Need Advice on Friends

[90sKids98]

Well more like a friend. Lemme just get straight to the problem because I really don't know what to do...

To start off Im the type of friend that cares a bit too much, not over the top but I do care. I met a friend last september and eventually as months went by we became really close friends, to the point where we see each other as brothers.

Sounds nice and all yeah but starting a couple of weeks ago he began to distance himself from me, and he has a girlfriend that I know does not like me at all just for being a close friend to him. The other day he kinda screwed me over by saying he was "busy" when all he did was ditch me for his girl, and I realize now this isn't the first time. So I got a bit mad and told him to piss off.

Since then we haven't talked really but he still wants to be friends. What should I do?

 

[~Ethereal~]

Having friends is overrated boy.

 

[UchihasRightfulHeir]

lol at "he said he was 'busy' when all he did was ditch me for his girl".

Dude, he was busy. Seems like you are a bit attached. He might have sensed that.

 

[Black Wizard]

Just be honest man, tell him how u feel otherwise u will regret it, by having a girlfriend it will be hard since he will probably spend time with her more. Just try make amends, and if nothing changes then simply walk away. In life u will always make friends and u do lose some. It honestly depends how u feel in this situation.

 

[CrimsonReaper]

your dear friend got ***** whipped. :bdpf: Try and talk him out of it. Tell him he hasn't been himself lately and he's distancing himself from his friends just because of that girlfriend of his. If he ignores your advice you shouldn't force it on him, it will only make matters worse. If he wants to talk to you, he will talk to you.

 

[-immortal-]

you know how relationships are and consume people.

just make it not awkward when you text him back again.

seeing posts like this i'll always remember how lucky I am with my friends.

 

[CrimsonReaper]

lol at "he said he was 'busy' when all he did was ditch me for his girl".

Dude, he was busy. Seems like you are a bit attached. He might have sensed that.

Does the attached rule really apply to friends of the same ***? i normally don't get that annoyed if it's a male peer i know irl, especially if they're best friends.

 

[Ricardo]

Having friends is overrated boy.

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[Natsu Shazneel]

Try asking him out and see what he says. You never know he may ditch his gf.

 

[Desiigner]

Need more info
Is it his first gf or first big love?
But so far, I'd say you should leave it like that for some time.

 

[JENchuuriki]

His gf told him you're gay... that's why he ditched you... but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings, so he simply said he was "busy."

Sorry man.. truth hurts.

 

[Obito the supreme jin]

Having friends is overrated boy.

I agree, it's time you make friends with rabbits and the nature around you.

 

[123Filler]

I agree, it's time you make friends with rabbits and the nature around you.

I want to my a Black Hole my friend.
Does that work too?

 

[Obito the supreme jin]

I want to my a Black Hole my friend.
Does that work too?

Being friends with nature means that you risk dying. Humans die and the day they die is never guaranteed. You are always left to cling to your life so if you want to have a black hole as a friend just accept that the friend is superior to you and let that consume your soul.

Be one with nature.

 

[The Work]

You got pissed at him for getting ****y instead of hanging out with you?

Time to get a girl mate

 

[Uchiha seeker]

My friends friend who was also kinda my friend got a girlfriend and stopped going gym with us. I didn't really care though cause the cooler friend still goes gym with me.

Make new friends ezpz.

 

[Callypigia]

In the beginning of many relationships there is an "infatuation" phase of intense attraction. He probably isn't ignoring you because he's mad or does not care--he is just wanting to spend time with his girlfriend, which is normal and healthy. You can't take everything personal in life or you will be setting yourself up for disappointment. If they get married you will see him even less, and if they have children he will be non-existent to you. So if he tells you he wants to remain friends don't second guess it, just be his friend.

 

[Angelic.]

Get a gf

 

[Conspirator.]

In the beginning of many relationships there is an "infatuation" phase of intense attraction. He probably isn't ignoring you because he's mad or does not care--he is just wanting to spend time with his girlfriend, which is normal and healthy. You can't take everything personal in life or you will be setting yourself up for disappointment. If they get married you will see him even less, and if they have children he will be non-existent to you. So if he tells you he wants to remain friends don't second guess it, just be his friend.

Yeah, I gotta agree with this.

 

[DominiqueX]

Like others have said already, I think you should tell him how you feel about the situation. It's normal that people start to focus a bit more on the (possible) relationship with a person they have feelings for and it can happen that friends then get lesser attention than before. That should settle down over time tho.

On the other side, you probably should give your friend some freedom. From the way you explained the situation, it seems that you are a bit too attached to him. Sure, feeling like brothers is good and all, but you are not the core of his universe, if you know what I mean. Maybe he just feels cramped.