Really bothersome friend

[Sakura Michiko]

I don't know why but I'm a magnet for these annoying people.Current one of them bothers me everyday. It's so annoying. I'm something called an ambivert so I have extrovert and introvert traits..I have mostly introvert traits so I don't like to hang out a lot and I prefer to be alone.I'm some what of a busy person and this damn girl bothers me to go places. Like I probably just told her I'm doing to work and she still wants to hang out.She called me like 5 times yesterday to go hang out. The first time was to go swimming but I told her no because I'm trying to save my money for my college books, the second time she asked if I could come over so I told her I was gonna come by her at 5,she called 3 more times asking me if I could come now so I told her no because I was busy and I would come at 5 because I was waiting for my mom to get off of work because I had something personal to tell my mom.....this girl showed up at my house at ****ing 4! I was so butthurt and she didn't wanna leave. She said she went to my mom's job and my mom said she was getting off at 4.She like called me all through finals week to ask if I was home yet...The first day she called I told her I was gonna be home the next week. She fails to understand that people might be busy. I probably should have been mentioned this but she's like 20. She does this to my best friend too. She calls my best friend and bother her to hang out and my best friend always tell her she is watching her daughter. The bothersome friend tells my friend that she can bring her daughter with her. She once asked my friend to go ice skating and my friend told her no again because she has a baby. The bothersome friend suggested that she brings the baby to ice skate. My friend told her no because her baby was a few months old. The bothersome friend said she didn't see the problem with bringing a few months old baby to the ice skating place.....My bothersome friend also kind of act immature when we are in public and say stuff like "My mawmaw said I can't have candy but I will anyways."I remember when she was going to school with me she lied for attention and said she was bringing a gun so she got kick out of the school and was on something called homebound.If I'm with her in her vehicle she drives crazy and it scares me. Some of my friends and my boyfriend though she was a lesbian because she always talk about me ,when we hang out she is always really close by me,and she buys me stuff even though I tell her no.She got me a Sakura doll.I don't know what to tell this girl to make her stop bothering me soo much,I like her but she bothers me soo much and I don't want to be mean. Does anyone have any suggestions?

 

[Tennis Robot]

Maybe you should be more patient. Or try to get to know her better. It wouldn't annoy you if you understood

 

[Sakura Michiko]

Maybe you should be more patient. Or try to get to know her better. It wouldn't annoy you if you understood

I've been knowing her since 7th grade.Now I'm 19 and she is 20. Be more patient for what. I haven't told her that she is extremely bothersome to me.

 

[SS100]

you can always say this to her.....

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[Tennis Robot]

I've been knowing her since 7th grade.Now I'm 19 and she is 20.

Well clearly you haven't been a very attentive friend, otherwise you wouldn't be complaining :/

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Communicate without becoming upset.

Whether it's text or face to face, next time she does it just tell her it annoys you before you get annoyed by it. You have to otherwise she'll never know, she can't take a hint apparently.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

Well clearly you haven't been a very attentive friend, otherwise you wouldn't be complaining :/

So I shouldn't be complaining about someone bothering me when I'm studying or because I'm mostly introverted. Are you serious? Or that I'm worried about riding with her in her car because of how she drives.

Communicate without becoming upset.

Whether it's text or face to face, next time she does it just tell her it annoys you before you get annoyed by it. You have to otherwise she'll never know, she can't read your mind apparently.

Okay,I just don't know how to say it.

 

[Pyro NB]

Is she an only child?

 

[Sakura Michiko]

Is she an only child?

No, she has a sister. I'm actually an only child.

 

[Tennis Robot]

So I shouldn't be complaining about someone bothering me when I'm studying or because I'm mostly introverted. Are you serious? Or that I'm worried about riding with her in her car because of how she drives.


Okay,I just don't know how to say it.

Getting annoyed won't help anyone. Just be honest/open

 

[Kettei]

Communication save relations.

 

[ANiMUS]

U mam may have just befriended a stalker :sdo:

Congratulations!

 

[Pyro NB]

No, she has a sister. I'm actually an only child.

her and her sister around the same age?

 

[Sakura Michiko]

U mam may have just befriended a stalker :sdo:

Congratulations!

I actually though about that once.

her and her sister around the same age?

Hmm I think her sister is 15.

 

[Pyro NB]

Hmm I think her sister is 15.

Are they close because she could just view you as her desired sister figure. I'm trying to think of something without prying to much lol

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Okay,I just don't know how to say it.

Tell her you like hanging out with her but it has to be a time that's good for both of you. Also that it upsets you when she rushes it because she's not respecting how you feel.

I mean you've known her since seventh grade so she'll understand, just be calm about it.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

Getting annoyed won't help anyone. Just be honest/open

Okay and I really do understand her..like when she said she was gonna bring a gun to school and people were panicking I knew she was lying.

Are they close because she could just view you as her desired sister figure. I'm trying to think of something without prying to much lol

I'm not so sure. Her sister is 360 a different person than her.They play board games togetheir sometimes but I don't talk to her sister much.

 

[Pyro NB]

I'm not so sure. Her sister is 360 a different person than her.They play board games togetheir sometimes but I don't talk to her sister much.

Tell her you like hanging out with her but it has to be a time that's good for both of you. Also that it upsets you when she rushes it because she's not respecting how you feel.

I mean you've known her since seventh grade so she'll understand, just be calm about it.

This seems best

 

[brunette1cookie]

When I read that, it came across like a stalker to me. She sounds like she has some issues, especially with being by herself and boundaries. I guess it comes down to whether or not you want to continue the friendship. I'm rather cold, so my knee-jerk response to this would be to block her number and abruptly stop talking to her, but if she's going to your mom's workplace, that may not be the best move. She sounds like the type that might snap if pushed too hard, so I would tread carefully about terminating the friendship. I don't know what country you live in, so it might differ as to how to get one, but a restraining order might be worth looking into.

If you are trying to salvage the friendship, perhaps sit her down and explain that you, like most other people, like time to yourself. Say that someone who is a real friend will respect that people need time to themselves. Friends also want to hang out with each other, but that only happens when both are able to. Tell her that her constant pushing is damaging the friendship and driving you away but that you care enough about it to try and repair it.

Such is my impression of the situation. I hope this was helpful to you.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

When I read that, it came across like a stalker to me. She sounds like she has some issues, especially with being by herself and boundaries. I guess it comes down to whether or not you want to continue the friendship. I'm rather cold, so my knee-jerk response to this would be to block her number and abruptly stop talking to her, but if she's going to your mom's workplace, that may not be the best move. She sounds like the type that might snap if pushed too hard, so I would tread carefully about terminating the friendship. I don't know what country you live in, so it might differ as to how to get one, but a restraining order might be worth looking into.

If you are trying to salvage the friendship, perhaps sit her down and explain that you, like most other people, like time to yourself. Say that someone who is a real friend will respect that people need time to themselves. Friends also want to hang out with each other, but that only happens when both are able to. Tell her that her constant pushing is damaging the friendship and driving you away but that you care enough about it to try and repair it.

Such is my impression of the situation. I hope this was helpful to you.

Tell her you like hanging out with her but it has to be a time that's good for both of you. Also that it upsets you when she rushes it because she's not respecting how you feel.

I mean you've known her since seventh grade so she'll understand, just be calm about it.

Thank you guys for the advice.