When you lose someone...

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It's not always up to yourself. Cheerful people too have hardships. It's not that simple so that's why I raised the discussion. But I appreciate your inshight man, your partly right.
I agree. Everyone has hardships, but when you're down, what can you accomplish? You'll still be in pain. If you're happy, then atleast you won't be in pain. Pain will attack those who are happy more or atleast harder, but it beats getting nowhere. Would you'd rather move on and experience new happiness and pain, or do nothing and be stuck in the same pain?
 

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I agree. Everyone has hardships, but when you're down, what can you accomplish? You'll still be in pain. If you're happy, then atleast you won't be in pain. Pain will attack those who are happy more or atleast harder, but it beats getting nowhere. Would you'd rather move on and experience new happiness and pain, or do nothing and be stuck in the same pain?
That's true. And the answer to what your saying is still something I need to figure out. 'Cause it's not so simple. Is it easier to move on and face new hardships (so that you are facing the end of your limit) or just stay put in the your sorrow state of mind where no one can hurt you.
 

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Having to break up because of such reason is going to hurt and for a while. But, time heals everything. Try to keep yourself busy as much as you can. One has to move on. At least you do not have bitter memories to get over with. It was nice as long as it continued.
 

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Life is one big hardship that one must endure. Is there anything else to say?
I guess not. We'll just have to live through it.

Having to break up because of such reason is going to hurt and for a while. But, time heals everything. Try to keep yourself busy as much as you can. One has to move on. At least you do not have bitter memories to get over with. It was nice as long as it continued.
Yeah, your right about the keeping myself busy part. And it's not going to hurt so much 'cause I know it was the right thing to do. But we'll never forget each other. And that's the f*cked up thing in this life, when you know you have found the right one but it's just not going to work : /

All good things come to an end.
 

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Life is hard, and sometimes stuff happen and we have to deal with it and get on with our lifes. But it's not always easy AT ALL. How do you people deal with break ups or even losing someone forever (death)?

I myself just broke up with my girlfriend. We knew everything about each other, and we thought we we're gonna be together forever, but the miles between us (60) just drove us away from each other. Ending tear us both apart and we said that we won't never forget what we had. Now I'm sipping beer (and listening to this ) and thinking is life always going to be like this...? That there's no love without sacrifice. That all good things come to an end. How can you not be skeptic in that kind of world. Where do you seek comfort from?

This is how I felt today after I agreed to break up 'cause it was the best choice:
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(gay I know but that's how I felt, cause that was the hardest story that I've ever told)

I'm not usually like this and I'm not trying to be selfish crybaby, but I created this thread so that I can hear your opinions that how you cope with situations like this. What has happened to you that's put you up for a test? No matter how you look at it, life's always hard, but well just have to move on, the question is how... how do you fill that void in your life?

"When the drugs don't work no more you get high on life", right?
At some point i know how you fell...and i am sorry for thing that happened to you...
But...why allow those miles to separate you?...why don't you fight for your love...?:confused:
Well...if you can't....then you have to let it all go...i suppose...but keep good memories....cuz after everything nice memories are what keeps us alive after all...and...remember...things that don't kill us...usually make us stronger...
 

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At some point i know how you fell...and i am sorry for thing that happened to you...
But...why allow those miles to separate you?...why don't you fight for your love...?:confused:
Well...if you can't....then you have to let it all go...i suppose...but keep good memories....cuz after everything nice memories are what keeps us alive after all...and...remember...things that don't kill us...usually make us stronger...
'Cause there's more frustration in that kind of relationship than there is joy...you can't see regularly and you realize there's no future if you don't live close by. Everything becomes so hard, so you'll just have to let each other go. But at least we have our memories. Thanks man.
 

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aww, well im sorry to hear that...i havent gone through half of what youve been through, hope u feel better though
Thanks, I'll hope you don't have to go through anything like that. But bad feelings seem to be more than a rule than an exception in this world. We'll just all have to go through them.
 

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dude well to mke u comfy, i have been thru tht 2 times..... xd
so i know wht it feels like if its first time...
Well, I'm 22 so I have been through break ups and good and bad relationships but this was something that I didn't except. That a distance just comes between you two, and you realize it's the end of you.
 

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Well, I'm 22 so I have been through break ups and good and bad relationships but this was something that I didn't except. That a distance just comes between you two, and you realize it's the end of you.
well i'm too young then to experience it at 20 though....
but gotta say u reminded me of those memoirs..
 

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Life has it's ups and downs, I know that I will go through these ups and downs but I'll go through them, with God's help. Meanwhile I'd suggest you to listen to this song, read the lyrics carefully!
 

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Life has it's ups and downs, I know that I will go through these ups and downs but I'll go through them, with God's help. Meanwhile I'd suggest you to listen to this song, read the lyrics carefully!
Thanks man! Nice song and lyrics, they really fit into the theme. Just put up more songs if you feel like it!
 

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aww.. just cry it all out.. it will help..
only true men cries so there's nothing wrong with it..
just bear with the pain.. and as time goes.. the pain will decrease..
just dun give up okay..? everything will be alright..
I feel that you're a great guy, so I know you'll be happy again.. it's just not now..
 

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aww.. just cry it all out.. it will help..
only true men cries so there's nothing wrong with it..
just bear with the pain.. and as time goes.. the pain will decrease..
just dun give up okay..? everything will be alright..
I feel that you're a great guy, so I know you'll be happy again.. it's just not now..
Yeah I'll guess it'll be alright..But it was a really hard decision, and now it's even harder trying not to look back.

But thanks man, means alot.
 

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i know exactly how you feel, and it's like you just wanna escape from the pain right?? just cry it all out and try and keep your mind on things the pain will go away soon, or just fully come to terms with what happened (but don't think about it too much) and pretty much tell yourself it's ok because it is and you'll be fine i promise [=
life is hard i guess..

people come and go... they say but it's not that easy...

well what do i do...?

i cry

then... i drink

then... i let go

then... i move on...

life is hard but living is harder...

but you need to grasp yours and live with it...

(so man cheer up.. and as i said earlier.. here's another bottle for you...)
That sucks man, but I believe it'll get better. Life has ups and downs.
Well, to be honest I don't know how you feel! I really don't but I'm giving it a shot, I'd like to say to you that you don't need to be so desperate, go outside or hang out with your friend, it's useless if you sit on a chair waiting for a miracle to fill that emptiness which is created in your heart, things like that WON'T happen, you can determine if you're going to be happy and just get over with it or just be sad!
When u first break up with sum1 it feels like the end of the world...Ur in a lot of pain and u feel like that person is irreplaceable, but, theres many fishes in the sea and even though at the time she feels like "the one" u'll find another. Time will heal all pain. Losing a loved one is hard. Always remember them and make them proud of what u've become if they were still alive.

Not to get too personal(pm me if u want), but if u knew everything bout each other n love each other so much y did 60 miles stop u..That is only an hour drive... but yes I know long distance relationships can be hard...but if the attraction n love is strong enuff the distance and time apart won't break it. I am in a LDR myself... she lives across the globe...so i know it can be hard, but, like i said if the attraction n love is strong enuff they will wait 4 u.

U will find another girl...believe it.... and at least u n ur ex didnt break up on bad terms so in the future u can get back wit each other(idk ur exact circumstance) Crying is not gay btw. Many guys do it but we have this image of being masculine so many ppl dun wana talk bout it, but showing vulnerability is attractive quality as well. It seems to me u love her more than she loves u....like did she bring up the thing about breaking up first?

What I'd suggest right now is for u to just cry it all out of ur system... and then stop dwelling on the negative n how hard this situation is....Start feeling happy as soon as possible and move on. There's many fishes in the sea and u'll find sum1 new soon.
Sorry for your loss.
sorry am sure it will get better :)
Having to break up because of such reason is going to hurt and for a while. But, time heals everything. Try to keep yourself busy as much as you can. One has to move on. At least you do not have bitter memories to get over with. It was nice as long as it continued.
At some point i know how you fell...and i am sorry for thing that happened to you...
But...why allow those miles to separate you?...why don't you fight for your love...?:confused:
Well...if you can't....then you have to let it all go...i suppose...but keep good memories....cuz after everything nice memories are what keeps us alive after all...and...remember...things that don't kill us...usually make us stronger...
Got one thing to say...

Cheer-up dude, be a braveheart...
aww, well im sorry to hear that...i havent gone through half of what youve been through, hope u feel better though
dude well to mke u comfy, i have been thru tht 2 times..... xd
so i know wht it feels like if its first time...
aww.. just cry it all out.. it will help..
only true men cries so there's nothing wrong with it..
just bear with the pain.. and as time goes.. the pain will decrease..
just dun give up okay..? everything will be alright..
I feel that you're a great guy, so I know you'll be happy again.. it's just not now..

I truly like to thank all you guys/girls who replied into this thread and said something positive to me and tried to make me feel better. It meant alot and I didn't expect the feedback to be something like this. And although I didn't post this thread to get those kinds of comments, then you sure as hell made me feel better than what I would've felt when if I didn't create this thread.

You guys are awesome, and I'm amazed that NB is full of likes of you. Thank you.
 
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