mixed signals

[XxLapizxLazulixX]

I need some opinions from you guys here. I dont want to ask my actual friends...so here I go.

There's this guy I know, well, we live together, for the last 3 years, strictly as friends, but i think i love him. He's not the BEST looking guy, but he is still cute and still gets alot of attention from other girls. He is nice too. He is a bit autistic, and has a bit of bipolar. He dosent have much common sense, but excels at school. In the past something almost happened between us, but I guess the timing wasn't right for him or something. I think he ONLY likes asian women but claims that race dosent matter, I call BS. He's grown up in a mentally and physically abusive household until he was 18 then joined the military, that was 3 years ago when he got out.

To the point. I have told him how I have felt about him. I have been there for him everytime he has been screwed over by "friends", girls, etc. I am basically the ONLY person there for him. Even though he makes me so angry and annoyed sometimes, I look past it, I spoil him, I pay for him, I told them that I would do almost anything, and give up everything I own for him. I even put him before myself sometimes. We cuddle on the couch, massage eachother, wrestle, joke, watch the same shows, travel, we even save money together...what am I to him? He says I am like a sister..I told him I could never see him like a brother, Im not very good at expressing my feelings so maybe he cant tell. Lately I have been trying to be more flirtatious, but he dosent seem to catch on. My friends tell him that I like him, but he denies that I do. What should I do? I really want to tell him...should I?

Opinions.

 

[reizon]

your sig is really funny.!!

XD

EDIT:

if he doesnot like you back then i think its his loss.!!

you obviously sound like you care alot and to lose someone so caring that would have to be his loss.!!

 

[Frankenstein]

Yeap tell him. The situation seems too complicated already for any other approach than the most clear-cut.

 

[XxLapizxLazulixX]

your sig is really funny.!!

XD

No matter where you go, you never seem to have anything important to say about anything.

 

[reizon]

No matter where you go, you never seem to have anything important to say about anything.

lol please read my edit.!!

 

[XxLapizxLazulixX]

lol please read my edit.!!

Oh, I did.
So what do you think I should do?

 

[reizon]

Oh, I did.
So what do you think I should do?

i really dont know what to say.!!

if you have already told him about your feelings and he doesnt return them...
you cant force people to fall in love.!!

Maybe you should try the JEALOUSly card.!!

try to make him Jealous, guys get Jealous way too easily...
maybe then he might start thinking about what he might lose.!!

 

[XxLapizxLazulixX]

i really dont know what to say.!!

if you have already told him about your feelings and he doesnt return them...
you cant force people to fall in love.!!

Maybe you should try the JEALOUS card.!!

try to make him Jealous, guys get Jealous way too easily...
maybe then he might start thinking about what he might lose.!!

Okay..Its just so maddening that he picks these lame girls who treat him like crap over the one person who cares.

 

[The Sach]

Just confess your feelings in front of him.^_^
We boys are all douchbags, the way you explained the things, he won't understand without you confessing in front of him.
Considering the things he had being through, I must say you should make him fall in love with you. You are girl, girl can do wonders on boys you know. Just go on a romantic date with him, or probably arrange some 'surprise thingy' for him when he returns home. Love isn't all about just giving him clues, and being romantic, it's about small moments that you spend together.=D

 

[reizon]

Okay..Its just so maddening that he picks these lame girls who treat him like crap over the one person who cares.

KICK his ass and tell him that "you're my MAN":|:|

 

[silmarill]

hm

u have been living with him for 3 years and he has never made any advances against u?

Logic tells me he maybe wants u exclusivly as a friend only

 

[Kishi Uzumaki]

Sometimes we guys don't see the great girl in front of us , just go wondering about other girls out there , who play hard to get , it's just in our mentality men or women , we just do it unconsciously .
i think , you should stop been always around him just find somethings to do yourself ( that way you can stay away for a while from him ) , if he gonna search for you ( that means he misses you ) then it means he do think about you more than he shows you .

 

[XxLapizxLazulixX]

Sometimes we guys don't see the great girl in front of us , just go wondering about other girls out there , who play hard to get , it's just in our mentality men or women , we just do it unconsciously .

i think , you should stop been always around him just find somethings to do yourself , if he gonna search for you ( that means he misses you ) then it means he do think about you more than he shows you .

I like that.

 

[Jack Spicer]

God, why does every single person have a story? Autistic, bipolar, abusive home, etc... Was any of that needed? Just say you like your roommate, but he doesn't feel the same way.

The thing is. You can't make someone love you. It's sad, but true. Tell him how you feel, although it seems like he knows, and hope for the best. You have to try.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

You should tell him, if you really feel that way you don't want to wonder what if.

 

[El Alucard]

Most guys like a straight forward girl...just tell him once how you feel and no beating around the bush or like telling him indirectly and stuff.....NO!!!!do i straight ad direct.....and if that doesnt work then im not sure he deserve's you

 

[Seventh Sama]

I'm sorry but you need to look for someone else. Once a friend of the opposite *** calls you a "brother or sister" its almost impossible for you to change the way they view you unless you change the way you are(pls don't change yourself for someone.)
I know my advice sucks but its the truth, i've also experienced something like this before.....

 

[El Alucard]

I'm sorry but you need to look for someone else. Once a friend of the opposite *** calls you a "brother or sister" its almost impossible for you to change the way they view you unless you change the way you are(pls don't change yourself for someone.)
I know my advice sucks but its the truth, i've also experienced something like this before.....

And then there's this ^ which is also true

 

[Scooby Doo]

First of all , dont make the mistake that you sacrifice so much for him. It's good that you are a support but if you arw in love with him and he is not in love with you, you'll end up suffering and hurt.
As others said, tell him how you feel. I always fail to properly interpret girls' signals and I'm shy so this guy seems to be the same. Maybe he is afraid to make a move on you and you should take the initiative.
Or he simply friendzoned you. But either way, dont show yku are willing to do anything, he might use you. The issues with his personalit indicates that he is quite messed, maybe you shouldnt get involved into all of that. Supporting him is ok but you cant solve his problems, he might also be in the phase when he is not ready for you...

 

[XxLapizxLazulixX]

God, why does every single person have a story? Autistic, bipolar, abusive home, etc... Was any of that needed? Just say you like your roommate, but he doesn't feel the same way.

The thing is. You can't make someone love you. It's sad, but true. Tell him how you feel, although it seems like he knows, and hope for the best. You have to try.

And why did u have to add in the bold?