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I have a question and this is mostly directed towards those who know/study law. If it doesn't apply to you, I would still like to hear your opinion however true it may be. Thanks in advance for listening.

So my mother had been taking care of my grandmother for quite some time (3-4 years and then some). My grandma has diabetes and arthritis. One day she received a stroke and a brain hemorrhage which at first put her into a coma for about a couple months. Upon waking up one day and some time after, she got to spend time with my mother who never left her bedside, basically she was always in the hospital 24/7. Even sleeping there to make sure she was alright. So after some more time (months) she, while still able to talk though not move, decided of her own free will to give my mother Power of Attorney. It was stamped with the state seal and all making it legit. When my aunt, who has never been there for my grandmother and only when it convenienced her, show up out of nowhere and tries to boss everyone around telling them what to do. She got to the point where she harassed several hospital staff and was soon asked to never come back. She was furious to know that my mom had power of attorney and not her. Throughout these months she and the rest of the family harassed my mother, sisters, and me through threats of violence. There are several police reports where she had to be escorted out of the house and asked never to come back unless my mother allowed her.

After several months of the same behavior my mother then changed over my grandmas bank account (not even hitting 2 thousand dollars) to her name. She used the money in the account to pay bills that had accumulated since being in the hospital. She then transferred the house from my grandma into her name. This is all happening while she is in the hospital. After a couple months of a downward spiral in my grandmas health, she passed away. A week before she passed my mother had an altercation with my aunt in the hospital where my mother came to the point of actually saying, "You take care of her then. You watch over her and make sure she is getting all the care she needs. That means being on top of the hospital staff to ensure that its getting done".

My mother is a humble woman and hearing her say that is kinda her melting point. She left and thats when she passed away. So now that we she is away to another town, she received an attorney's letter that said that she is supposed to hand them all the receipts and transactions she made in my grandmas name. Logically speaking, why would she need that information if my grandmother is dead and anything she did have, is now in my mothers name. Couldn't she use that information for something evil like forgery or theft? I mean she was never there and all the evidence, if presented in court, would negatively incriminate her.

Thoughts? Advice. I really need some. ( ._.)
 
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I'm a little confused. Did the attorney letter come from an attorney who is representing your aunt? Or is it just an attorney who is helping to make sure the aftermath of your grandmother's estate is taken care of?
 
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I have a question and this is mostly directed towards those who know/study law. If it doesn't apply to you, I would still like to hear your opinion however true it may be. Thanks in advance for listening.

So my mother had been taking care of my grandmother for quite some time (3-4 years and then some). My grandma has diabetes and arthritis. One day she received a stroke and a brain hemorrhage which at first put her into a coma for about a couple months. Upon waking up one day and some time after, she got to spend time with my mother who never left her bedside, basically she was always in the hospital 24/7. Even sleeping there to make sure she was alright. So after some more time (months) she, while still able to talk though not move, decided of her own free will to give my mother Power of Attorney. It was stamped with the state seal and all making it legit. When my aunt, who has never been there for my grandmother and only when it convenienced her, show up out of nowhere and tries to boss everyone around telling them what to do. She got to the point where she harassed several hospital staff and was soon asked to never come back. She was furious to know that my mom had power of attorney and not her. Throughout these months she and the rest of the family harassed my mother, sisters, and me through threats of violence. There are several police reports where she had to be escorted out of the house and asked never to come back unless my mother allowed her.

After several months of the same behavior my mother then changed over my grandmas bank account (not even hitting 2 thousand dollars) to her name. She used the money in the account to pay bills that had accumulated since being in the hospital. She then transferred the house from my grandma into her name. This is all happening while she is in the hospital. After a couple months of a downward spiral in my grandmas health, she passed away. A week before she passed my mother had an altercation with my aunt in the hospital where my mother came to the point of actually saying, "You take care of her then. You watch over her and make sure she is getting all the care she needs. That means being on top of the hospital staff to ensure that its getting done".

My mother is a humble woman and hearing her say that is kinda her melting point. She left and thats when she passed away. So now that we she is away to another town, she received an attorney's letter that said that she is supposed to hand them all the receipts and transactions she made in my grandmas name. Logically speaking, why would she need that information if my grandmother is dead and anything she did have, is now in my mothers name. Couldn't she use that information for something evil like forgery or theft? I mean she was never there and all the evidence, if presented in court, would negatively incriminate her.

Thoughts? Advice. I really need some. ( ._.)
i'm assuming you're young and don't get involved too much in family affairs so you can't really do anything. but from experience brothers and sisters fighting over heritage is a messy buisness. here is what i'm thinking:

1. your grandma should've written a will and testament before her death. it's hard to argue with that.
2. get a lawyer, as best a lawyer as you can afford and don't wait too long. judges and courts have no idea about your family the grandma's opinion and if that sister has a good lawyer they will make it look like your mom is the bad woman in the story.
3. record your sister's threats of violence and arguments, get stuff that clearly show what she is doing. don't rely on words and stories. my family repaired a house years ago and the contractor bailed out in the middle with horrible construction, we sued him and he won the case because we couldn't prove how the house looked when he left. since then we take pictures before, during and after construction so we have proof.

i'm 18, never studied law and doesn't have lots of experience with stuff like that. but i still hope those points will get you thinking how it's going to look like in the court. and you will be a little more prepared.
 
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I'm a little confused. Did the attorney letter come from an attorney who is representing your aunt? Or is it just an attorney who is helping to make sure the aftermath of your grandmother's estate is taken care of?
It was from my Aunt's attorney.

i'm assuming you're young and don't get involved too much in family affairs so you can't really do anything. but from experience brothers and sisters fighting over heritage is a messy buisness. here is what i'm thinking:

1. your grandma should've written a will and testament before her death. it's hard to argue with that.
2. get a lawyer, as best a lawyer as you can afford and don't wait too long. judges and courts have no idea about your family the grandma's opinion and if that sister has a good lawyer they will make it look like your mom is the bad woman in the story.
3. record your sister's threats of violence and arguments, get stuff that clearly show what she is doing. don't rely on words and stories. my family repaired a house years ago and the contractor bailed out in the middle with horrible construction, we sued him and he won the case because we couldn't prove how the house looked when he left. since then we take pictures before, during and after construction so we have proof.

i'm 18, never studied law and doesn't have lots of experience with stuff like that. but i still hope those points will get you thinking how it's going to look like in the court. and you will be a little more prepared.
Ah thanks for the advice. ^__^
 

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It really depends on whether your grandmother has given an enduring power of attorney, which means the powers were to continue to stand until after her death, as a normal one would have automatically ceased after her death.

Would I be right or wrong in saying you implied that your aunt was also giving the same power? If so, then both your mother and your aunt may have to work together, unanimously.
 
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It seems you got some hyenas in your family. Sad.
Anyways, I hope your mom learnt to cope with your grandma's loss. You seem to have a great role model.

Your mm should refrain from givin them any documents/bank sheets. Your mum does not owe them any explanation, legally. (I think)
 
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You have a great mom. Be happy for that.

As for your aunt, the sadist in me wants to FedEx her a balloon filled with your piss, but the more rational part wants your grandmother to get a restraining order against her / disown her. I learnt my law from Boston Legal and restraining orders are magic whenver senior citizens are concerned.

e: i know she's dead, but just get one saying she didn't want her near her. also get the hospital people to complain about her and state that she has a mental illness and is in no sound state of mind to excercise any amount of control over property of any kind.
 
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