What should i do?
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salamander uchiha
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Damn 123 you're onto a real winner there.
Perhaps she was delayed because she and the other half were procreating, has that thought crossed your mind? Your dilema is, did she stand you up or does she have a genuine reason for not meeting up with you? Do you speak to her and trust her answer or do you outright blank her? What to do?
Well 123 the answer is simple if you remove your hubris that is. The two questions you must ask yourself do you stand a chance and can you truly find somebody better? Depending on your answer you'll be able to resolve your dilemma.
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AllKnowingShinobi
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Borrrriiinggggg ... brah awarkard lunch talk is so bad no one wants to eat and talk or watch a movie at the mall theater maybe at a drive in but fuckk a whole day like that are for your bros. Sounds like your tring to get at her and she feels like that too. Your either friended zoned or borning as hell. Dont ever mention lunch or eating untill youre with her , agian if youre going to mall you better expect to flex your wallet bro or make it seem like your going for some other reason than her.
chopstickchakra
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Well, this thread got interesting.
First off - despite their rude manner of saying it, a number of other people here are somewhat correct in that you are clearly attracted to your friend and want something more from the relationship. Believing that you will be able to advance your relationship without ever making your position clear, or simply by being dutiful, is a good way to get yourself screwed over, chasing a delusion.
Second - this doesn't mean that you must give up spending time with your friend - just that you must be able to place that time within a proper context. Many people want to treat a 'relationship' or prospective one like a sort of investment. Put enough time/effort into it, and it's going to yield something you want. If you are spending time with her with the expectation of it yielding a reward, later - then you're probably in it for the wrong reasons, even if you two were officially dating.
Third... just because a girl isn't in your sight doesn't mean she's getting fucked by someone. Most women go through their day just like everyone else and aren't living like they are trapped in a perpetual porn screening.
It's probably the case that this girl is not entirely comfortable going out with you. On one hand - she doesn't want to hurt you, but on the other hand, she doesn't want to complicate things by potentially advancing the relationship. She probably didn't expect you to drive 2 hours, and threw the idea out there because she didn't want to turn you down, and figured you would more or less find your own excuse to not travel.
Women always seem to underestimate just what a man will do for them, and it often leads to a situation spiraling out of control. Before she knows what is going on, you've bought international plane tickets, booked hotels, and mortgaged your house... and she's like "... holy shit this person is insane..."
Which - to be fair, men are. When we lock in on a singular task (which is what we are wired for, neurologically), we become extremely fixated on it to the exclusion of almost everything else. That proposal to meet on the moon isn't a "oh... well, I'd like to do that, but I don't have a rocket..." - that's a problem that we have been tasked with solving. Girl wants to meet on moon - no rocket, build rocket - meet on moon. Have fabulous romance because she will be impressed and endeared by the dedication.
In reality, she's mildly terrified of what will happen when she says "but... I didn't really want to go to the moon" - and is going to try and find every way out of going to the moon without actually saying she never wanted to go to the moon.
First off - despite their rude manner of saying it, a number of other people here are somewhat correct in that you are clearly attracted to your friend and want something more from the relationship. Believing that you will be able to advance your relationship without ever making your position clear, or simply by being dutiful, is a good way to get yourself screwed over, chasing a delusion.
Second - this doesn't mean that you must give up spending time with your friend - just that you must be able to place that time within a proper context. Many people want to treat a 'relationship' or prospective one like a sort of investment. Put enough time/effort into it, and it's going to yield something you want. If you are spending time with her with the expectation of it yielding a reward, later - then you're probably in it for the wrong reasons, even if you two were officially dating.
Third... just because a girl isn't in your sight doesn't mean she's getting fucked by someone. Most women go through their day just like everyone else and aren't living like they are trapped in a perpetual porn screening.
It's probably the case that this girl is not entirely comfortable going out with you. On one hand - she doesn't want to hurt you, but on the other hand, she doesn't want to complicate things by potentially advancing the relationship. She probably didn't expect you to drive 2 hours, and threw the idea out there because she didn't want to turn you down, and figured you would more or less find your own excuse to not travel.
Women always seem to underestimate just what a man will do for them, and it often leads to a situation spiraling out of control. Before she knows what is going on, you've bought international plane tickets, booked hotels, and mortgaged your house... and she's like "... holy shit this person is insane..."
Which - to be fair, men are. When we lock in on a singular task (which is what we are wired for, neurologically), we become extremely fixated on it to the exclusion of almost everything else. That proposal to meet on the moon isn't a "oh... well, I'd like to do that, but I don't have a rocket..." - that's a problem that we have been tasked with solving. Girl wants to meet on moon - no rocket, build rocket - meet on moon. Have fabulous romance because she will be impressed and endeared by the dedication.
In reality, she's mildly terrified of what will happen when she says "but... I didn't really want to go to the moon" - and is going to try and find every way out of going to the moon without actually saying she never wanted to go to the moon.
Klubargutan
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well, you can "lie" to us...but you can't really lie to yourself.
She was getting hammered, just like Adam said...
Btw...srsly? driving 2 hours to meet her?! Well...tell her to drive 2 hours somewhere close to YOUR place...if she does so, perhaps even 4give her..if not..let her be.....btw....
show us how she looks like..
besides....why the hell would you wanna be with a taken girl?!
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AllKnowingShinobi
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Lol bro i can do what ever , a walk in the mall can be cool if you know what you want. But just a walk and a then a movie is some shit i do with my dog... but since you made it sound like date rather than a hangout , you k8nda presurred this chick to the point she thinks you want bang.
All im saying it sounds like you want more from this chick hence the reason why your asking about cutting her off in a naruto fanbase.....you obviously want her like a part 1 hinata...
If you want to be friends treat her like a friend dont just cut her off thats fucked up. If you want to be more then you need to up your game
