What to do when your girlfriend/wife won't allow you to...

[ArabianLuffy]

... play video games?

What to do when your girlfriend/wife won't allow you to keep on practice your favorite hobby?

Perhaps your hobby takes much time that to the point you might forget or to be careless of your role as boyfriend/husband. So if it reached that point, you think she's gonna prevent you from doing what you like to do for long period? And she might put some rules like for example; "no video games, but only in summer you're allowed to play as much as you like." and/or whatever hobby you enjoy doing.

In my case, my wife sees the PS4 and my favorite game "MGS5 TPP" as a nuisance. A thing that maybe it will make me forget that I have a wife I love. She knows how much I'm obsessed with this game. I've been quite inactive from this community because of this game. We've got married on November 19, 2015. Still doing my job as the best husbando/mano in the world.

 

[Marin]

She has no right to attack your hobby. You might as well forbid her from going shopping or meeting her friends because you find it annoying...

 

[The Sach]

Time management son.

 

[CrimsonReaper]

you still gotta give her your time but she shouldn't attack you for playing a game you're passionate about just don't play it too much. My belated congrats hope you work it out.

 

[SSStylish]

Why would I be together with someone who doesn't accept one of my biggest hobbies and passions in the first place? :|

Also MGSV>everything else

 

[ArabianLuffy]

She has no right to attack your hobby. You might as well forbid her from going shopping or meeting her friends because you find it annoying...

I always believe that wife's happiness is family's happiness. My wife and I are still fresh. lol ... but I have to say: a game that requires much and much time

- level up
- developing weapons/items

etc etc

It needs its own time. There is always a time for video game. The question is: When? After we make the first baby? XD

 

[Urda]

I always believe that wife's happiness is family's happiness. My wife and I are still fresh. lol ... but I have to say: a game that requires much and much time

- level up
- developing weapons/items

etc etc

It needs its own time. There is always a time for video game. The question is: When? After we make the first baby? XD

LMAO I dare you to tell her that. xd

 

[The Sach]

Btw, you are newly married right??
It happens for few days, then it will worn off soon. She will become habitual to your stuff and you will also come to know small things about her and will learn to manage stuff. Congratulations, btw.

 

[CrimsonReaper]

I always believe that wife's happiness is family's happiness. My wife and I are still fresh. lol ... but I have to say: a game that requires much and much time

- level up
- developing weapons/items

etc etc

It needs its own time. There is always a time for video game. The question is: When? After we make the first baby? XD

personally, i wouldn't even think of a baby right now, you guys are still pretty new. Also with kids comes a shit ton of responsibilities.

 

[Shuuya]

I'm sure she'll get used to it over time, as you will get used to her hobbies and what not. Btw, congrats on getting married

 

[ArabianLuffy]

Time management son.

Indeed. Though I suck and being careless to manage time. XD

you still gotta give her your time but she shouldn't attack you for playing a game you're passionate about just don't play it too much. My belated congrats hope you work it out.

Still giving her all my time and senses. I flirt with her. Joke with her. Annoy her like how Sanji does with Nami. She's not attacking. She just tells me that soon I'll get back to the game.

Why would I be together with someone who doesn't accept one of my biggest hobbies and passions in the first place? :|

Also MGSV>everything else

She accepts it. She even doesn't mind to cosplay as Quiet.

LMAO I dare you to tell her that. xd

Actually, we talked about when to have a baby. Right now we intend to enjoy our youth before that.

Btw, you are newly married right??
It happens for few days, then it will worn off soon. She will become habitual to your stuff and you will also come to know small things about her and will learn to manage stuff. Congratulations, btw.

Thanks.

For now things go smoothly between me and my wife and I intend to keep it that way as long I'm being honest, passionate and pervy with her like how Sanji does.

 

[Wparker6804]

... play video games?

What to do when your girlfriend/wife won't allow you to keep on practice your favorite hobby?

Perhaps your hobby takes much time that to the point you might forget or to be careless of your role as boyfriend/husband. So if it reached that point, you think she's gonna prevent you from doing what you like to do for long period? And she might put some rules like for example; "no video games, but only in summer you're allowed to play as much as you like." and/or whatever hobby you enjoy doing.

In my case, my wife sees the PS4 and my favorite game "MGS5 TPP" as a nuisance. A thing that maybe it will make me forget that I have a wife I love. She knows how much I'm obsessed with this game. I've been quite inactive from this community because of this game. We've got married on November 19, 2015. Still doing my job as the best husbando/mano in the world.

IF someone's putting a game above their life--ESPECIALLY their wife--I'd have to take her side. When someone's married you have to keep your priorities straight. And if you spend more time with a game than your marriage vows then yes I think her frustration is justified. I'm not saying stop all together (I know how addictive PP is) or let her control your life, but she's still should be treated as #1.

I'm not trying to sound like I think that's the case or that you don't already know this. But if she feels like she's second place to ANYTHING then make sure she's back at #1. If she still is but feels like she isn't, make sure she has proper sight of your feelings and priorities. Communicate, socialize, spend more time with her and (you should have seen this coming before the end of the sentence) bang-bang if need be. Context, communication and expression is key to a relationship.

 

[Hori]

I think you shouldn't play video games like the moment you have free time you play them. Try giving her time but don't quit your hobbies and try and balance the two. Personally I wouldn't stop my BF from playing games, rather I'd tactfully get his mind off that..

Congrats btw.

 

[dark legion]

Try to limit her hobbies aswell. then she'll realize how important they are !

 

[Avani]

I always believe that wife's happiness is family's happiness. My wife and I are still fresh. lol ... but I have to say: a game that requires much and much time

- level up
- developing weapons/items

etc etc

It needs its own time. There is always a time for video game. The question is: When? After we make the first baby? XD

A couple of years or so ago there was a couple- both had the same hobby- unlimited gaming... they got in to news because their infant son died because of hunger and neglect since parents were busy gaming three days in a row...

Hobbies are nice to have but the life and responsibilities also change with our age and status and one has to readjust priorities and manage their time accordingly. What you choose to do and to maintain ( including to what degree) and what you would rather let go than the other option, is up to you.

If she is not compromising on any of her hobbies or habits or life style or goal she had when she was single and asking only you to compromise all the time on every issue, then of course you two need to talk. Sooner the better.

 

[Yubel]

Do your hobbies but don't let it become an obsession, not for your wife but for yourself. How many hours do you play per day approximately? If you're playing like 5 hours/day and she's complaining and you literally got married a month ago. Now is the time to gtfo while you still don't have kids together lol. People can hide who they are for the first 90 days of a relationship, she'll probably get nasty as you settle into the marriage a bit more.

 

[Mikeuhsomething36]

The same thing you do when she's not in the kitchen making you a sandwich

 

[YowYan]

Compromises are the key here. In a relationship, you communicate and compromise to create balance.

 

[~Ethereal~]

That's The Way Love Goes. <3 They will forget about games, after they see that my romantic persona is enough for them.

 

[Wabbit]

Make her busy with a child.