[Discussion] Is it okay to be afraid?

[Zenic]

I know this sounds stupid but is it natural to be afraid of something or an issue that can't do any harm? I'm having a dilemma (long story) and I'm afraid to confront it. When I think about it there's nothing to be scared of but when I think about DOING it I just can't, it's hard to explain.

I think it's kind of my brother and dads fault because during my childhood they would make fun of me for being scared (playfully obviously) and I always tried to hide my fear.

How can I build up the nerve to confront the problem?

 

[Zeph]

Come on dude.. be a man

 

[Uchiha Elvin]

Come on dude.. be a man

yeah.. be a man..
just like Russell Peters says BE A MAN..
overcome ur fears dude
n there aint any fear which cant be overcomed

 

[smokesup]

Make clay statues of the situation and sit with them and talk to them. Then make bigger statues and talk with them and act on the scenario. Do this for a few weeks, gradually making the statues bigger until they are life size. Then get really high and actually do the thing you are scared of. It's what I do and it works about half the time.
Also, try to imagine everyone naked. I had to make a really important speech one day and I was terrified, I would actually start shaking. So when I finally got up there on the big day that I had been terrified of for soooooo long, I took a breath and I imagined EVERYONE naked.....the judge, the jury, my lawyer, and I made my speech. It worked, and I'm a free man!!!!!!!

 

[~Naruto&Itachi~]

What's the problem?

 

[S A G E]

Just do it. Treat your fears like they are nothing

 

[Zenic]

You really love making threads don't you?

I love reading peoples opinions if that's what you mean

EDIT: Sometimes you feel lost and don't know any other way of fixing problems so you resort to online forums lol

 

[Punk Hazard]

The real man isn't the one who ignores fear. If someone does that, then he's simply running from it and his problems. A real man has the strength to accept, face and overcome his fears.

 

[dark dreams]

i think you didnt watch naruto deeply there is answer for every fear just keep on trying till you overcome it

 

[Fecal Matter]

Fear shows you weakness and overcoming that weakness makes you stronger.What ever it is you're scared of just charge at it without thinking,it works for me anyway.Sorry if my post wasn't useful.

 

[Zenic]

The real man isn't the one who ignores fear. If someone does that, then he's simply running from it and his problems. A real man has the strength to accept, face and overcome his fears.

Easy to say it, tell me you've never been afraid of just talking?

 

[smokesup]

Imagining the situation is always worse, when you actually do it, it's never as bad. You can imagine all sorts of scenarios but when you actually do it, it's never the way you thought it would be.

 

[Punk Hazard]

Easy to say it, tell me you've never been afraid of just talking?

To some people, not really. Nervous, but not afraid. Don't get these two feelings mixed up.

 

[pandu]

Get drunk man.Seriously,alcohol helps a lot.

 

[ziggyZ]

Hit a bong and you'd be ready to face anything.

 

[Iruka]

A bit more detail may be required if you want specific answers. What is causing the fear?

I know this sounds stupid but is it natural to be afraid of something or an issue that can't do any harm?

People worry about a lot of things, just because something doesn't cause harm doesn't mean you're wrong for worrying about it.
I suffer from social anxiety... I seriously have a, now mild, phobia of social situations. Do I think that going out and being around people will cause me harm? Nope. Does that stop me from stressing over it? Nope.

It's really hard to give advice without any further details. In my experience fear isn't a problem so long as it doesn't impede your life. As soon as you begin to avoid things because of your fear, then you need to address it. It pays to deal with things sooner rather than later, it took me about 4-5 years to do anything in my case and it eventually lead to depression.

 

[BazzBee]

I love reading peoples opinions if that's what you mean

EDIT: Sometimes you feel lost and don't know any other way of fixing problems so you resort to online forums lol

Yeah but you got way to many problems ! i have seen 10 posts today about your life

 

[Lawliet L]

were all afraid about something thats normal but it depends on what were afraid off, i'll tell you what im afraid off, to lose someone so i trained from karate to judo for 7 years to protect them and the second thing i was afraid off is regret, that shit always drive me crazy so i prefer to be honest know what im saying? HERE'S SOME ADVICE BRO BE A MAN AND BE HONEST TO WHAT IS REAL AND NOT.

 

[Zenic]

Yeah but you got way to many problems ! i have seen 10 posts today about your life

This is only the second one the whole time I've been on NB -.-

 

[YokoKurama]

Just do it. Treat your fears like they are nothing

This is what I was going to say. You just gotta go for it and hope for the best.