female advice pls

[sage22]

7 out of ten posters here are male! lol
Anyway from a female's perspective:
Just ask her - imo guys are creepier when they're acting awkward around you - even though they just might be looking out for you or trying to find a way to tell you they like you. Be straight forward, but don't make it sound like it came from nowhere. And don't bring up the fact she's loved from you from a young age right away. Then it'll become awkward from there onwards.
Despite someone saying not to talk to her - you should, or at least indirectly. Ask your best friend or the girl's parents or even your parents to throw in a word for you that you are interested if you are not confident enough to approach her directly.
And bud, if she's the right one for you - fate will have it even if its not right now, it could be in another few years. Just don't be desperate or pushy or awkward. Keep your dignity!

Im not afraid to talk to any girl but I know it will be awkward because we have had a conversation about it before the day before she turned 15. I have always tried to distance myself from her mainly because of how young she was. But my main concern is how will my bestfriend react to the situation even tho she know her cousin have always had a crush on me I'm not the type of guy to just hop on any girl that comes his way. My loyalty has to be to her first because we have been thru thick n thin literally just the 2 of us together. So how would u feel if it was your bestfriend and younger cousin

 

[COLOSSAL TITAN]

Im not afraid to talk to any girl but I know it will be awkward because we have had a conversation about it before the day before she turned 15. I have always tried to distance myself from her mainly because of how young she was. But my main concern is how will my bestfriend react to the situation even tho she know her cousin have always had a crush on me I'm not the type of guy to just hop on any girl that comes his way. My loyalty has to be to her first because we have been thru thick n thin literally just the 2 of us together. So how would u feel if it was your bestfriend and younger cousin

Weird question but are you in the friendzone with your BF, or is it a bit complicated?

 

[sage22]

If you don't want it to look like you were stalking her since she is 13 you should create a faux sudden interest or sign of affection for her, if you go straight into talking with her you may be able to explain why you like her and for how long, but there will always be that memory of 'why hasn't he said this before' you know.

You may be able to tell her that you see a future wife in her because of her great qualities, it doesn't look weird when someone talks about qualities, it becomes weird when you tell her that you like her for her appearance since you've known her for so long.

That's kinda a good idea but it may seem like I'm playing games because until recently i have tried to distance myself from her for her own good n my protection n the only reason I'm thinking about it now is because I been drinking n she invited me to her birthday party but I definitely want to be with her. She made me pancakes n the quickest way to my heart is food. I love a girl that can cook cuz I get the munchies lol

 

[sage22]

Weird question but are you in the friendzone with your BF, or is it a bit complicated?

She is lesbian but we have had *** but no we are just friends

 

[sage22]

Weird question but are you in the friendzone with your BF, or is it a bit complicated?

Bestfriends actually like have been their for her during her worst times because that's the type of person I am n she has help me out a lot especially grow as a man n human being but we both know where we stand but things can quickly change when family gets involved especially younger siblings

 

[ITACHIUCHIA101]

She is lesbian but we have had *** but no we are just friends

I like this guy xD
(No homo)

 

[COLOSSAL TITAN]

She is lesbian but we have had *** but no we are just friends

If she's lesbian it shouldn't be that hard for her to understand bro, if you are sure she doesn't like you there shouldn't be any problem with you going out with her cousin.

Try that mate, if that doesn't help just tell her why you tried to keep distance and tell her that you did it because you didn't think it was right to fall in love with someone who isn't 'legal'. It's the truth and it justifies your acts ^^

 

[sage22]

I like this guy xD
(No homo)

Lol thanks I don't honestly mean to sound like I'm bragging but I get along with most people I meet n I'm 1 of the weirdest people on the planet.
I'm black n pretty athletic but love science more then sports.
I grew up in a Christian home but I'm atheist.
My favorite musician is the weeknd n Jay-Z but I hate modern day rap.
I love *** n drugs but u will never find a guy who is as respectable n demands respect like I do.
Actually I'm just weird

 

[ITACHIUCHIA101]

Lol thanks I don't honestly mean to sound like I'm bragging but I get along with most people I meet n I'm 1 of the weirdest people on the planet.
I'm black n pretty athletic but love science more then sports.
I grew up in a Christian home but I'm atheist.
My favorite musician is the weeknd n Jay-Z but I hate modern day rap.
I love *** n drugs but u will never find a guy who is as respectable n demands respect like I do.
Actually I'm just weird

I'm probably the average kid who doesn't care about much at the moment. Except with better baseball skills and an above average intelligence.

But when you are diverse like that it is usually pretty easy to make friends.

 

[sage22]

I'm probably the average kid who doesn't care about much at the moment. Except with better baseball skills and an above average intelligence.

But when you are diverse like that it is usually pretty easy to make friends.

Lol yea I make a lot of friends n get along with most people until they find out I'm not religious then they look at me like I'm a contagious disease or something lol . But hey I like who I am n being different

 

[ITACHIUCHIA101]

Lol yea I make a lot of friends n get along with most people until they find out I'm not religious then they look at me like I'm a contagious disease or something lol . But hey I like who I am n being different

I do the family religious stuff with my family but I'm agnostic.

 

[sage22]

I do the family religious stuff with my family but I'm agnostic.

Thats cooll I would have to say I'm more agnostic then atheist also even tho I don't believe n god I'm not sure if their is or isn't one I just find it hardly unlikely

 

[YowYan]

7 out of ten posters here are male! lol
Anyway from a female's perspective:
Just ask her - imo guys are creepier when they're acting awkward around you - even though they just might be looking out for you or trying to find a way to tell you they like you. Be straight forward, but don't make it sound like it came from nowhere. And don't bring up the fact she's loved from you from a young age right away. Then it'll become awkward from there onwards.
Despite someone saying not to talk to her - you should, or at least indirectly. Ask your best friend or the girl's parents or even your parents to throw in a word for you that you are interested if you are not confident enough to approach her directly.
And bud, if she's the right one for you - fate will have it even if its not right now, it could be in another few years. Just don't be desperate or pushy or awkward. Keep your dignity!

What the hell lol. Asking her parents to let their daughter know you like her? How pathetic. That must be a cultural thing. I don't even understand why the guy is thinking about wanting to marry her if those two have yet to really get to know each other in a relationship.

 

[ITACHIUCHIA101]

I always felt that being straight atheist or hardcore Christian was kinda ignorant, no offence to anyone, but everyone should just accept that there is no proof and never will be. Unless of course the Christians were right haha.
Done spamming!

 

[sage22]

What the hell lol. Asking her parents to let their daughter know you like her? How pathetic. That must be a cultural thing. I don't even understand why the guy is thinking about wanting to marry her if those two have yet to really get to know each other in a relationship.

I have known her for almost 5yrs n even tho we haven't been in a relationship the stuff she has been shown willing to do for me let's me know she is wifey material

 

[Hikari Uchiha Senju]

I think you should come up to her... The age doesn't matter, and I'm sure your friend won't mind (unless she also has a crush on you)

 

[sage22]

I always felt that being straight atheist or hardcore Christian was kinda ignorant, no offence to anyone, but everyone should just accept that there is no proof and never will be. Unless of course the Christians were right haha.
Done spamming!

That is so true. I wonder why the most intellectual people are not religious n just like u I don't mean to upset or disrespect anyone but I'm 100% sure Christianity is just an ignorant concept created to try to give human beings moral n confront throughout life

 

[Alice in Noodleland]

That is so true. I wonder why the most intellectual people are not religious n just like u I don't mean to upset or disrespect anyone but I'm 100% sure Christianity is just an ignorant concept created to try to give human beings moral n confront throughout life

->A statement and will remain like this, until proven.


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Now , Back to your story. I'm not a relationship expert , but as A female and older than you I will give you my two cents.


Forget about the Marriage thing for now. You're just 22 and she's only 18. Given that you had *** with her cousin, and I dont know if the that " magic "is still happening between the the two of you .I think the best thing to do is let her see the world first. Let her meet some other guy And if she doesnt change her feelings, then go, pursue her.


But wait, Did you ever ask yourself if you really liked her? Or you just feel burden of her infatuation to you.

 

[7PointOh]

I just gonna go with the bro code on this. Never hook up with your friends family. It doesn't matter if your friend is a chick. I was inclined to say go for it but after you done the deed with your friend, it brings up another unwritten rule of being a man. Never fool around with a family member of a girl you slept with. Because, and I hate to sound misogynistic, but bishes be crazy. You'll save yourself a lot of headaches and hassles. Like getting a brick through the window of your car.

 

[BestFriendsForever]

She's almost 18, there is no need to hesitate and go to talk to her! Tell her all you've got and don't mention marriage. I'd run away If I heard that but that is what I think. XD
So what if she is related to your best friend? I don't see any problems in that...
Just go and ask her, you can't lose anything! Good luck!