I see it as lust not love I'm fine with my gf looking at someone else but if I had to see her do it often then of course I'll be annoyed it's not like I don't do it every now and again.
A little bit should be fine. Wondering eyes at all times to the point
that you aren't even looking at your partner half the times is bad for the relationship though.
So it's alright in moderation I suppose.
Wondering eyes is not ok.
Cause it starts with the stare,then talk, then flirt and if that person ends up being more "fun"/interesting then it either goes to cheating or end of relationship.
Appreciating someone else's looks is fine as long as you don't do anything about it. It'd be like admiring art, in a way. You'd appreciate its beauty, but it doesn't mean you'd want to make love to it. o_o
My boyfriend and I don't openly do it in front of each other because we know we'd both get jealous, not to mention we'd feel like we're disrespecting each other if we do it while the other is around, but yeah we're aware that we both do it.
I get a little over attached and jealous, so sometimes I'll get pissed off about it. I'm working on it though, I understand that men are very visual. I kinda get self conscious and compare myself, so :/
Its the natural tendency of men to be attracted to multiple person. Guys usually have a GF simply cuz he's attracted to her and adore her. Then emotional attachment and in some cases ends up in a marriage. But one should remember that nature never made a man to be committed to only one woman. Men are supposed to have multiple partners when it comes to *** and stuff but its the norms of our society which we have to follow and tend us to stay in our limits.
So yeah. if you have a BF and he's checking out sumone else . Dont feel uncomfortable cuz its only natural (Ofcourse unless the man tries to be physical with the third person).
About possessiveness.. yeah. even i have dat a lot. And one really feels uncomfortable when their partner is checking out someone else . Creating a doubt in the mind if "I dont look good or what"... But one must understand that the fact that their partner is committed with them. is more than enough to remove this fallacy from one's mind.
About girls doing the same stuff. I'll say i dont mind but the reality is im quite possessive IRL and that would definitely make me feel a lil uneasy u_u
I'd have to be in a relationship to know. When I was dating, I was a kid in high school, so of course I was jealous, but now I'm so different and carefree. I know I'd be okay now. Looking is okay, but acting is not.
One must understand men have always been more of a physical type rather than being emotional type and hence are first attracted to the physical appearances of the women. Mind you, I am talking about attraction here and not above love, on the other hand females are more of a emotional type and hence they think about personalities a lot more and hence don't look at other guy, when their guy is talking in interesting manner or treating her just like a 'gentleman' is supposed to treat. In many cases it ends up in feud between men and women. The main key to avoid this dispute is 'trust', if your man is looking at someone else, then remind him that you are there, try to catch his attention. On the other hand if you are a man, and you know your girl doesn't like it, try to avoid at looking someone else, try to find the beauty in your girl's looks instead. Talking about possessiveness, it is there in every relationship, but one must give enough amount of independence to his/her partner. Trust your partner, it isn't like if he looked at someone else, he doesn't love you anymore. Lol
On a personal level, if she tries to look at someone else, I will just remind her that I am still there, by either playing with her hair, or something similar. It's all about loving your partner, and trusting him/her nothing else.
