I agree with this.
For example, a lot of anti-abortionist would agree to abort the baby if there's complications and the mother is pretty much guaranteed to die as a result; her life or the unborn baby's.
However, let's say, that the mother and her 10 year old child was in a life or death situation, and the mother chose herself over the 10 year old, the amount of hate she will most likely receive would be so astronomical as to make her wish for death, I guess making her choice to live that day meaningless. That's a hyperbolic, statement, maybe.
You may have some defending her, on the grounds that she wasn't in her right mind; overtaken by fright.
Still, this mentality is an implicit admission that the unborn baby is less significant than an a already born human. There's no wiggle room to try and justify it, assuming that one believes the unborn baby should be aborted if it's pretty much certain that the mother will die yet at the same time would scold/hate a mother that puts her life before her 10 year old/however old child.
You believe the mother should have built a strong enough bond within that time to sacrifice her life for her child's?
That's not helping the argument. That's an admission that it's not unjust to throw away a life that one doesn't have any feelings for, let alone emotional pain in rape cases. It's a tacit admission that an unborn baby would be okay to sacrifice because the mother haven't had the experience of seeing the child grow. In the end, that would be an argument in favor of the abortionist.
You believe that the young should come first?
Then you should be against an abortion even if the mother's chances of living are zero.
You think the child's life is more important than the unborn baby?
Then you're making a hierarchy of life in your own mind, and is not even aware of it. You're closer to the abortionist than you seemingly believe.
You believe that it's not fair since the mother of the already born child has to choose within a very brief moment of time if it's her or child whereas the mother of the unborn has 9 months to do so?
It would still be missing the mark. You're in agreement that it's justified to abort the unborn child if the mother is certain to die from it. Even if the decision of the mother would have been different if given more time, it doesn't change the fact you would have berated her for choosing her life over her 10 year old's, yet still support the mother who aborted the child when her life was in great danger.
You would condone or believe that it's justifiable for the mother to sacrifice the child to save her own life?
That's fine. Just think again when you try to berate someone for saying that they don't care about what cruel things happens to other people as long as it isn't happening to them, even if it's their own blood.
I'd also ask you why you're even trying to force the mother to carry the baby inside her if you have that mentality.
You believe the situation to be incomparable?
Read everything above. I just broke everything down to show why it's not about the scenario as much as it is about the justifications behind a mother choosing her life over her conceived child/unborn child.
If you have a point to make on this scenario, would it be to 'win' the argument despite still feeling like you're unjustly choosing when your morality applies?
I'd ask you to be honest with yourself.
You would still look down on and berate a mother who aborted her baby despite being certain to die? So this scenario doesn't apply to you?
Then I question if you're really pro life.
....
Moving on, stress can cause severe problems for the baby:
You must be registered for see links
^You guys should really take a look at that.
I wonder how that would factor in for a pregnant woman that isn't even motivated to carry the baby and give birth.
There's this article to:
You must be registered for see links
I found this bit interesting:
"Personality traits that might account for some women being better able to handle stress include optimism, self-esteem, a feeling of control over one's life, emotional suppression or expression, and hostility, says Dr. Wadhwa."
"That's what makes health providers so reluctant to emphasize the connection between stress and pregnancy problems. They say a lot of the differences come down to women's personalities and how they cope with stress. Besides, who wants to lay even more guilt and anxiety on a woman who is already stressed?"
There's so many variables and factors to consider here, the woman may not even possess most of those personality traits. And I'd imagine that being forced to carry around the baby when you don't want it is one of the most stressful emotions she can experience. The baby may even have defects, increasing the possibility of him/her not even enjoying life.
All in all, I agree with you, it's all about morality, which can be ambiguous. In such a situation, I wouldn't force my morality and even desires on her, and I will try to spare her my ignorance (not know exactly how it feels to put up with all the pains, and carry a child around for 9 months).
@Bold, this too.