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[Clouds]

Well you should do whatever makes you happy

 

[a banned cartoon]

No joke you should tell the girl your in a relationship now, that your starting to develop feelings for somebody else. If she really loves you she'll see she needs to work on things, and she'll start trying harder. If she really, really loves you she'll tell you do what makes you happy.

Me, and my girl went through something like this one time, she told me to be with who made me happy. That's one of the moments when I realized how much she loved me.

 

[Hokage Legacy]

That's not what I mean. If he's breaking up with her to pursue his own happiness, then what sense would it be to put off being happy for her sake? If he feels like he's ready, then he should go for it. If he's not, then sure, wait until you know you're good to go. She's already gonna be hurt, so he might as well go for all he can go for.

He said he thinks he loves this girl. If that's the case, then he would also need time after this relationship. It would be foolish to think otherwise. Love isn't something you can get rid of in a matter of days, and there's a good possibility he would hurt the next girl if he jumped straight into a relationship with her while still loving another.

 

[Lucidus]

Ok so somethings been weighing heavy on my mind for a while now. Ive had a girlfriend for 4 years already. So far its been a rough ride. We argue alot. I cant talk to her about my feelings because shell freak out on me. Shes usually very angry at me or about something. I feel like i do love her though. Shes very faithful and we have amazing ***. She loves me very much. I think im her first love. I feel like i need to break up with her. I met someone that makes me very happy (never once cheated or anything of the sort) Should i sacrifice my life to see my current girlfriend happy or should i hurt her now and try to pursue happiness for myself. What would the right thing to do be?

ok ive been in a similar situation so hopefully i can help a bit

The question you have to ask yourself now is whether you will be happy after you have broken up with your current girlfriend.. try and imagine now being with her or seeing her after being together for 4 years you might find that it is a big mistake..

if you are not happy with your relationship at the moment then maybe you need to talk to your current girlfriend and let her know you are not happy and it is affecting your relationship and hope that she is willing to work at it

if this other girl makes you a lot happier than your current girlfriend and your girlfriend is not willing to try and work at your relationship or listen to your feelings in order to make things better for the both of you then i would say its better to let her down and pursue your happiness elsewhere it also might be better for her

hope i helped a bit.. dont be afraid to pm me if you need any more advice on things im happy to help

 

[YokoKurama]

4 years is a long time to have been with someone. Obviously there is something going right or else you wouldn't have made it that far together. Communication is key in ANY relationship. She has to be willing to talk and compromise, if not things will stay the same and neither of you will be able to grow. Before you decide to end it, sit down with her and have a talk about everything you feel. Let her know that even though you love her you can't stay in a relationship that will eventually self destruct. If she has can't come to terms with that then you'll have to let her go. Trust me, my man and I have been together 8 years this summer. We have been married and divorced. Still together, but that's a story for another time.

 

[Gyakusetsu]

So what does your current GF get on you about? Is it just trivial B.S. or is it stuff that really matters?

 

[Tobasco]

To be honest, this is something you have to decide on your own, you know your situation better than anyone else. If you can't talk to her about your problems, then something's wrong with your relationship, only you and her can know if you'll be able to fix those problems together or not. If not, then I'd suggest breaking up. But you should also keep in mind that there'll be arguing in every relationship. All in all, follow what your heart tells you on this one.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Well follow your instinct man. But when you do break up with her do it in a place where you can say it and go. Cause angry types will blow up at you and throw some swings as well..

Me personally I would break up with her, I don't like a lot of drama and arguing. You can always have ***, don't make that the reason you stay with someone.

 

[Punk Hazard]

He said he thinks he loves this girl. If that's the case, then he would also need time after this relationship. It would be foolish to think otherwise. Love isn't something you can get rid of in a matter of days, and there's a good possibility he would hurt the next girl if he jumped straight into a relationship with her while still loving another.

You're still misunderstanding what I'm saying. What I'm saying is, he shouldn't put off a relationship that could make him happy for her sake. That's what I was addressing. Then you brought up something completely different than what I was addressing.

 

[Hokage Legacy]

You're still misunderstanding what I'm saying. What I'm saying is, he shouldn't put off a relationship that could make him happy for her sake. That's what I was addressing. Then you brought up something completely different than what I was addressing.

Everything I've said relates to this thread. That's what I was arguing about, only this guys situation.

 

[Sjhsgjhsgjshjshjsh]

BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING WITH THE OTHER GIRL ,TALK TO YOUR GF AND TELL HER EVERYTHING .

AND WHEN YOU TWO BREAK UP .GO FOR THE ONE THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY .
AS LONG YOU DONT CHEAT .I WRITE THIS IN CAPITAL BECAUSE I WANT YOU TO SEE THIS BEFORE YOU CHEAT :|

Ahem.

 

[Punk Hazard]

Everything I've said relates to this thread. That's what I was arguing about, only this guys situation.

LOL, no. I was addressing the idea of putting off a new relationship because going into one immediately would hurt her. You then brought up whether or not he's ready for a relationship, a completely different issue than what I was addressing initially.

 

[a banned cartoon]

You're still misunderstanding what I'm saying. What I'm saying is, he shouldn't put off a relationship that could make him happy for her sake. That's what I was addressing. Then you brought up something completely different than what I was addressing.

You and Hokage legacy are now just arguing with each other, and not contributing to the thread any more. Go on somewhere. Your both right in your own sense, but the fact of the matter is that love is a very complicated, and complex thing, and nobody can pinpoint exactly what they're feeling except the persons in the relationship. We can give him all the advice we have to offer, but we'll never know all the details of the relationship.

Both of you are right in a way, and both of you are wrong in a way. This is something that no matter how much advice we give him, in the end he's going to do what he's gonna do, and he's already probably got his mind set.

Honestly when it comes to love, you've gotta man up, and figure sh!t out for yourself. There are to many variables involved to give a question like this a right answer. Only he can find the right answer.

EDIT: also both you guys have been practically repeating yourselves.

 

[straightup]

BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING WITH THE OTHER GIRL ,TALK TO YOUR GF AND TELL HER EVERYTHING .

AND WHEN YOU TWO BREAK UP .GO FOR THE ONE THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY .
AS LONG YOU DONT CHEAT .I WRITE THIS IN CAPITAL BECAUSE I WANT YOU TO SEE THIS BEFORE YOU CHEAT :|

Ahem.

haha no worries about me cheating. I wouldn't do that for the sole reason that she has dedicated 4 years of her life to me and ive never had to worry about her cheating not once. I still care about her immensely but that's whats making this hard. I don't want to see her sad I just wanna be happy for a change. Weve had this talk time and time again and nothing has ever changed. I don't know if any of you have ever lived with your girl but at one point the honeymoon is over and you start stepping on eachothers toes accidently. Like she never cleans but makes the biggest messes you can imagine. She will make a feast for herself and wait for weeks until I give up and clean it for her. And when I address the situation she starts freaking out on me, screaming and calling me names. Never once does she try to actually fix the issue. Personally im depressed. I feel alone and I don't even have the energy to do the things I love anymore. When im stressed instead of trying to sooth me she makes it all about herself and makes my stress level skyrocket. But in the same breathe I don't want to hurt her but I feel like I cant go on like this

 

[straightup]

You and Hokage legacy are now just arguing with each other, and not contributing to the thread any more. Go on somewhere. Your both right in your own sense, but the fact of the matter is that love is a very complicated, and complex thing, and nobody can pinpoint exactly what they're feeling except the persons in the relationship. We can give him all the advice we have to offer, but we'll never know all the details of the relationship.

Both of you are right in a way, and both of you are wrong in a way. This is something that no matter how much advice we give him, in the end he's going to do what he's gonna do, and he's already probably got his mind set.

Honestly when it comes to love, you've gotta man up, and figure sh!t out for yourself. There are to many variables involved to give a question like this a right answer. Only he can find the right answer.

EDIT: also both you guys have been practically repeating yourselves.

honestly I feel like when it comes to hard decisions I am usually a man about it. Its just really hard hurting someone I care about and cares about me as well. Im just afraid im making the wrong decision

 

[ntel]

Share your penis with two woman

Problem solved

Or just pick the one with the best *****/hotter

Or as a last option if your going to move on....do **** then break up with her but dont forget to do the deed in her butt first then break up

Hope I helped

 

[~Sky~]

A lot of people have given you good advise. I'll add something else, you have to be decisive. No going back and forth, no lip service, just say what you want to say, get it off your chest, and you'll feel a lot better. The longer you wait the worse it will get.

 

[itachi uchiha fiance]

you should tell her that u want to breakup with her