Serious Matter

[Ipex]

my friend is diagnosed to have stage 2 ovarian cancer. and i am really upset about it. and plus she is 5months pregnant. im afraid that being pregnant might affect her or her baby. personally she does'nt want to talk about it. and his boyfriend is an as*hole he acts like he does'nt care. i dont know how risky is the situation so im asking for some serious opinions. i know that it is curable but how about the baby? she is 24yrs old, looks healthy and beautiful, joyful but has the tendency to keep matters on her own that's what we are afraid of.

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[Venus]

If she doesn't want to talk about it then let her be. Don't pressure her or anything, that would make her feel like shit and in turn she'd get sicker. I don't know much about cancer or the type cancer she has but it should be doubt with immediately. The only thing you can do is sit back and relax or you'll make her feel uncomfortable which is bad for people that are sick. Don't get in the way of her relationship or whatever, her bf may act like he doesn't care but when they're alone, he'd be the only one that can make her feel better about the situation.

Let her do whatever the "F***!" she wanna do.​

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[Ipex]

If she doesn't want to talk about it then let her be. Don't pressure her or anything, that would make her feel like shit and in turn she'd get sicker. I don't know much about cancer or the type cancer she has but it should be doubt with immediately. The only thing you can do is sit back and relax or you'll make her feel uncomfortable which is bad for people that are sick. Don't get in the way of her relationship or whatever, her bf may act like he doesn't care but when they're alone, he'd be the only one that can make her feel better about the situation.

Let her do whatever the "F***!" she wanna do.​

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thanks that is what we are doing right now. me and his bf are also friends we tend to fight sometimes if we will let her do it or not (ex: smoke weeds, or drink liqour..) well i prefer to dont do both but just as you said we cant help it cause she wants it.

 

[Venus]

thanks that is what we are doing right now. me and his bf are also friends we tend to fight sometimes if we will let her do it or not (ex: smoke weeds, or drink liqour..) well i prefer to dont do both but just as you said we cant help it cause she wants it.

Don't force her to do anything, just tell her some of the repercussions of her actions and possibilities of the effects. Don't get mad at her cause she wants to do something and definitely don't argue with her bf, even if she's not around. If you two argue and he gets mad, he's going to vent to her and put more stress on her. He may not think he's doing it but subconsciously he could be doing more damage to her and making it all harder for her. You make it out as though you two own her or something and give off the vibe that she is nothing but a prized possession. If you want to help her out then don't make decisions for her in any, way, shape or form. Just explain what can happen if she start's doing idiotic things and what harm it will cause. But all in all, no-matter what she decides to do, whether it's consuming alcohol etc then don't say "I told you not to do it" if she get's a harsh recoil from it. Just comfort her, it's all you can do. Or just baws it and if she want's to drink, drink all the alcohol before her, smoke all the weed before her. (Don't actually try to do that)

 

[Ipex]

Don't force her to do anything, just tell her some of the repercussions of her actions and possibilities of the effects. Don't get mad at her cause she wants to do something and definitely don't argue with her bf, even if she's not around. If you two argue and he gets mad, he's going to vent to her and put more stress on her. He may not think he's doing it but subconsciously he could be doing more damage to her and making it all harder for her. You make it out as though you two own her or something and give off the vibe that she is nothing but a prized possession. If you want to help her out then don't make decisions for her in any, way, shape or form. Just explain what can happen if she start's doing idiotic things and what harm it will cause. But all in all, no-matter what she decides to do, whether it's consuming alcohol etc then don't say "I told you not to do it" if she get's a harsh recoil from it. Just comfort her, it's all you can do. Or just baws it and if she want's to drink, drink all the alcohol before her, smoke all the weed before her. (Don't actually try to do that)

thanks bro. i'll just hope and pray that she gets well soon. ... i just cant talk about it to all our friends at the moment cause that what she wants..

 

[UchihaBrat]

Uhm.. I think you should ask the persons involved whether they want help or not. Keeping it to herself, I think it's enough to say that you're there to help if she wishes for it, reminding her when she seems to have forgotten.

As for the purely medical stuff, ask a doctor, in real life.

 

[Ipex]

Uhm.. I think you should ask the persons involved whether they want help or not. Keeping it to herself, I think it's enough to say that you're there to help if she wishes for it, reminding her when she seems to have forgotten.

As for the purely medical stuff, ask a doctor, in real life.

of course she wants us to be of help. but i dont like the feeling that she hang's out with us like its her last day's. i will probably speak to a friend doctor tomorrow to ask about her condition

 

[UchihaBrat]

of course she wants us to be of help. but i dont like the feeling that she hang's out with us like its her last day's. i will probably speak to a friend doctor tomorrow to ask about her condition

I see!
Then that changes the situation a bit~
Not that I know how the situation looks as related to circumstances as well as I would want to, to give proper, detailed advice(things you might not want to disclose on the first place), I can say that being a place where she can return to and feel at home in, means a lot I would bet.
So I think you might be worrying a tad bit too much, nothing unusual, so do what you can and feel would be the best, within her consent, and that should be more than enough.
Good luck and hope they come through as good as possible!

 

[saaaaaadpanda]

Considering she's in her second trimester, her cancer treatment should not have any significant affect on the child, which seems to be your most relevant concern. Read this

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for more background info. It talks about things primarily in terms of stage I cancer, but the overall message is still applicable to your question. Basically, don't worry, and don't muddle in others' business.

 

[Ipex]

I see!
Then that changes the situation a bit~
Not that I know how the situation looks as related to circumstances as well as I would want to, to give proper, detailed advice(things you might not want to disclose on the first place), I can say that being a place where she can return to and feel at home in, means a lot I would bet.
So I think you might be worrying a tad bit too much, nothing unusual, so do what you can and feel would be the best, within her consent, and that should be more than enough.
Good luck and hope they come through as good as possible!

thanks for the advice bro

Considering she's in her second trimester, her cancer treatment should not have any significant affect on the child, which seems to be your most relevant concern. Read this

You must be registered for see links

for more background info. It talks about things primarily in terms of stage I cancer, but the overall message is still applicable to your question. Basically, don't worry, and don't muddle in others' business.

thanks i've been researching about it too and im glad that there are plenty of survivors. it make's me feel positive. and yes i wont. i know my limits