Please help me

[GivenItz Boomer]

Hey

So, I got a very serious problem, and no idea how to solve it. I don't wanna involve my friends in this mess, so i ask you guys.

Here's the problem: My mother. She is insane. And not the "put her in an asylum" kind. Yeah, I know. "How can you say such thing about your mother" "Poor woman", bla bla bla. But this is not the time for this shit. We all know there are terrible parents out there. Man or woman. So, yeah.

Anyway, here's the thing: She won't let me or my father have any peace. She'll follow us and torture us psychologically for as long as she lives. She once broke into my father's house(they're divorced, they split up 6 years ago) and tried do atack him and destroy everything. And when she can, she targets her anger at me as well.

And now(yes, I'm an idiot), I'm living with her, because I move to a big city, and she lives here, so it would be cheapter. And I must live here, because of college. And things were... normal. Until she found out(i'll find the person who told and her and beat the crap out of that person myself) that my father is going to get married(and she already lives with another man)

She already threatened to enter the wedding and destroy it. And she'll probably keep pushing me and angering me because of that. And my mind can't take another series of those terrible events.

Moving out might not solve it.She might hunt me, go to the university and hunt me there. She knows where my father lives, and the other city is not very far.

The police and justice won't help. They're biased because she's a woman(thanks a lot, feminists).

I don't know what to do... Please, help me.

EDIT: Also, trying to reason with her, or to appeal to her heart or something, or being harsh and showing strength, all of that is completelly useless. Specially now that she has a brainwashed thug zombie at her service.

That's the same with me (besides the whole wedding and college part). what I would suggest is avoid contact, with her, if not possible, talk it out with her and see what the problem is. Either that or get a college dorm. and if the police can't help with a breaking and entering/assault(s) then, you've got some pretty shitty cops in your town.

Also, I hate to say it and I hate to be offensive but what kind of parent takes their anger out on a son/daughter for no reason?

 

[Wolfus]

You guys should have handled that when she broke into your dad's house. If I were you I would move into dorms or get an appt then just ignore her and by ignore I mean like she never existed don't speak, look or anything to her. If she shows up and says hi just walk around her like she's not even there then if she does something physical or whatever call the cops etc.

I tried. I called the police.You know what he said to me? "Respect your mother, brat"

 

[Lyke]

Cut her to pieces

 

[Wolfus]

Dude if you genuenly feel endangered by her a restraining order can take care of that. You have to have probable cause (like trashing your dad's wedding)

Other than that, you are a young adult now. You tell her exactly what's on your mind and how she makes you feel. If it gets to be too much, then jump out of your comfort zone and move out on your own, find a roommate to help you with rent. Does your school offer assisted living? If so you might want to look into it.

This is actually a solid plan. Instead of stopping her from destroying it, we let her. Then we record it, and go to the police. No court will accept that. Plus, I already have a back up plan in case justice still protects her because she is a woman.

If I can get some money from her, My dad can afford an apartment(sharing it with one or 2 other guys).

Thanks, thanks a lot.

 

[Javaweb]

She seems like she needs a boyfriend. She feel lonely and jealous. I don't know if it's possible but you could try to get her to date and move on.

 

[Wolfus]

That's the same with me (besides the whole wedding and college part). what I would suggest is avoid contact, with her, if not possible, talk it out with her and see what the problem is. Either that or get a college dorm. and if the police can't help with a breaking and entering/assault(s) then, you've got some pretty shitty cops in your town.

Also, I hate to say it and I hate to be offensive but what kind of parent takes their anger out on a son/daughter for no reason?

Cops are shitty in the entire country. My father doesn't do that. Well, my mother, that's exactly the problem. What kind of parent? The insane kind.

 

[Wolfus]

She seems like she needs a boyfriend. She feel lonely and jealous. I don't know if it's possible but you could try to get her to date and move on.

Nope. She already has one. She's going to buy an apartment with him, together!!!

 

[Apêx1]

Restraining order is the way to go man.

 

[Gintoki Sakata]

Yes, I have. We all tried to talk to her. I did, my father did, her own mother did. We got nowhere. She's worse than sasuke, just so you can understand.

lol i dont think she is worse than sasuke

 

[NineSNS]

I am really sorry to hear about anyone who is forced to live with a person who is obviously mentally ill but refuses to acknowledge it, and even more so that it should be someone supporting you and not making your life hell.

As someone else suggested, encourage your dad to have security at the wedding.
Make a plan to gain independence from her, even if it's financially difficult for a while.
Move forward and be thankful you have a father that's in your life.
Write her off until she proves that she has taken responsibility for herself. And that may never happen.

Be strong. Good luck to you.

 

[NaNaNaaaaa]

She is a woman seriously scorned and very little you do or say will change it.

Move out is a definite first step, limit contact and distance yourself. I don't know where you live but a restraining order would be a good idea if she starts to follow you. It will take time but in the end you will be able to push her out of your life. And maybe in time her scorn will settle and you can have a relationship again.

I wish you luck.

 

[Wolfus]

Thanks, everyone. Thanks for all your help.

MODS, you can now erase this thread from the very existence, please. I don't wanna take any risks.