Why do I have low esteem ?

[rinnegan human puppet]

get a lot money quick that way u can get two girlfriends and a side chick without trying

:bdpf:

#thuglife

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Yep that was pretty spot on I just don't like myself tbh

I try but I feel disgusting idk it's been eating me up for a while like I don't belong anywhere feels like I was here by accident

Well I don't know if you really want to go into this in a thread since it's pretty deep but things to think about to solve this.

1. Why do you feel disgusting?
-Is it from your own perception or societies that you feel you have to meet?
-Do you have people in your life that belittle you constantly?
- Are you comparing yourself to others that you feel inferior too? And why?

2. Why do you feel like you don't belong?
-Is it loneliness?
-Do you feel like like there's some standard or norm that you should meet that others have and you haven't?
-As a child were you excluded from most things by others your age?

3. What would make you like yourself more?
-Are there any traits or qualities you would like to have?
-Do you want a romantic relationship?
-Is there anyone you want to impress?
-Are there goals you would really like to achieve?

There's a millions scenarios but you really have to think for yourself about why you feel the way you do. It's hard but nothing worth having is easy to obtain, including self esteem.

Not to mention you have to recondition your train of thoughts towards a positive scale. It will seem forced at first and you'll think you're lying to yourself but you have to believe it. Some things you can say to yourself daily to help your train your thought process. It sounds corny but you have to believe to achieve.

- I love myself and all my faults completely
- I approve of myself and feel great about myself
- I radiate love and respect and receive it in return
- My high self esteem allows me to respect myself and others without fear
- I deserve all that is good. Not misery and suffering
- I release the past and live in the present, that is mine.
- I am a unique and a special person and worthy of respect from others
- It matters little what others say. What matters is how I react and what I believe of myself.

It takes practice but after a while it will become apart of your being. But if you really want to feel better about yourself you are literally the only person that can achieve this, no one can do it for you.

 

[TNC Xlll]

You're the one holding yourself back
It's always up to you, to take the steps to move forward
Friends can give you a push, but you're the only who can break the chains that keeps holding you

 

[SumnNarutoRelated]

Nobody knows how u feel on the inside. Keep them in the dark about how u rly feel and they'll always wonder if u feel the same way about them. That's the secret.

 

[BlazeRelease]

@bold so true that's how I feel like I'm not good enough no matter how hard I try

The important thing to remember is that you still matter. It doesnt matter who cares for you, but someone will, and that means your enough for them. You shouldn't worry about pleasing everyone, especially people you don't know. If anyone says you aren't good enough; guess what, you are already better than what they deserve, so don't sweat it.

 

[Funky Tiger]

talk to cute girls just like you do to your guy friends. if they like you, they will give you enough hints that help you move forward with a relationship. otherwise, you just made a new friend, a new contact. and new contacts can come in handy when you least expect them to.

 

[SirCaedus]

Being shy =/ low self esteem.

Shyness is a great noble trait that is greatly under appreciated in the world, but coupled with low self confidence it is a dangerous thing. I believe that you need to surround yourself with good people who will by nature tell you good things about yourself and also think about the good things about yourself that's rare in other people (such as your shyness) and that will make you have a truly strong self belief in yourself.