Self Sabotage

[Queen of Bananas]

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The most incredible example of self sabotage I know, is Robert de Niro in that wonderful movie " Mean Streets" by Martin Scorsese. You'll hear non stop swearing in every scene, but indeed that's the most beautiful movie about friendship too...
Watching this great lesson I thought may be this is what Oscar Wilde meant, when he said:

"In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it."

But if you are a convinced pessimist, feeling at home in melancholy, you always expect the worst in everything and therefore you are rarely surprised or disappointed. It sounds paradoxical but this may cheer you up indeed. They often say that I am a very cheerful person and this is really the only explanation I could give. But of course, it does not mean that you are immune to pure happiness! That's a very strange thing indeed Well, in those moments I always remind myself of this famous Sufi saying:

"This too shall pass."

I don't mean to ruin that moment, but it rather helps to enjoy it properly. Because otherwise one could begin to feel guilty thinking how many people out there are suffering the unimaginable and that if one is able to feel so happy despite all that, may be one is becoming superficial, numb, blind etc...But if you know that it will pass very soon, you can " accept" that moment as a gift from life, without feeling too much in debt.
I also highly recommend everyone to read Alain's wonderful book "Essays in Love". Here are some quotes from there , about our inability to deal with happiness when we are in love:

-Anhedonia – a disease defined by the British Medical Association as a reaction remarkably close to a mountain sickness resulting from the sudden terror brought on by the threat of happiness.

-The problem with happiness is that in its rarity, it proves intensely terrifying and anxiety-inducing to accept.

-The inability to live in the present perhaps lies in the fear of realising that this may be the arrival of what one has longed for all of one’s life, the fear of leaving the relatively sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and hence tacitly admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live. If commitment is sense as a group of eggs, then to commit oneself to the present is to risk putting all one’s eggs in the present basket, rather than distributing them between the baskets of past and future.

Thank you very much for this beautiful lesson! I wish everyone a happy last day of the year and a lot of fun tonight!

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[Chikombo]

I remember someone telling me I was a sheep for laughing at him when he said Time wasn't real.
Then I started getting deep.
Now I don't know.

 

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It's needless to say what's going on,here.

I remember someone telling me I was a sheep for laughing at him when he said Time wasn't real.
Then I started getting deep.
Now I don't know.

Timing is just a man-made concept. To keep things "organized"...or maybe to control society.