[Discussion] My son got divorced

[LUMOS ULTIMATUM]

Hello, I am looking for some advice here. My divorced son live with me. I provide most their financial support ($500 child support in a month) including school and other costs such as health expenses. My son is very desperate and he is very pessimistic. At one time, he was even attracted to drugs. Luckily, he told me about it later and told him to consult someone. However, that didn't improve much and after one week, he began to tell me that life has been unfair to him. That affects me as a father and I can't help but share the same pain as him. I once told him to move on but he said that he regretted his separation. I am not sure of what to do.

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[Forbidden Tale]

And your profile say: "December 12, 1997"

 

[Erebus]

A 1 on 1 - heart to heart talk always seems to do the trick (talk about experiences and whatnot), at least that's how my parents used to do it when i lived with them xd

 

[Limbo]

These *****s aint even serious lel

ot: dunno, take him to a therapist or something, teach him how to fight so that he can beat up people to get rid of his anger, make him go to the gym, be there for him

 

[LUMOS ULTIMATUM]

And your profile say: "December 12, 1997"

It is fake though. I am much older than this. There are people who feel uncomfortable if you are an adult on this site. Hopefully, I changed it so that there can be a normal discussion here.

 

[Rohan]

Get him a new wife and teach him the meaning of love. I hope this helps, Dattebayo! =D

 

[SilverfoxUchiha]

well... whether or not you are being genuine with the question i guess there would still be people in situations who would want to know what to do.

My main advice would be to keep on being there for the son and keep a close eye on him regarding drugs. drugs can seriously wreck peoples lives.. i've seen what it does to people and it's not a joke. it would make your sons situation 1000 times worse.

Sounds like he needs to pull himself together. How can someone fall into drugs when they have kids to think about. He needs to put his kids first.

In regards to him saying life's been unfair to him: well that's how life goes sometimes. I know someone who grew up as an orphan. What of my friend? Tell your son he needs to get it together, he still has the rest of his life ahead of him. When things happen in life that are difficult to deal with you have one of two options: Grow stronger, learn from it, and figure out how to become the master of your path OR you stay down and let your situation control you. How you respond to things will determine your legacy. So stand up as a man and deal with the things life brings whilst STILL remembering that there are good things in life too (i.e. a family that loves you, a child who will NEED you to stay strong).

If he was supposed to be with his ex then he'd be with her. If he's not meant to then he wont. If he had a lucky escape then good for him. Times change and things get better.

also... if this is a troll thread then that's cool as i'm sure someone else might take something from the advice.

Behind every grey cloud there's a silver lining

 

[Forbidden Tale]

It is fake though. I am much older than this. There are people who feel uncomfortable if you are an adult on this site. Hopefully, I changed it so that there can be a normal discussion here.

You don't have to show your age.
If you really have this situation it's better to talk with some close friend and not with Narutobase.

 

[cybersexcontrol]

here is my advise if you're not trolling

your son is being pathetic as you know,though maybe its because he misses his ex-wife and misses his past life,
he's depressed and as a father ur not really helping

one thing i've learned in 16 year of my life is only a female can make a male feel better, so maybe tell him to to see new people join a dating site talk to some nice lady meet someone, or he might do something dangerous

if you want a new future u better let go of the past mate ,hope that helps

 

[TheRedAndGreenBeast]

This is what's wrong with NB these days. Somebody asks a serious question wanting to get help from his peers. Why can't we be sensitive? He is obviously going through issues and yet we try to make fun of him. Shame on you. His age matters no more than his race or ***. You are pathetic people.

OT: I am a 16 year old boy who has never been addicted to drugs and I don't know what exactly it is your son is going through so I cannot make an accurate judgement but I say that good friends will help him through any situation along with loving parents and hope for the future. If he has these things, then he will be alright.

Your son should try to get exercise as that cures depression. Swimming or martial arts are probably the best for this. It's also good social activity.

 

[Ψ Veritas Ψ]

youre all being rude

 

[TheRedAndGreenBeast]

here is my advise if you're not trolling

your son is being pathetic as you know,though maybe its because he misses his ex-wife and misses his past life,
he's depressed and as a father ur not really helping

one thing i've learned in 16 year of my life is only a female can make a male feel better, so maybe tell him to to see new people join a dating site talk to some nice lady meet someone, or he might do something dangerous

if you want a new future u better let go of the past mate ,hope that helps

You think just meeting some new girl so soon will help? He's in love and confused, not *** craving. More than just women can make men better. Dating sites are looked down on by society so I would advise not to suggest that because he may feel like you're making fun of him.

 

[LUMOS ULTIMATUM]

Why do people think it is troll thread?

OT: You have helped me a lot. Especially , redandgreen beast and silverfox

 

[lordryoko]

Well to LUMOS the thing is we dont know all the details so some advice may not too right but anyway based on what you are saying, I would say that the best thing you can do as his father is to be there for him....always....let him know he has his child to live for, life isn't fair, so expect unfair things to happen. Men dont sit and talk to each other just like that. Take him to a bar and buy some beer (or whatever you like) and sit and chat. If he breaks down and cries, then that is a start (believe it or not), if he doesn't break down but his spirit seemed brighter, then that too is a start. You see people react differently to the same situation and we must allow the person to be himself and let him do a lot of internal reflection. I will say it again though, be there for him, even if he feels you are the only one now that is there for him, then let it be so. I can't stress that enough, even if he 'falls', be the one to pick him up.

N.B. Try your very best to be patient with him and don't argue with him....

 

[Anarkist]

A lot of you are really inconsiderate here, you don't know the guy and immediately slander him, it's really disgusting.
I'd suggest talking to a close friend, relative, sibling, your parents?
If he regrets the divorce then I suggest he talk to his ex-wife? There are a bunch of ways to go about this, if you'd like more advice, PM me and I'll gladly help.

This is what's wrong with NB these days. Somebody asks a serious question wanting to get help from his peers. Why can't we be sensitive? He is obviously going through issues and yet we try to make fun of him. Shame on you. His age matters no more than his race or ***. You are pathetic people.

^Well said.

 

[ClydeFrog]

Sounds like a pretty bad situation, but honestly Narutobase is one the last places I would turn for advice.

That's all I have for you OP good luck.

 

[Wabbit]

a women made his life hell may be it would take another women to fix it but nothing will be fine if he himself does not actually looks at his situation and moves on and forgets his past..I am 18 year old guy I cant think anything else.

 

[Jin Hayami]

Divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Can't help you.

 

[Zorø]

Thats bad man