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Too bad that a case of not finding each other was so destructive.

She probably felt like you stood her up, too, but it seems that you went on the attack when you felt that way.

It will take more than an apology to earn back her good opinion of you, so don't stick around unless you're willing to be patient.

i appretiate your opinion, so do you think i should wait?
i mean i think we at least have gotten to talk , but at the same time i feel that if let more time go, the apology will not feel natural rather than that it might feel forced
 

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Turn up on Thursday and go with the flow, see where fate takes you dear.
 

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Hmm I wonder if you said something extreme horrible because if she didn't accept your apologize you probably said something extreme bad. I wouldn't give her the box. I would just try to explain myself. I wouldn't show up on surprise either.Just show up on Thursday.
 

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Look at all these single nerds giving awesome relationship advices ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

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I say surprise her, don't let her be ready for the moment, otherwise she may try to mess it up.
 

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Great you completely screwed up any chance you had of getting her back in the first place. Don't apologize anymore, sure you were stupid by jumping to conclusions but stop chasing her. My advice would be to cut off contact untill she decides to reach out to you, forget she exist, move on and if she can't look past that one mistake screw her.
 

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Don't surprise her. There's a 90% chance she's already cheating on you. Just organize a date with her so you don't catch her in the act and ruin the relationship.
 

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Don't surprise her. There's a 90% chance she's already cheating on you. Just organize a date with her so you don't catch her in the act and ruin the relationship.
What? That's the worst logic I've read. If there is a good chance of her cheating then the relationship is already ruined. Why should he be careful and keep himself in denial? If possible he should catch her in the act so he doesn't waste anymore time.
 

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Okay do not make that number/word order thing. It is itsy-bitsy work and makes a frusturated person even more mad.

Do not surprise her before the time you meet either. Give her some space, don't bother her much.
 

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What? That's the worst logic I've read. If there is a good chance of her cheating then the relationship is already ruined. Why should he be careful and keep himself in denial? If possible he should catch her in the act so he doesn't waste anymore time.
Because cheating does not mean you need to break up with someone. That's ridiculous. Maybe he actually loves this woman.
 

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Because cheating does not mean you need to break up with someone. That's ridiculous. Maybe he actually loves this woman.
Cheating means the person broke up with you, what the hell is with this twisted logic? If you were exclusive and she decided to screw another guy then you're no longer exclusive, in that case you should have some integrity and walk away. At that point she's dead to you.
 

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It sounds like you're trying too hard. If one fight brings down the house, it might not have been built too strong. Either that or you guys are very young and interest waxes and wanes (as it should at a young age). You've apologized. Instead of harping on the past just focus on the future with her. If she's stuck in the past and her attentions are moving elsewhere, that may be a predictor of your future.
 

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Eh I wouldn't do such thing to apologize again, makes you look weak imo, you should just give Her some space.
 

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Cheating means the person broke up with you, what the hell is with this twisted logic? If you were exclusive and she decided to screw another guy then you're no longer exclusive, in that case you should have some integrity and walk away. At that point she's dead to you.
Cheating does not mean the person broke up with you.
 

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Look at all these single nerds giving awesome relationship advices ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

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I say surprise her, don't let her be ready for the moment, otherwise she may try to mess it up.

Says the one who too have never been in a relationship.

OT: Don't try to surprise her in this situation! No, just no.
 
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Cheating does not mean the person broke up with you.
Yes it does, man do you have some personal scar going in your life? The person who cheated said f*ck the relationship, there is no relationship after that but one built on lies and secrets like them keeping it hidden from you.
 

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Yes it does, man do you have some personal scar going in your life? The person who cheated said f*ck the relationship, there is no relationship after that but one built on lies and secrets like them keeping it hidden from you.
How did this become about me? All I'm saying is cheating is not a reason to break up. Especially if you love the person. I'm not talking about the other person blatantly disrespecting you and f-cking other people.
 

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How did this become about me? All I'm saying is cheating is not a reason to break up. Especially if you love the person. I'm not talking about the other person blatantly disrespecting you and f-cking other people.
It's more than enough reason, it's the goddamn deal breaker. The only reason you're in a relationship is so none of you will screw with anyone else, get it through your head. It doesn't matter how much you supposedly "love" the other person, once they cheat it's already over, once you find out it simply becomes announced. Also you would have to be the most desperate wimp for you to stay with someone who cheated on you.
 

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Yes it does, man do you have some personal scar going in your life? The person who cheated said f*ck the relationship, there is no relationship after that but one built on lies and secrets like them keeping it hidden from you.

Lots of marriages have infidelities that are forgiven and the marriage is salvaged through marital counseling and hard work. Just because that is one of your "bottom lines" for breaking up does not mean that it is everyones'.
 
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