Lost my bestfriend.

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Hey guys! I just wanted to share whats happened in my life recently and maybe get some help from you guys. Before I begin, heres a little about me. I've been a fan of this website since back in 09'. I've never really bothered with making an account until last year. I enjoy reading and watching Naruto on this site. So pretty much Narutobase has sorta became a side family to me. I love drawing and listening to music. I find myself to be a very gentle type of person. Enough as it is, here it goes:

On December 16th, 2013 I caught my wife cheating. We have been married for 3 years as of December 23rd. I've known her since middle school. She was my high school sweet heart. It completly broke my heart when I found out...I couldn't get off my knees. I loved her to death. She was supposed to be my best-friend, my one and only.

Here is how everything happened: On December 13th she was supposed to leave town to go spend the weekend with her parents with our daughter to celebrate her birthday early. Our daughter is two years old. It seem normal and okay to me that she did that. When I got off work Monday the 16th, I noticed there was a vase of flowers in our kitchen. All I thought was that maybe it was given to her by her dad. Since my wife is a stay at home mom, money is rather tight. We shared a cell-phone.

There was a call that night around 5pm. I tried to answer it. She wouldn't let me. So that was odd, and we ended up wrestling for the phone. She won the struggle and ran to the bathroom and closed the door. At that moment I opened up her internet and clicked facebook. Since she is always logged on I don't have to log on. There was a new message from a guy saying "Babe last night was amazing, I miss you, I wish you could of spent the night." Reading that immediately BROKE my heart. I was bawlling that night like a friggin river. I questioned her later on why and how many guys, to only find out shes been sleeping with guys for over a year with atleast 5 guys...

She won't tell me the names of all of the guys. But I figured out two names (won't post it). I guessed names and how many she cheated on me with. She would say no until I got to the number 5 and stopped saying no when I named someone correctly...At the end she just stopped answering my questions.

We are seperated now. I've never been in such turmoil in my life. I'm so confused and lost. I've worked my ass off for her all our lives together so she could be a stay at home mom. I gave her a home, provided her food, and whatever needs she needed. I loved her with all of my heart! I've never hit her or anything. I just don't know what to do anymore....What do you guys think? There is alot more thats happened since I found out, but I don't want to bore you guys to death... :eww:


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She wants a divorce because shes been dating the last guy she slept with behind my back for two months. I already told her I want to work it out, but she dosn't. One of the guys she slept with is married and has 3 kids. The current boyfriend shes with now proclaims to be a jesus lover/rapper. Everytime I think about her (pretty much everyday) is haunting my memories....I can't sleep at night, I can't eat...everything just seems so depressing in my life right now...
 
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Sad Story. But i think you could just be with her because not only your heart could be broken even your daughter would grow up without father or mother. I think u could just be with her tell her that no matter what u love her and your daughter. Say that without father or mother daughter will grow up without parents love :/
 

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I am sorry to say this since you clearly love her

But she does not worth it , "atleast 5 guys" what the hell ?

You know start a new life , Sometimes Ending relationship is a good thing

One day you might have better , and you would be happy .

The thing i feel bad for is your little girl .so maybe you should stay with your wife because of your daughter sake


Seriously i don't know ,i am still amateur to give an advise .
 
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I agree with that. u just need to talk about your daughter sake and think or better destroy mother or father love or get awesome life with any other woman. who wouldn't cheat and you have next kid u need to talk about it. But if she would sorry and it would be ok from your side it would be better to you both and your daughter, Parents sake.
I am sorry to say this since you clearly love her

But she does not worth it , "atleast 5 guys" what the hell ?

You know start a new life , Sometimes Ending relationship is a good thing

One day you might have better , and you would be happy .

The thing i feel bad for is your little girl .so maybe you should stay with your wife because of your daughter sake


Seriously i don't know ,i am still armatureto give an advise .
 

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She dosn't want to work it out. Shes in a relationship with the last guy she slept with. Were still married. I already told her I wanted to work it out and beg her to stay with us, atleast try for our daughter. By the way my picture is my daughter.
 

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She dosn't want to work it out. Shes in a relationship with the last guy she slept with. Were still married. I already told her I wanted to work it out and beg her to stay with us, atleast try for our daughter. By the way my picture is my daughter.

She's cute. Then if she don't want to work out i think u need try to stay with your daughter if one time she with that guy too cheat's it's like double heart attack it would be to your daughter if that guy would love her as much as her.
 

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She dosn't want to work it out. Shes in a relationship with the last guy she slept with. Were still married. I already told her I wanted to work it out and beg her to stay with us, atleast try for our daughter. By the way my picture is my daughter.

Must not cry

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(Probably would get banned if I posted what I thought you should do, so I'll leave it at that)

Umm, Idk. Is she even slightly apologetic about it? It couldn't have been a one night stand if there were 5 different flings involved, but that is completely determined on how dedicated you are to her.
 

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Did you ask her why she was cheating?

Either way, I'd look to moving on. Just separate and work out so your kid gets both her parents. She doesn't love you anymore it seems and that's sad, but you can't keep trying for something that'll never happen. You're begging.
 

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If she doesn't wanna work it out then i'm sorry to say but that relationship is most likely over. I know its hard but try to move on and don't rush yourself. Feel free to PM me if you ever need to vent. Good luck man.
 

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i really feel you bro, kinda went through same hell with my ex gf of 7 years last february.
believe me, things will be ok, and you will start to feel better day by day, but ofc time will tell when.

hang on bro i know it kills you now and it will always hurt but not this much, and you sir are going to have a great life

keep well
best wishes
 

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A lot of you should do this, you should do that, she's not worth it. Well, I'll be the first to say it.

LOVE DOES NOT MIX WITH LOGIC.

No matter how hurt you are because of them, you still love them with every ounce of your being. I understand this feeling. You will be able to give advice to a friend in a similar situation, and naturally, you will say to drop that b*tch as she is not worth it. However, as I mentioned before, love doesn't mix with logic. I could give you my thoughts on the subject, although because I am not you, I won't be able to truly understand your exact situation, how you think, and so on. Don't listen to anybody but yourself. The most I can give you is, sometimes, and ONLY sometimes, you need to set your heart aside and start listening to your head.
 

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Sorry to hear about that. I have zero tolerance for cheating so my honest advice would be to stay separated and move on. You supported her all these years and yet she betrays you which is immensely disrespectful. With that said, I believe the most important thing is for the both of you to continue being a part of your daughters's life regardless if you guys are separated. And the next being for the sake of your daughter, the both of you eventually reconcile whether it be acknowledging the both of you are going your own separate ways but will still keep a healthy relationship as parents or you end up getting back together: that decision is yours and hers to make.

Wish you the best man.


Edit:just saw your other post, I really suggest you stay separated if you have to beg for her to come back. It won't work if only one side wants to mend things, while the other refuses
 
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If it will make you feel better I am planning to go to a strip club tonight. You can come with if you want just bring all 1 dollar bills
 

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focus on your daughter and whats best for her.
 

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Omg, i feel so sorry for you! :(

You seem like an nice guy. I'll say one thing though. Hire a hitman to take out the trash U_U
 

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Focus on what's best for your daughter and move on from this cause you'll find someone much better who loves you just as much as you love them.
 

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So sorry to hear that...but like someone said, love knows no logic U_U
Its evident how much you love her, but maybe moving on would be best for all of you. Its clear that she doesn't wanna work things out and continue the relation..its just sad that she didn't even stop to think for her daughter U_U
 

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Did you ask her why she was cheating?

Either way, I'd look to moving on. Just separate and work out so your kid gets both her parents. She doesn't love you anymore it seems and that's sad, but you can't keep trying for something that'll never happen. You're begging.

I asked her why she did it, she wouldn't give me a straight answer.
 
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