"Cool shit" =/= equal respect. I think respect is earned by how a character carries themselves and how they interact with other characters. Tsunade is respectable, but not the most respected imo.
Tsunade doesn't really have any 'cool sh*t' though, her badassery and respect comes entirely from her bravery and her hardiness as a ninja. That IS her 'cool sh*t'.
Examples off the top of my head:
-Overcame her crippling fear in order to save a boy she had just met.
-Took on the Leader of the Akatsuki whilst protecting an entire village.
-Only Hokage to stand up to Danzo.
-Woke up from a coma into a huge world war against Madara Uchiha. Accepts role and takes instant command.
-Gambled life with Mabui's teleportation technique to get to the Madara battlefield to lower the chance of Madara joining Obito's battlefield and killing Naruto's crew.
-Felt a tremor from miles away and heard a meteor had wiped out the entire Fourth Company. Heads over there without hesitation.
-Even as a medic leads the fight against MADARA. UCHIHA. And never loses her cool.
There's loads of instances like that that make me respect her.
To people who say Konan, she is literally dependent on every male figure in her life. Temari is a fair statement but I just want to see more of it.