Relationship problems :/

[XxTayxX]

Ok so i been with this girl about 2 and a half yrs now. We live together but honestly after dealing with waking up to someone etc is a big move & im not used to it. i've come to realize im not ready to be in a serious relationship. So today i told her for the second gow i've felt & she broke down crying, this happened the first time about 4 or 5 momths ago & i took her back because xo hate to see females cry. But, i would be sacrificing my own happiness if i take her back this time. I've tried to explain to her that im young i want to reevaluate myself into a better person before getting serious, 20yrs old btw. I feel kind of bad because i hate to hurt people. Am i wrong for telling her how i felt & breaking up with her? Was i being a little too hasty??


OT: I put this into the best words so excuse me if i have any errors above^

 

[Complex]

The problem is that you're too kind JK

 

[Joker]

I really don't understand why you jumped up and moved in with her in the first place. Then we have the fact that you're going to move in with her, THEN break up with her, and it's been what, two years? Get your shit together mate.

 

[Transcendence]

In the most literal sense, at least you were being honest with her. You did the right thing. There's no way around hurting her by saying you want to take a break or break up with her. That's inevitable. But going on and sacrificing your own happiness when you're not in the right place mentally is not worth it and it could potentially affect the happiness of both of you down the road. Although, do take the time to reflect on what this girl means to you. You might come to a different realization and regret letting her go down the road.

 

[loj]

Do what u think is right to do.Don't let ppl to decide for yourself.

 

[Nebula 868]

You will be more mean if you keep stringing her along in a relationship you don't want to be in, because if as you say you broke up with her 6 months ago but made back up because you felt sorry. If you make back up now 6 months down the line you will just break up with her again and just hurt her more.

 

[-Punk-]

You're a too young to be playing house, like you said you need to do other things before settling in with someone, this should be a no brainer and I think you did a good thing in telling IMO.

 

[NineSNS]

Do what is right for you, and it will be best for her in the long run. It takes courage to break it off with someone who's crazy about you - you told the truth, now follow through with it. Good luck.

 

[elitenoob94]

Eh. 20 isn't old. I'm a year younger than you and my goal is serious relationships. I enjoy women and I like to have one to keep me happy, as would I keep her happy as well.

In the situation you're in, it's hard to tell. I'm not one to give advice as my longest relationship was probably 2 months. All I can say is if you feel the need to mature more than it's your choice. She could be the one, man. Keep her in your life. Doesn't seem like you guys get off on the wrong side of the bed.

 

[Ldude]

You did the right thing. Don't stay in a bad relationship that makes you unhappy.

 

[Raxido]

damnn bruh, that must suck.. but honestly you did good with telling the truth about how you feel.

I really dont have good advice except for; making sure to break off things with her well, than in a bad way. Best of luck bruhh!

 

[Raxido]

I really don't understand why you jumped up and moved in with her in the first place. Then we have the fact that you're going to move in with her, THEN break up with her, and it's been what, two years? Get your shit together mate.

maybe it was stupid choice or he felt pressured, but if not then that just shows that he wanted to be with her. All that happened was probably just a bad experience

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Nah be young, have many lovers. Meaningful ones though.

 

[10th]

Hey I'm 20 years old too, honestly there is no right or wrong in this situation but I will say you're wrong for taking her back after 4-5 months because you feel guilty about it. Think long and hard about what made you want to back away from this in the first place, be real with yourself first and foremost. Is it just the fact that you moved in together or has there been relationship problems that lead up to your decision?

 

[YowYan]

I am in that exact same situation right now. My gf planned her future around 'us' and frankly I'm not willing to settle now. Plus, she's too young for my tastes and lives in another country. I'll be staying at her place this weekend. I love and cherish her but especially the age gap is an issue for me. This decision will have to made in a process. Let it sink in and don't drop the bomb so fast.