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Hachiman

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You say you both are like brothers and yet you act like his ex girlfriend. That dude must have freaked out the way you are behaving towards him. You need to give some space for that dude to make out his life. You can make out with others rather than getting overly attached to this guy. Remember you are born single and be gone single. Nobody comes with you in death not even this attachments.
So get attached to yourself enjoy this limited fun hell human ride as much as you can. Stop crying and move your ass out of your room and explore the world :)
 

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You're being a little clingy, and he just wants to spend time with his GF. Don't ruin a good friendship just because of that.
If he'a really like a brother, he's not gonna let that die out.
 

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Well more like a friend. Lemme just get straight to the problem because I really don't know what to do...

To start off Im the type of friend that cares a bit too much, not over the top but I do care. I met a friend last september and eventually as months went by we became really close friends, to the point where we see each other as brothers.

Sounds nice and all yeah but starting a couple of weeks ago he began to distance himself from me, and he has a girlfriend that I know does not like me at all just for being a close friend to him. The other day he kinda screwed me over by saying he was "busy" when all he did was ditch me for his girl, and I realize now this isn't the first time. So I got a bit mad and told him to piss off.

Since then we haven't talked really but he still wants to be friends. What should I do?
**** his girl and see how he likes it.
 

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its not like he doesnt like you or that he doesnt want to be friends anymore, he just wants to spend more time with the girl, at least for the time being.
 

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In the beginning of many relationships there is an "infatuation" phase of intense attraction. He probably isn't ignoring you because he's mad or does not care--he is just wanting to spend time with his girlfriend, which is normal and healthy. You can't take everything personal in life or you will be setting yourself up for disappointment. If they get married you will see him even less, and if they have children he will be non-existent to you. So if he tells you he wants to remain friends don't second guess it, just be his friend.

Couldnt have said it any better you are very wise
 

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Well more like a friend. Lemme just get straight to the problem because I really don't know what to do...

To start off Im the type of friend that cares a bit too much, not over the top but I do care. I met a friend last september and eventually as months went by we became really close friends, to the point where we see each other as brothers.

Sounds nice and all yeah but starting a couple of weeks ago he began to distance himself from me, and he has a girlfriend that I know does not like me at all just for being a close friend to him. The other day he kinda screwed me over by saying he was "busy" when all he did was ditch me for his girl, and I realize now this isn't the first time. So I got a bit mad and told him to piss off.

Since then we haven't talked really but he still wants to be friends. What should I do?

I think him distancing from you is expected. If you got a gf, you would spend more time with your gf than with your friends. What you thought was distancing could very well be spent in interacting with his gf. This does not mean he doesn't want you to be his friend.

Bold : This was perhaps because of you being too attached to your friend. This could have resulted in you intruding upon their personal space which might have caused your friend to distance from you. Your attachment to your friend is shown through the blue text. If my friend had a gf, I would have actually stayed away and let them have a lovely time together.

He still considers you as a friend because of underlined which means you should apologize for the rage session and become friends again. Just be sure to give him space to interact with his gf.
 
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