[Discussion] Would you date single mothers?

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It'd be ideal for a man in his 30's to marry a woman in her 20's. There is nothing creepy about it, also all that just doesn't seem worth it. I'd rather have my own kids with someone who wasn't dumped or left the father of her kids.

You either live in biblical times or you are in denial about being the creepy guy.
 

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You either live in biblical times or you are in denial about being the creepy guy.
You just haven't seen enough of the world yet, you live in a bubble. It's completely normal to be in your 40's and even 50's yet have relationships with girls in their 20's. There is nothing creepy about it, they're both adults, the age difference isn't an issue unless you make it one.
 

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My opinion differs from the both of you. I'd rather date someone without kids and someone in my own age range. No right or wrong. It's about personnal preferences. Ofcourse, like both of you mentioned this changes when you're older.
 

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My opinion differs from the both of you. I'd rather date someone without kids and someone in my own age range. No right or wrong. It's about personnal preferences. Ofcourse, like both of you mentioned this changes when you're older.
Yeah, I was just stating my own opinion, since women age way faster than men, a man should ideally marry younger.
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You just haven't seen enough of the world yet, you live in a bubble. It's completely normal to be in your 40's and even 50's yet have relationships with girls in their 20's. There is nothing creepy about it, they're both adults, the age difference isn't an issue unless you make it one.

Have fun trying to date 22 year olds when you are 50. You are either going to be rich or heading back home to your trailer park.
 

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Yeah, I was just stating my own opinion, since women age way faster than men, a man should ideally marry younger.
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Yea that isn't everyone. You reach menopause when you're in your 50s so if you want to have a kid do it before then.
 

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Have fun trying to date 22 year olds when you are 50. You are either going to be rich or heading back home to your trailer park.
I know a man in his 70's married to a woman in her 20's and they have 5 kids now.
 

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I know a man in his 70's married to a woman in her 20's and they have 5 kids now.

Well that's a 50 year age difference and at that age you have problems. The kids won't be abke to run wwith their dad or anything.

That's too old
 

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Well that's a 50 year age difference and at that age you have problems. The kids won't be abke to run wwith their dad or anything.

That's too old
Actually he's healthy af for a 70 year old, you'd think he's 20 years younger, he doesn't look very old when you look at him. To be more accurate he's in his 70's now and the wife in her 30's.
 

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You either live in biblical times or you are in denial about being the creepy guy.

And women on average live longer than men...so it should be other way around? (Sarcasm for the ones who did not get it)

Either way it is creepy.
 

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And women on average live longer than men...so it should be other way around? (Sarcasm for the ones who did not get it)

Either way it is creepy.
It's not about the years of your life but the life in the years.
 

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It's not about the years of your life but the life in the years.

Just because you know some lech that is married to someone his granddaughter's age doesn't make it normal behavior. You can rationalize and normalize it all you want, but it is abnormal/dysfunctional. If you think otherwise you're the one living in a bubble, kiddo.

And women on average live longer than men...so it should be other way around? (Sarcasm for the ones who did not get it)

Either way it is creepy.

Women live on average 5 to 8 years more. Five years is a good age gap. My motto is: If you could have birthed me, we aren't dating. :)
 

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It's not about the years of your life but the life in the years.

So it shouldn't matter how old the woman is, therefore your statement about it being best for a man to marry a woman in her 20s is irrelevant. Good job everyone, it was a fun thread, we can all go home now.
 

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It's not about the years of your life but the life in the years.

A 15 year old can have "seen more" than a 60 year old depending on circumstances. It does not make such relationship less creepy and "life in years" are not determined by gender.


Women live on average 5 to 8 years more. Five years is a good age gap. My motto is: If you could have birthed me, we aren't dating. :)

Oh well...
 
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Look how everyone is jumping to conclusions, if you're afraid of a conversation just leave, no one is holding a gun to your head.

Now, if two consenting adults decide they want to spend their life together I don't see what's so abnormal about that, I thought you were all about romantic love and stuff, if you believe in that then you should have no problem with age difference because after all, love has no age right? There are men who marry older and women who marry younger, this isn't about gender really. Zlatan's wife is 11 years older than him.
 

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A 15 year old can have "seen more" than a 60 year old depending on circumstances. It does not make such relationship less creepy and "life in years" are not determined by gender.




Oh well...

Yeah. That's very unusually though. That poor girl never spoke out about who molested her either; what an ugly world. I'd imagine when people think child bearing age it's usually around thirteen, not five lol.

Look how everyone is jumping to conclusions, if you're afraid of a conversation just leave, no one is holding a gun to your head.

Now, if two consenting adults decide they want to spend their life together I don't see what's so abnormal about that, I thought you were all about romantic love and stuff, if you believe in that then you should have no problem with age difference because after all, love has no age right? There are men who marry older and women who marry younger, this isn't about gender really. Zlatan's wife is 11 years older than him.

Anything that deviates from the norm is abnormal. People tend to connect with those of the same maturation. If a 70 year old has the mentality of a 20 year old then that is what it is. This isn't about sexual attraction, it's about establishing committed relationships, which seems to be what you're alluding to. Your average 40 year old man is mostly likely going to be physically attracted to an 18 year old girl. That is evolution. Social constructs, religious morality, and societal law in modern age created age perimeters on sexual relations. But an adult that matures at the normal rate is not going to be emotionally compatible to someone of an exponentially different developmental stage. Developmental stages are more age cohort driven than experiences, though experiences can influence a person (i.e., child molestation influences earlier formation of sexual identity). Usually those traumatic experiences stunt emotional development though, not mature it (i.e., cluster B personality disorders).

So, I would agree with you if this were the Pleistocene epoch, but we are all living in the "bubble" of modern societal norms. I'm not telling you what to do. Only time will tell. When your 35 go to a college party. You'll see a lot of hot girls there I guess, but you may find they annoy you more than attract you.
 

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The older person can lead the younger one once they reach an understanding.
The older person has experience the younger person lacks in most cases.
 
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