Love suffering :(

[SakuraFlashyCherry]

There is this guy who lives in my town,he sent me a friend request on Fb and we talked so MUCH,wwe end up talking every day for two weeks...and then we talked less and less.One day he asked me if we could meet somewhere and get to know each other,but i rejected him,and he kept asking me everyday ......but i was just too scared and shy to meet him,.....i really like him,hes soo cute and fun,and funny,but im a real ***** and just too scared :'(
Im scared that im going to blackout and could say anything...but i couldnt tell him about that....than one day i told him that he unfriends me....he kept asking why but i could tell him,i dont want him to suffer,i like him too much....
He unfriended me,and ....
yea....
i end up crying every night,and keep saying to myself,"he forgot you,he hates you,he doesent give a shit,you stupid *****,u ruined everything,if u didnt messed up you would probably be with him right now"....what can i do....im such a ****ing mess...
2 months have passed from that day,and i still think of him everyday,and i want to talk to him....but if we start talking again,he would ask me again..... i dont want to hurt him.
I dont even know what to say to him?
How to get that shyness and afraidness gone!!!
(and im sorry if im annoying ,i just needed to write this somewhere,just needed to let it out v.v )

 

[Anna Banana]

You're really shy, huh? Me too, I can totally relate.

I think you should start talking to him again & tell him that you like him but you're super shy...if he doesn't understand then he's probably not right for you. Good luck! *_*

 

[-Punk-]

Girls , never knowing what they want .
you can't be beating yourself back & forth about something you decided on when deep inside you want it the other way around , if you really like this guy , there is no other way but to call him , set up a meeting & just talk to him , dont matter if you are shy , im sure he will be too , this is going to be the first meeting for you both sooo take a chance , if you dont you will only ask & think about what coudl have happen & what ifs .

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[YokoKurama]

My advice on getting over shyness is to talk via phone, then take the next step in meeting him. Just sit down and write to him explaining how you do want to meet him but be brave enough to tell him about your fears. Also, don't worry about looking stupid or saying something dumb, if he is the right guy it wouldn't matter to him anyways. Trust me, I'm almost an expert in the love department, hahaha!

 

[UchihaBrat]

Hmmm.. What happened could pose quite the issue in your communication as well as the relation with him were you ever to pick up speaking with him again. My advice would be to explain what you explained to us, leaving out some details of course, telling him how you were really shy and insecure.
I think that, and I wouldn't say it is unlikely, he considered the possibility of you thinking there was something "wrong" with him, assuming there was something you perhaps didn't like about him etc. i.e. resulting in you asking him to unfriend you. And though it might also not be the case, better safe than sorry, eh?

Also, the advice about talking over the phone might work, but in all honesty, if you really want this, I'd say it's a matter of politeness as well as consideration in general to do this face-to-face, the explaining, that is. It gets personal that way, which he might have taken it and moreover, it does seem more serious to me at least.
Good luck on whatever you choose to do!

 

[Doctor G]

If the guy didn't accept you for who you were and if he didn't wait for you to become comfortable then maybe he wasn't the one for you to begin with. There are many fish in the sea and maybe you are shy but getting over shyness takes time. It's not something that happens over night. Work on it day by day by giving yourself challenges. Start small like maybe "say good morning to at least one person a day" then go from there. I do agree with punk though, don't stress too much with the "could have, would have, should have" if you want to meet someone do it, if you don't then that's your decision. Don't think too much about it, move forward. Phone calls with someone usually help as well.

 

[Asami..]

You should explain to him that you like him but you're too shy to meet him. If he really likes you he will understand and wait for you to be ready. Good luck, wish I could help you more.

 

[Wumbo]

Suck it up!

 

[YowYan]

You should be glad you actually have the opportunity to meet him.
I have several good e-mates that I"ll never meet. I only met 2 in Amsterdam.

Atleast let him know about your shyness. It'll calm you if you let him in on your feewrings. Making him delete you was a bad decision you should readd that fella

 

[DNGR]

The only way this problem is going to get solved is by re-adding him and/or sending him a message saying that you want to meet up and tell him the reasons why you stopped talking. It's more likely going to have a positive than a negative effects. Also, if he spoke to you everyday, it could be that he feels the same about you.


This is the only serious post on this account so far, so feel privileged.

 

[Hypemaster]

Suck it up!

For real... just move on

 

[dark dreams]

I don't understand love already have my own issues
But its better if you move on, these relationships are always temporary leaving us hurt and messed up at the end
They never last

 

[SHARINGAN_USER UCHIHA_ITACHI]

If u really wanna make relation with him, u have to make the first step cauz it was u who forced him to unfriend u, and other than i will say, u should make a move, even if it turns out against u, atleast u will be sure either he's ur or not, so u can move on, better than crying and just imagining things..!!

 

[darkprince]

Just one bold move.send him what you posted in this thread.you should at least let him know what you feel.dont care about the consequences.you should not have run away like you did.
Its better to try and fail rather than not trying at all.its all on you.talk to him.let him know what you think.
however if you are really scared to live in reality than you should really move on or go back.