Lost my bestfriend.

[Whizgigger]

Sorry to hear about that. I have zero tolerance for cheating so my honest advice would be to stay separated and move on. You supported her all these years and yet she betrays you which is immensely disrespectful. With that said, I believe the most important thing is for the both of you to continue being a part of your daughters's life regardless if you guys are separated. And the next being for the sake of your daughter, the both of you eventually reconcile whether it be acknowledging the both of you are going your own separate ways but will still keep a healthy relationship as parents or you end up getting back together: that decision is yours and hers to make.

Wish you the best man.


Edit:just saw your other post, I really suggest you stay separated if you have to beg for her to come back. It won't work if only one side wants to mend things, while the other refuses

Glad you understand :/ it just sucks because she was my everything, and then all of a sudden shes not the same person I married. Totally changed into someone without value, self-respect, or any sense of character...

 

[Endou]

Shit, haven't really been in this situation before, I don't know what to say. But, wow, that is heartbreaking to say the least, and I really wish things could go better for you.

 

[Whizgigger]

Yeah this is a major roller coaster ride in my life. A shitty one.

 

[-R-]

OK then....

1) Since she cheated on you and requested a divorce you might get the better share. Picture the FB message so it can help you out in court

2) Try to take the baby's custody, since she cheated on you what's gonna stop her from cheating again. So your child's life would be unstable if your wife took her, if she kept on changing houses the baby's condition would be unstable.

3) Never ever get back to her, even if she's begging, since she cheated on you once whats gonna stop her from doing it again ?

4) Dont move out of the house, until you get a court decision. Be stubborn with the judge for property.

5) Hire a good lawyer, or, if you have the right evidence you can win the case with out a lawyer.

And, good luck with your future. IF your 30 or 29, go find a new one, its not that late. I know you're heartbroken, but whining isn't gonna help........

 

[rickjamesbitceh]

She seems narcissistic, and you an enabler. You should've told that dead-weight sack of shit to either pick up a shovel or her bags long ago. I can sort of understand the pain you must be in, but meh it ain't me so I'll spare my hollow commiserations. 'Scuse the computer chair psychologist presumption, but look up co-dependency. If anything I'd be more angry than sad. Acting the role of doormat and getting walked over all these years and now you're begging for more abuse? It's kind of sickening.

 

[EnDash]

Glad you understand :/ it just sucks because she was my everything, and then all of a sudden shes not the same person I married. Totally changed into someone without value, self-respect, or any sense of character...

i'm so so sorry to hear that, it must have been a huge turn of events for the worse. and i can't really give you any advice to make you feel better.

i'm sorry to say she probably changed a long time ago, and you just found out now. it's cruel but this should be a lesson for you to be smarter next time. to be stronger and more independent. i want to warn you now that your wife might come to you again in the future, and demand money or help and try to play on your heart. don't let her! for the sake of your daughter and yourself you must be smarter and let go, and if you can forget about that woman. i'm sorry but i don't think you can come back from something like this...

i hope you can put this chapter in your life behind you as quick as possible, and that you have other friends and family to replace that emptiness you feel right now.

 

[ChrisWolf]

Listen man life hits you hard sometimes, it'll get you right where your the weakest it'll hit what you care about the most, it's gut wrenchingly painful and it makes you wanna give up everything. But you need to let go, its the only way, I promise you.

 

[Whizgigger]

She seems narcissistic, and you an enabler. You should've told that dead-weight sack of shit to either pick up a shovel or her bags long ago. I can sort of understand the pain you must be in, but meh it ain't me so I'll spare my hollow commiserations. 'Scuse the computer chair psychologist presumption, but look up co-dependency. If anything I'd be more angry than sad. Acting the role of doormat and getting walked over all these years and now you're begging for more abuse? It's kind of sickening.

Jeez man, I looked up the stuff you said, its deep. Sorta hit me like a truck. Are you calling me Co-dependent or her? Or both? But wow.

 

[Whizgigger]

i'm so so sorry to hear that, it must have been a huge turn of events for the worse. and i can't really give you any advice to make you feel better.

i'm sorry to say she probably changed a long time ago, and you just found out now. it's cruel but this should be a lesson for you to be smarter next time. to be stronger and more independent. i want to warn you now that your wife might come to you again in the future, and demand money or help and try to play on your heart. don't let her! for the sake of your daughter and yourself you must be smarter and let go, and if you can forget about that woman. i'm sorry but i don't think you can come back from something like this...

i hope you can put this chapter in your life behind you as quick as possible, and that you have other friends and family to replace that emptiness you feel right now.

Yeah dude you are totally right