What's your dream guy/girl?
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I guess there are two ways to perceive a long list of preferences describing your dream guy/girl. The first, building the most perfect person in the world using your imagination. The second, while you're picking out the bricks you like from that building, you're also subtracting from its perfection.
I've made a list of preferences before, on a piece of paper. Then, one person came along and gave me more paper that I could never hope to fill the pages of, at least not in this lifetime. I kinda just go with the flow now.
I've made a list of preferences before, on a piece of paper. Then, one person came along and gave me more paper that I could never hope to fill the pages of, at least not in this lifetime. I kinda just go with the flow now.
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Personality (Matters to me the most) Looks is a minor thing compared to that.
Preferably shorter than me as I'm around 6'3.
I like blonds but anything goes for me.
Big Boobs or booty doesn't matter to me. (thats not to say I dont find them nice)
One that is understanding and that we share alot in common.
I don't really ask for much I think lol she doesn't have to be perfect.
Preferably shorter than me as I'm around 6'3.
I like blonds but anything goes for me.
Big Boobs or booty doesn't matter to me. (thats not to say I dont find them nice)
One that is understanding and that we share alot in common.
I don't really ask for much I think lol she doesn't have to be perfect.
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The Sach
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Life is never perfect, because at the end of the day, life isn't fairy tail. You can't just spend your life thinking about a dream-girl who doesn't exist, or if she does many things play a big role in your and her relation.
I once used the second method, and then everything turned around fine, unless 'something happened', and we had to break up, despite of she being my dream girl and hence you can't just go for dream girl, rather think about 'normal girl'. Being 'normal' or 'natural' is tougher than being 'ideal'.
She's hot ... that ass chin on a million though :snick:
First, hi Sach lol.
Life isn't perfect, but an ideal lover isn't totally without merit. Personality traits aren't a fairy tail. It just comes down to how many desired qualities we believe one person can have. Then that comes down to the person's own imagination or desires/presences. The dream girl/guy may be the furthest thing from a dream depending on the person's preferences.
I wouldn't tell anyone and everyone that their dream person doesn't exist.
This is how I usually prefer it. Of course, the human in me still drives me to look for certain traits. Though, you're mistaken in using the word "normal" to contrast "dream girl". The dream girl isn't necessarily abnormal. They are human with traits that another individual desires. If every human got their dream lover, or at least a considerable amount of the population did, would that mean there's not really any normal people in the world? Though I guess you can look at it as everyone being special as well.
I don't frown on anyone with a preference list, in fact I myself still have my preferences. A lot of them I just don't prioritize.
Also, it's not about how tough it is being ideal or normal. It's just about being yourself. I wouldn't choose a mate just because she worked hard in being something she was not.
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The Sach
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I saw through that lol, btw.Lol
Yeah personality traits aren't fairy tails, but a desire to get your 'dream girl', and thinking that 'you will end up with her someday' is certainly close to a fairy tail. About preferences and qualities go back to this thread and tell me, what most of the guys/girls want in their 'ideal lover'? They want her/him to have good physical appearance, they want her to look like an actress, no one of them said I want to marry with a 'natural girl' who doesn't look attractive but still is 'real' to me, natural in her 'physical appearance', because they just want to live in dreams, and dreams are sweet when you are sleeping but when you wake up you return to 'reality'. I wouldn't tell anyone that their dream girl doesn't exist too, but it isn't like you can always end up with her, even if you find her, because I said love isn't about only getting your dream girl, it is something more than that.
Now before you say, who said that they want to end up with dream girl, then my answer is, if they don't why to dream? Shouldn't one think about making his dream reality someday?
You missed the point I wanted to make using that 'normal' word.
When I used word normal I was trying to point out the thinking of society about their 'dream girl', just like I said people want their dream girl to have 'big boobs' or good physical appearance, no one wants her to be an 'honest person', who can even tell you what is bad about you on your face.
No one in this world wants to live with a girl who doesn't have good boobs, or ain't that much cute, because for them getting an ideal girl who doesn't even love you is more important than falling in love. For me, concept of ideal girl is related to feelings, and hence related to 'natural girl', who may not be the most beautiful girl in the world, but loves me more than anyone else in the world does, and this is my first preference.
In one of your last post, you said falling love is like falling asleep, do you think that falling asleep is better than staying awake?:|
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Girl , your beauty astonish me ,
so much beautiful , how can this be ?
from your soul , from your heart ,
your feminine curves that catches my eyes ,
feels like been poisoned by a poisonous dart ,
i will be waiting till my dream to bloom ,
from what i see from these eyes ,
i don't want you to be just a dream .
Can't put it to words so wrote it as a poem instead .
so much beautiful , how can this be ?
from your soul , from your heart ,
your feminine curves that catches my eyes ,
feels like been poisoned by a poisonous dart ,
i will be waiting till my dream to bloom ,
from what i see from these eyes ,
i don't want you to be just a dream .
Can't put it to words so wrote it as a poem instead .
Eh saw through what?
It's not, necessarily. It depends on the preferences.
Re-read the posts. There weren't that many that were far-fetched. Also, offline, I've seen many people with attractive girlfriends. I know of several people with attractive girlfriends. I know of several people that have dated attractive girlfriends. I know of several attractive girls with great personalities, are down-to-earth. Heck, the girls on NB are a small example of this. To claim such a thing as unrealistic, or close to a fairy tail, is a huge mistake.
Not to mention beauty is subjective, so you and another person may be picturing very different images.
Because they think it won't be easy to get, that doesn't mean that's the reality. Society has taught us slap the "dream" label on a person that has our preferred qualities. lol some people may list three very common characteristics, and call it their "dream lover". We also have to remember confidence or self-esteem problems may be a factor. Heck, even misuse of the phrase "dream partner" is a factor, as some people could be naming characteristic that may be hard to find in a person, not something they truly believe is without their reach.
Heck, I think there were like two people in this thread that claimed to come close to some/fits the bill of a person's dream list.
I wondered that, though you were using "dream girl" as someone non-existent, then later on used normal to contrast it, leading me to believe you were talking about more qualities than just appearance.You missed the point I wanted to make using that 'normal' word.
When I used word normal I was trying to point out the thinking of society about their 'dream girl', just like I said people want their dream girl to have 'big boobs' or good physical appearance, no one wants her to be an 'honest person', who can even tell you what is bad about you on your face.
No one in this world wants to live with a girl who doesn't have good boobs, or ain't that much cute, because for them getting an ideal girl who doesn't even love you is more important than falling in love. For me, concept of ideal girl is related to feelings, and hence related to 'natural girl', who may not be the most beautiful girl in the world, but loves me more than anyone else in the world does, and this is my first preference.
Meh, I agree. Personality is very important for me. Though, I don't necessarily look down on anyone that focuses more on appearance than they do personality. Also, I think you're exaggerating it a bit here, not everyone has a dream list that includes girls with big boobs or superb physical appearance. This brings us back to my previous post, actually. The attainability of this "dream" person depends on the preferences.
First, I said sometimes. Second, it meant that falling in love can give us another "dream". And third, yes sometimes, I definitely wouldn't want to stay awake if I was really sleepy lol. Not to mention no sleep can be bad for your health
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