My ex boyfriend was insane and stalked me

[Sakura Michiko]

Considering its been a three week time frame since his last appearance i'd say the situation is regressing. It usually does in situations like these, and it's why time can be one of our greatest enemies, but also one of our best allies. Simply continue going about your day, and if he returns and progresses, then escalate things even further. Whether that involves a court case or police involvement is up to you.

I certainly hope it has regressed.

 

[Commander Axe]

I certainly hope it has regressed.

Well if it hasn't it will. From a realistic stand point no human has the mental energy to constantly bother someone for months on end. At least the majority. He'll grow bored and move on, that's just human nature. Still surprised you lasted that long

 

[Sagebee]

Are you asking for advice or just releasing some steam?

Yeah this dudes definitely a wack job definitely recommend moving away so this dude can't get to you anymore because I honestly feel scared for you I don't think telling the cops will be enough.

 

[Konno]

Turning somebody else's thread into 'all about myself'
smh

 

[Sakura Michiko]

Are you asking for advice or just releasing some steam?

Yeah this dudes definitely a wack job definitely recommend moving away so this dude can't get to you anymore because I honestly feel scared for you I don't think telling the cops will be enough.

I just wanted to talk on the issue. I can't move away. My college is around here and I'm already in the nursing program. It's hard to transfer to a different college if you're in a program like nursing.

 

[Sagebee]

I just wanted to talk on the issue. I can't move away. My college is around here and I'm already in the nursing program. It's hard to transfer to a different college if you're in a program like nursing.

I'm not saying moving colleges but dude knows where you live and where you work and dudes a stalker and emotionally unstable so dude could potentially do anything. So I'm just saying find a new place to live and work and when your at school be careful being alone and places he knows you frequent. You said he's left you alone for like maybe 3 weeks right so it might be over but you shouldn't let your guard down with these type of people.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

I'm not saying moving colleges but dude knows where you live and where you work and dudes a stalker and emotionally unstable so dude could potentially do anything. So I'm just saying find a new place to live and work and when your at school be careful being alone and places he knows you frequent. You said he's left you alone for like maybe 3 weeks right so it might be over but you shouldn't let your guard down with these type of people.

I agree also I'm very aware of my surrounding. I'll looking into places to stay and jobs.

 

[Animegoin]

This is a long post. I tried to condense it as much as possible.

My ex had a lot of issues. We were in a three year relationship and he was insecure the whole time. On top of that he would quit/lose every single job he would get. I was trying to wait to see if he changed but I got really tired of it. He completely killed my emotion connection with him while he stared persistently bothering me while I was studying for my nursing final exams about a minor disagreement I got into with a friend. He kept trying to make me stop being friends with all of my male friends.. He even harrassed some of them.Right before I dumped him he started stalking my house. I ended up dumping him and I made it clear it was being he was extremely insecure and kept losing/quitting his jobs and he wasn't trying to change.

After I dumped him I went home and changed my passwords for everything(so I thought). He started calling me every day and messaging me online everyday asking me to talk to him and he was liking all of the photos of us on my facebook. Then he started messaging my friends all around 3 am borthering them about me. He was passing around my house and stalking me. My friends were sending me screenshots of his messages because they started to worry about me and my safety. I told my job about what was happening and I filed a threat claim at work. They don't let me walk outside of the job at night alone. My ex called the cops to my house to take my computer he brought me as a gift but he couldn't take it because it's not legal to take away gifts. One day I was on the phone with a friend and my friend asked me why I was sending him weird messages. I told him I wasn't then I went check my facebook. My ex had hacked my account and was sending several of my close friends fraudulent and slanderous things about me. Some of my friends knew it was him and started arguing with him. A few blocked him. I figured out he got in through my email and I changed the password on it. (He use to fix my computer so I thinks that why he knew my email password). I blocked him on facebook and I blocked his number.

He stole my steam account then returned it after he mailed me a letter with a suspectious flash drive(I never used). The letter was some fake apologize and him asking to be friends. After that he started making alt accounts and using other people's phones to call me. I was screenshotting everything he was doing. Eventually I got a new boyfriend (a childhood friend of 14 years). My ex messaged him by lying and saying I was pregnant for him but my boyfriend didn't believe him. A few days later he messaged my boyfriend telling him he was sorry and how I was a good person and to take care of me. A few more days later I got more odd messages from my ex and several from friends who were being bother by my ex. One of my friend's sent me screenshots of him sharing stuff on valetineday about some guy who killed his ex. I called the cops but they said because my ex didn't threaten me and wasn't stalking me on my property they couldn't do anything. They even told me they couldn't do anything about me hacking me because they didn't know if it was him.

He persistently bothered me until 3 weeks ago. The last time he bothered me he came to my house. I opened the door with my phone camera on recorded.I know it was risky but I needed proof to show the cops. He was asking to be friends and said he was sorry. I asked him why he hacked me and stalked me. I'm currently recovering from a tonsillectomy but after I fully heal up I'm showing that video to the cops.

So is your new boyfriend docile and totally passive; Why was he allowing those things to happen? Something isn’t adding up, plus I find it weird that he had access to all of your stuff but you don’t/didn’t have access to anything of his. Relationships aren’t typically one-sided like that, even if one doesn’t have steady employment. If you really did something to provoke him then that’s messed up on your part. If you didn’t, then he’s messed up. Either way, hopefully the situation has seized completely but you should be cautious going forward just in case.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

So is your new boyfriend docile and totally passive; Why was he allowing those things to happen? Something isn’t adding up, plus I find it weird that he had access to all of your stuff but you don’t/didn’t have access to anything of his. Relationships aren’t typically one-sided like that, even if one doesn’t have steady employment. If you really did something to provoke him then that’s messed up on your part. If you didn’t, then he’s messed up. Either way, hopefully the situation has seized completely but you should be cautious going forward just in case.

This is why I said I condensed my post. My new boyfriend is in the military. He's currently not down here and don't have internet for a month where he's at. He addressed my ex when my ex messaged him with that lie saying I was pregnant. He told my ex to chill out and what he was doing was immature but that's it. He can't go and do anything rash because he'll get in trouble with the military. I never provoked my ex. It was like he was in denial or something of my reasons I dumped him. He couldn't believe I dumped him over his insecurities and the fact he wasn't holding a job.I gave him three years to change and mature and he didn't. When I dumped him it took me an hour to leave his place because he kept stopping me from leaving and asking me why despite the fact I told him why.

I didn't access my ex stuff because hacking is illegal and I rather not take that risk. I can't get in trouble because I'm a nursing student. If I was to get in trouble I can't get kicked out of the program.

 

[Animegoin]

This is why I said I condensed my post. My new boyfriend is in the military. He's currently not down here and don't have internet for a month where he's at. He addressed my ex when my ex messaged him with that lie saying I was pregnant. He told my ex to chill out and what he was doing was immature but that's it. He can't go and do anything rash because he'll get in trouble with the military. I never provoked my ex. It was like he was in denial or something of my reasons I dumped him. He couldn't believe I dumped him over his insecurities and the fact he wasn't holding a job.I gave him three years to change and mature and he didn't. When I dumped him it took me an hour to leave his place because he kept stopping me from leaving and asking me why despite the fact I told him why.

I didn't access my ex stuff because hacking is illegal and I rather not take that risk. I can't get in trouble because I'm a nursing student. If I was to get in trouble I can't get kicked out of the program.

Okay, that makes sense; I’m still hesitant on that underlined part because even you stated that the authorities weren’t able to verify your ex as the one who hacked your page so the same could be used in vice-versa. Then again though, I’m not the one you should be trying to convince. I hope everything works out for you.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

Okay, that makes sense; I’m still hesitant on that underlined part because even you stated that the authorities weren’t able to verify your ex as the one who hacked your page so the same could be used in vice-versa. Then again though, I’m not the one you should be trying to convince. I hope everything works out for you.

I know. I just don't wanna take the risk with him. He knows all types of stuff about computers. He fixes them and builds them.I'm not sure if he would know if I hacked him and could track my ip or logs down to show the cops.Also thanks for the concerns.

 

[Darth Natsu Shazneel]

Well that is a nice story to tell your kids one day.

 

[Clown World]

This isnt a dating site or tumblr, gtfo

 

[Uverdore9]

Lmao you wont get good advice here, friend.

 

[Itachi Minato]

Does this guy not have any friends?

 

[JStar King]

Two words: Blood Eagle

 

[Chikombo]

Sad that this happens. You shouldn't need to worry.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

Lmao you wont get good advice here, friend.

I didn't post this for advice. I just wanted to talk about the issue.

Does this guy not have any friends?

When we were in a relationship he cut his friends off and rarely talked to them for some reason.

Two words: Blood Eagle

Omg

 

[UnderTheRedHood]

How many boyfriends do you even have lol? but this guy should get some help