Relationship:Insecurity/sercuity.

[Sakura Michiko]

One time relationships were brought up in one of my college classes.My teacher wanted to see how we felt about them. So she talked to the males and females at separate times about in during that week. Some people decided to bring up something about boyfriends and husbands and who they can talk to. So for the most part some of the women were saying the only other women their boyfriend/husbands were allowed to talk to were their mothers,aunts,sisters, daughters, and female cousins. One lady stated she felt that it would be cheating if her male partner talked to a female outside of that circle even if the female was a long time friend.One girl said she goes through her boyfriend's internet accounts and cell phone.

So I was asked about how I felt about the situation and I told them I wasn't going to restrict my boyfriend from talking to the opposite gender and how we have a pretty good relationship. So some of the women claimed I was foolish and stated "That's how a man can cheat. You need to watch his every move." I told them that I wasn't insecure about my relationship with my boyfriend and if they felt they needed to watch their husbands/boyfriends sooo much they probably shouldn't be in a relationship because that doesn't seem healthy. I got even more backlash from some of the women in my class and claims that I never understood how it felt to be cheated on.

Some one told me that she bet my boyfriend watches porn and want to sleep with other women. I explained I was cheated on but I didn't bring that into my other relationships because I'm dating a different person and the cheaters weren't relevant to my current relationship and I stated that if I was cheated on now it would hurt but I leave the relationship and try to find a better person.I even told them that people can still be cheated on even if they watch their partners every move.I also told them my boyfriend and I like to watch porn together and how we talked to each other about having another person(someone we know in real life) sleep with us. A few women agreed with me but the majority of the women in the class though I was tripping. This isn't my first time encountering people who had insecurity problems in their relationships and normally when I'm talking with people like this I get some type of negative back lash for not being controlling over my partner.
That next week my teacher told us the women and men had different reactions to her question about how we felt about relationships.

Do you guys encounter really insecure people in relationships,dealt with a controlling partner, or know people in that situation?

 

[Chibiusa]

sis use the enter key

 

[Angelic.]

demonic me if i dont cook him his nuggets and locks me inside

 

[Lrrrrr]

What I gathered from the 2000 word New Times Roman 0 space MLA format essay, I find that those girls are pretty dumb. What's porn gotta do with any of that? That girl is one immaterial homo sapien I say. The rest need to back off and jump off a very small cliff 4 ft in height so they can possibly sprain their ankle and not be able to efficiently walk places which might make them late for class, thus avoiding them spewing their dumb opinions.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

sis use the enter key

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What I gathered from the 2000 word New Times Roman 0 space MLA format essay, I find that those girls are pretty dumb. What's porn gotta do with any of that?

I typed this as if I was talking because I'm not writing an essay for class. lol...sorry . But idk what porn had to do with it. I guess that girl was insecure about her boyfriend watching some porn.

 

[Lrrrrr]

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I typed this as if I was talking because I'm not writing an essay for class. lol...sorry . But idk what porn had to do with it. I guess that girl was insecure about her boyfriend watching some porn.

Not a problem I was making a funny. And most likely that, she seemed insecure from the story you told.

 

[CloyEscapade]

Insecurity is a huge turn off

 

[Neji Hyūga2]

I've dealt with and seen others in this particular situation. If the partner has to practically spy on the other just to make sure they don't cheat, they shouldn't be together. Clearly one of the partners doesn't trust their significant other if they're worried at all times they're gonna get cheated on. If a relationship is going to be good and healthy you have to both trust each other, period.

Also if one of the people in said relationship has been cheated on before, I could understand being paranoid on the fact cheating is more likely than before but you shouldn't jump to the conclusion that the new person you're with is going to do the same thing that the last one did. That was the past and all you can do is hope it doesn't happen again. If it does somehow, well shit, just end it with the person you're with and go forward with your life. Not everyone is a cheater. You'll find the right person.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

demonic me if i dont cook him his nuggets and locks me inside

wait what?

 

[Brooks]

So, a threesome? Can I join in? :Sparks:

 

[Sakura Michiko]

So, a threesome? Can I join in? :Sparks:

Lol but we don't know you.

 

[Brooks]

Lol but we don't know you.

We have enough time to know each other.

 

[Melanin]

Where you been??

 

[Sakura Michiko]

Where you been??

In my room studying and at college.....I've been super busy.

 

[Gary777]

cheating only occurs in unsatisfying relationships .
before getting into serious relationships its better to move slowly , as for other people they want to waste their lives on something they never deserved ...
its like their greed makes them jealous n act as though they r in a relationship with brad pitt n wont lose him to other girls lol

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

I found women are insecure in general. I mean everyone is to an extent, but most are insecure because they think too much. About useless crap that's not really worth bothering over...but they're meant to be that way. But yes, every woman I've dated has been insecure.

But at the same time I've never had a relationship where I feel fully secure. That no matter what, nothing will get in between our relationship. I just feel like that's a way of thinking I could never grasp because people change and shit happens. Though I dont let it get in the way of the relationship...actually I don't even think about it mostly, just try to enjoy the ride while it lasts.

 

[Jack Spicer]

I agree. Anybody worried about the other gender is insecure.

 

[Loki d]

So what kind of response are you looking for sis? Yes 3somes are hot, personally I think it would help the relationship. I would let my partner **** one other person to make things better. Hell we can **** other people as long as we are open about it. I think keeping secrets, lying, and cheating are what ruins relationships. One restriction I would have for my partner is no sucking other men dicks.

 

[Natsu Shazneel]

I don't blame the girls who keep an eye on there boyfriends.