What's the first date mean to you?

[Angelic.]

satan made him do it

 

[elitenoob94]

Wouldn't he know if she's Christian or not on Tinder? Also, I thought it was a site for scummy people. Your friend seems really dumb, tbh.

Hmm. Didn't think of that, he's not scummy nor dumb, but his choices are not the best so far as what I am seeing. Although I did tell him why use an app to find a relationship?

 

[PlatinumTitan]

Retardation over 900000000000000000000000000000000000

Sounds like you either haven't read it, or you have and you prove my point. Lol.

 

[BrillyMac]

I hear stories about certain things you do and don't do on the first date, one is which you never kiss on the first date because they generally end quicker if a relationship were to happen.

My friend met this girl on Tinder and he invited me to come along because she wanted him to bring a friend, as she would also (Was a guy not a girl which he told me), anyway, we went to a bowling alley to play pool and bowling, then we just kinda walked around town afterwards (because it was late, nothing was really open) and went to a Denny's just to chill. They ate, I didn't and talked about funny vine videos and what not then we left back to the cars and talked again, that's when I guess my friend was talked into kissing her, oh and by the way his standards are high for relationships since he's religious, he absolutely lashed out on me the car ride back because he was talked into kissing her before we left.

To be honest, she liked it and him, she enjoyed being with him and there wasn't any awkward tension between them. Although he felt like it was the worst date of his life.

Now he's totally lashing out on me and telling me he needs her to be at least christian if he were to date her because of religious matters or it won't work out but even if it didn't he doesn't want to be viewed as a **** because she wants to date him and he says no because she doesn't meet his standards. I think that's just bull shit in my opinion.

Now we're a mile away from our place and he just yells at the top of his lungs at me and then it's that point I lash out at him and tell him he needs to chill because really, it's not the end of the world, it was a successful date, I guess? And he's freaking out like his entire life has collapsed. At that point he continues to blame it on me for making it awkward and I finally tell him if he doesn't chill the hell out I will punch him in the face. At that point he flips out and tells me I need to get out the car and I tell him drive me home this is entirely not my fault, which he does, and as I leave the car I tell him he just needs to straight up chill, this is nothing to freak out over you haven't even taken a step into committing to anything yet in which he responds with "Whatever" as he drives off.


Okay, so inside I'm laughing my ass off because he's totally flipping out over nothing and also I am a little disappointed because I might have ended a really good friendship.

So usually I know how to handle "broships" pretty well, but I feel like this probably was the end point of our friendship? What should I do and do you believe he was freaking out over nothing?

If you guys are bros then you're still friends. Some girl he just dated shouldn't ruin that. You should hear him out about what he wants from her and give him advice on how to handle it. Dont throw his words back in his face because if I was him id be passed too but don't totally disagree with him

 

[Venomous Cobra]

Sounds like you either haven't read it, or you have and you prove my point. Lol.

No you're stupid generalizing iswhat made post.

 

[elitenoob94]

If you guys are bros then you're still friends. Some girl he just dated shouldn't ruin that. You should hear him out about what he wants from her and give him advice on how to handle it. Dont throw his words back in his face because if I was him id be passed too but don't totally disagree with him

I have, but it's also redundant. No matter what advice I gave him he lashes out on me.

 

[BrillyMac]

I have, but it's also redundant. No matter what advice I gave him he lashes out on me.

Then theres 2 things left; apologize or tell the girl whats going on but not everything just how important being a Christian is to your friend.

 

[elitenoob94]

Then theres 2 things left; apologize or tell the girl whats going on but not everything just how important being a Christian is to your friend.

I don't need to apologize for anything, I have not done anything lmao and I don't have the girls number and I wouldn't ruin the "situation" he believes he is in by talking to her. That's defiantly what bros would not do. I'm taking peoples advice and I'm going to just give him time.

Also I would not even tell her about his standards, that'll get her to stop liking him. That's dumb advice lel.

I leave to boot camp Feb 9th so I'll defiantly be saying my goodbyes anyway before I ship.

 

[PlatinumTitan]

No you're stupid generalizing iswhat made post.

Generalizing? You really haven't read the bible, or you would understand that what I'm saying. The bible calls for you to kill people who work on the sabbath day, are homosexual, or some kind of a wiccan. It also says that it's okay to rape, but afterwards you have to go to her father, and give him ten pieces of silver, than marry the victim. It also goes over that it's okay to buy slaves and explains the logistics of buying, selling, and maintaining them.
It's disgusting. If you read the bible, and take it literally, you're one of the worst people on earth. Unless of course, you're a hypocrite and pick what you want out of the bible and pretend that none of that shit exists.

 

[Venomous Cobra]

Generalizing? You really haven't read the bible, or you would understand that what I'm saying. The bible calls for you to kill people who work on the sabbath day, are homosexual, or some kind of a wiccan. It also says that it's okay to rape, but afterwards you have to go to her father, and give him ten pieces of silver, than marry the victim. It also goes over that it's okay to buy slaves and explains the logistics of buying, selling, and maintaining them.
It's disgusting. If you read the bible, and take it literally, you're one of the worst people on earth. Unless of course, you're a hypocrite and pick what you want out of the bible and pretend that none of that shit exists.

I'm not a christian so i don't know much about bible but saying that ALL bad people on the world are tthe ones who follow the bible is just stupid and illogical no matter how you look at it

 

[Transcendence]

I think it's pretty clear your friend is pretty dense. He has a really traditional religious way of thinking that is just downright stupid. Good date and because he's religious he thinks he's a bad situation? Anyone I know would call him a complete idiot for saying that. Just give him some time to either screw this up or come to his senses and give it all a chance.

Regardless, on to the actual topic at hand. The first date for me at least is pretty important. I don't expect anything too much out of it but it has to be tantalizing enough for me to want to see this girl more than just that one time. That's what a first date is supposed to be. A tone setter. If she makes you interested in her enough after the first date to go on other dates or even just straight up hang out, that's a great sign. But if the date is really dry or just downright boring, that's a really negative sign to say the least.