Exactly, relating to characters is my problem. Like Sasuke having a terrible past, its the same for me. And not talking to people is another weakness than affects me when I watch the show. You said you are not naturally smart, or work hard to get what you want. Like Rock Lee.I see where you're coming from, I can relate to characters that suffer from depression/aren't naturally smart...I needa study my ass off, that way I'm like Lee, working hard to get anywhere. Naruto could be like that too.
Its really the same for me in a different context/character.