Hey, i Don't expect a sincere, thought out response from this site, but has anyone ever dated someone for a while then suddenly lost physical attraction to them? Does it come back? I think i'm equally as fascinated as i am concerned because i've never experienced this before and it's a pretty odd Phenomenon because she's an awesome woman.
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Means you're not interested anymore, have had this feeling with plenty of old flames in the past. Just dump her, and go on with your life. Not a big deal.
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Has her appearance changed at all such as: weight, complexion, etc? If yes maybe you just shallow you could simply look past her physical appearance but *** would be awkward and only cause her to believe you're cheating. So stringing her along may end up hurting her but addressing the issue to her face will also hurt her which could only lead to divorce too. Best case scenario she switches it up in the bedroom to keep you interested and you do the same then hope for the best.
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I mean title says "spouse," so if you're in a committed emotional and financial relationship someone you should try to work this out. But it's not like loss of attraction in relationships is abnormal. Give it time and come to a decision on your own.
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Then just don't have *** because after marriage it rarely happens anyway from what I've seen. But maybe just imagine someone else because you still like her as a person. But anyway I feel it's better to just let the relationship go if you can't address the person about the problem you're having.
The whole no *** during marriage thing is pretty comical, that's a completely invalid statement.
I happens, sometimes its because there may be something not about their physical appearance but about their personality that may have been bothering you for awhile, or it may be that you were in love at some point and never saw how someone really was. These things start to wear down on you after awhile. You can start to resent someone for all their "once cute" little flaws or quirks.
You can either try and put in the effort to "reignite" those feelings you once had or just break it off. If you are married try talking it out and working through things.
I happens, sometimes its because there may be something not about their physical appearance but about their personality that may have been bothering you for awhile, or it may be that you were in love at some point and never saw how someone really was. These things start to wear down on you after awhile. You can start to resent someone for all their "once cute" little flaws or quirks.
You can either try and put in the effort to "reignite" those feelings you once had or just break it off. If you are married try talking it out and working through things.
Yes, I'm not married, but i had some serious relationship, the last one was four years ago. I think physical attraction is something temporary. To be honest, for me it is essential, although there's people who don't care much for it. But even if the person is beautiful, is not it that holds a relationship unless both people involved are brainless and shallow. Already happened to me bizarre situations where suddenly I start to get pissed a lot with my ex, to the point of not wanting to see his face, and he never did anything wrong, he had always treated me well, but for a reason, I began to despise him. When I went to think about why it happened, i concluded he had very different values from mine, and he was someone who simply didn't add anything in my life.
I think you have to ask yourself if you and your wife still has something to do with each other , and if your lack of attraction has something to do with your relationship being bland. If you don't have financial comfort, similar ideas and nothing to hold the relationship, is complicated.
My mother is married to my father 35 years, and she says that there comes a point that the husband is like a friend who you have ***. There are times that there is a passion outburst, but others may be indifference. And that's ok, people are not formulas and predicable. There's no love like cheesy romance movies.
Also, some people find that getting married is something that is compulsory in life, and is not always true. I am a person who tire quickly of things, and I don't know if I'd be happy in a relationship and try to "last" forever.
I would bother with the lack of excitement in my personal life, but there are people who like comfort, so everybody works differently. That said, it may be phase. Do not expect to want to have *** with her all the time like when you was a teenager.
Is that what i think, but give time and see if the lack of excitement persists or not.
I think you have to ask yourself if you and your wife still has something to do with each other , and if your lack of attraction has something to do with your relationship being bland. If you don't have financial comfort, similar ideas and nothing to hold the relationship, is complicated.
My mother is married to my father 35 years, and she says that there comes a point that the husband is like a friend who you have ***. There are times that there is a passion outburst, but others may be indifference. And that's ok, people are not formulas and predicable. There's no love like cheesy romance movies.
Also, some people find that getting married is something that is compulsory in life, and is not always true. I am a person who tire quickly of things, and I don't know if I'd be happy in a relationship and try to "last" forever.
I would bother with the lack of excitement in my personal life, but there are people who like comfort, so everybody works differently. That said, it may be phase. Do not expect to want to have *** with her all the time like when you was a teenager.
Is that what i think, but give time and see if the lack of excitement persists or not.
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Maybe you never really loved her then. Are you in the habit of jumping head first into a relationship? Maybe you're just addicted to the feeling of falling in love.
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Stop playing handball with yourself for a week or more and don't watch porn. You'll be ready.
You definitely need to have *** with your spouse though. So if above doesn't work, which I'm sure it will. You have to try something different, bring up the subject without making her feel unattractive. But the absence of that physical connection will hurt the relationship after a while.
You definitely need to have *** with your spouse though. So if above doesn't work, which I'm sure it will. You have to try something different, bring up the subject without making her feel unattractive. But the absence of that physical connection will hurt the relationship after a while.
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