[Discussion] How to deal with rejection and depression

[Mahesvara]

Always keep moving forward and stay positive, never let something keep you down for too long, always get back up.

Oh and watch some of your favorite anime to make you feel better and take your mind off things man .

 

[Legitbeans]

Thanks for all the kind words, guys! I still have a lot of more auditions waiting for me later in my life lol. (There's one coming up in 2 months thats going to decide whether I get into that college or not!) So, I think I won't give up for now.

Speaking of which, I asked for an evaluation sheet of my audition, and apparently, I could have done better musically (as expected) but another reason was because they wanted someone younger than I (b/c im a senior and won't be staying in their orchestra for long). Also, they already had someone from the same orchestra that I was in. haha.

Thank you guys once again! Love the people of NB!

 

[Lady M]

Thanks for all the kind words, guys! I still have a lot of more auditions waiting for me later in my life lol. (There's one coming up in 2 months thats going to decide whether I get into that college or not!) So, I think I won't give up for now.

Speaking of which, I asked for an evaluation sheet of my audition, and apparently, I could have done better musically (as expected) but another reason was because they wanted someone younger than I (b/c im a senior and won't be staying in their orchestra for long). Also, they already had someone from the same orchestra that I was in. haha.

Thank you guys once again! Love the people of NB!

I'm sorry that happened. It's hard when you get rejected after pouring your heart and soul into something you love, and you find out the reason for it is something you can't completely control. When that happens to me, I get determined, and vow to acheive my goal no matter what it takes, even if it's not exactly how I planned it. Have faith!

 

[V h o]

Shake it off, and get back out there in the game. Practice more and try again another time. Rejection happens to everyone but you can't let it get you down since you're only wasting more time when you could be having fun, not being depressed. Anyway just my thoughts. Sorry about your denial err rejection

 

[Souji]

Don't wallow too much on failure and focus on moving on. And don't be discouraged by how short or long that may take.

The important thing is to not stagnate.

 

[Ryóma]

It's all right bro. Don't let it get to you. After hardship comes ease...

 

[YowYan]

A door just closed for you. Which means several others opened. Go find them or wallow in selfpity

 

[dms_kakashi]

Sometime there is day, sometime there is night
Sometime there is love sometime there is hate
Therefore learn to cope

 

[Funky Tiger]

wow guyz u r soo deep :|

its okay op. keep practicing as hard as you were, and just try out for another youth orchestra. the hard work you put in will never be wasted mate. also i think that the mistake that you should never do is that you must never think that you did something perfect. there will always be something that can be improved, and there might always be someone who might have a luckier day than yours.

 

[Cruciatus]

Well, without wanting to sound harsh, you kinda have to suck it up and stop pitying yourself.

Life has its ups and downs and its not always fair. You can work hard and pour your heart and soul into things and still not be good enough for some people. And you have to just accept that. Don't let it discourage you from your passions and don't dwell on the fact that you didn't make it because it's going to make you both look and feel pathetic.

If you love to sing, don't stop singing. Find a choir where your talents are appreciated.

 

[Uzumaki Naruta]

Hey guys.
A few days ago, I had this really big audition for the San Francisco Symphony Youth Orchestra (the best YO in California, one of the best in the nation). I got rejected.
This may not seem much, but getting into SFSYO was my dream for many years and this was my last shot at it. I had put 6 months of sweat and tears into my audition piece, practicing for about 2 hours a day and basically everything that I had done was geared towards getting accepted. To make matters worse, I thought that I did pretty well on my audition. No note mistakes, no technical error. Sure, I could have done a little bit better on my musicality, but nothing else was wrong. The difficulty of the piece had been approved by the auditors.
It really sucks. After working soo damn hard, they send me the cliche letter of "We regret to inform you...." It was way too sudden. I had never felt this bad before. How can I even progress if I can't get into this orchestra. Everyone was expecting me to get in. I can't help but feel that I let everyone down
It's really hard to talk about this to my friends and family since most of them have never been rejected from a music audition, so they cant relate. I was hoping that someone from NB can give me some tips on how to survive this shitty time.

tldr: I got rejected from an audition and I have never felt soo low before. Any tips on how to fight off this tough time?

thanks for putting up with this guys.

When I feel low and when I feel that I failed everyone, it´s not me who helps me feel better but my boyfriend and my family.

Everyone (and I mean anyone) must have failed in something big before and felt down. Sometimes these failures are unfair due the the world itself being unfair. But, most of the times, you´ll get a better thing in return

Personal experience: I wanted to get the scholarship for one of the private technical college here with all my diplomas and certificates of obtaining first prize/Golden medal in Science-related Olympics. But after showing all those papers, I got told that I was too old (Due to a "rule" here about the age when kids start their education, I´m usually one of the oldest in class). I felt upset. But after a few days I got the news saying I was accepted in the best college of the country due to my efforts.

You did your best, didn´t you? Even tho you got rejected, life doesn´t end there. Just keep improving yourself and doing your best. And I believe you´ll get something nice in return

By the way, this is what I keep thinking to myself when I fail:
"When all you got to keep is strong
Move along, move along like I know you do
And even when your hope is gone
Move along, move along just to make it through
...
When everything is wrong we move along"
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[RasenUchihaChaos]

Not trying to sound. Cruel but that saying anyone can do anything if thy word hard for it is complete bs yes you should work hard. But in the end luck Is what decides if u make it

 

[Mr Akatsuki]

Turn negativity into positive fuel. Don't let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do. Improve, and try again! Good luck!

 

[Smile]

Become crazy, its much easier this way .

 

[Ashflura]

Redirect yourself so you're not dependent on anything materialistic. Acknowledge you did good, disciplined yourself, and survived your training rougime. That doesn't mean your bad at what you do...but could just be a knock on the door - are you balancing everything in your life buddy?

 

[Rioxnation]

All my years of keeping my love interests hidden and mostly getting rejected, I hide it and bury it. I know, pretty bad idea to go, but with how I was back then, I was bottom line scared to get hurt, really. I was scared to do things that will possible make people think I'm a weirdo (as if I wasnt one already) and isolate me as the "crazy person no one talks to". Yes. Have gotten Into online affairs and that really stung me in the ass (vowed to never date an online person again) and after all these years of keeping my interests in and just being socially awkward. I finally came out and confessed my love for a friend. He avoided me, no surprise, almost every dude I told I liked them avoided me, but then something happened. He changed. He turned his outlook around and considered, then that's how I got my boyfriend today :> but all in all (I digress sorry Ahaha) I have tasted depression because of my holding back of love interests (but luckily I won't have to anymore)