your stupid as ****.. Your a horrible human being. gosh people like your are jackasses. 5 years friends and he tells you something super important and you diss him. Gosh think about what you did cuz of a religion... go jump off a bridge you Muslim jihadis terriorist. Please give me a negative rep it's worth it when I'm talking to a dumbass like you.

It sounds like you're the *******. There's no possible way you don't live in America. Smh. As delusional as religion may seem, they are still deeply held convictions. He didn't "diss" this person intentionally. He's avoiding him because he's never had an experience like this before, and his convictions are conflicting with the bond he has with him.
NOTHING he just said makes him a terrorist or a Jihadist you biggoted jerk.

 

[Melanin]

And I really have nothing against gays.....even thou my religion says its wrong, and it's something I would never do, I still respect gays....

Now as a stright guy it's way to UNCOMFORTABLE when another dude tells you he loves you....if he had simply said he was gay I think I woulda accepted it over time......but now it's TOO DIFFRENT..

But the question is, has he came onto you?

 

[Lordnaru]

Mate why dyu have religion in to this?? It's a friendship matter yu sort it out between yourselves. Or are yu one of them rats that do everything in the name of religion?

 

[Ripple Hole]

Mate why dyu have religion in to this?? It's a friendship matter yu sort it out between yourselves. Or are yu one of them rats that do everything in the name of religion?

:lol Never understood why people use religion to debunk something considered
"taboo", while going back and turning around just to commit a major taboo of
cursing, as opposed to one of the minor things(according to the book) such as
homosexuality.

"Yeah, I'm just gonna.... leave you because my religions says it bad.."
*Returns to other foul mouthed friends*

 

[Narusaku619]

Thank you.....and religion is not really a huge factor, I think over time I could of accepted and still been friends with this dude....but it mostly the fact that this dude LIKES ME.....I think ima just not saying anything rude to him an just avoid him......I think that may be the best thing I could do without hurting his feelings as a gay person

It sounds like you're the *******. There's no possible way you don't live in America. Smh. As delusional as religion may seem, they are still deeply held convictions. He didn't "diss" this person intentionally. He's avoiding him because he's never had an experience like this before, and his convictions are conflicting with the bond he has with him.
NOTHING he just said makes him a terrorist or a Jihadist you biggoted jerk.

 

[Joon]

Mate why dyu have religion in to this?? It's a friendship matter yu sort it out between yourselves. Or are yu one of them rats that do everything in the name of religion?

He sounds like a religion. #Cosign

Bro if you need some time to think or need you space its all cool, but just tell your friend. How do you think he is feeling?