Is this too harsh?

[Booker]

I have a buddy from High School who's kind of a savant. He's not completely socially inept, he's just... Quirky. We go to the same college now and I see him passing through the buildings occaisonally.

Here's where the issue comes in. He's never kissed a girl. Ever. And he's a freshman in college. Now, he's a friend so I don't want to be mean to him, but I also what him to come out of his shell. Should I tell him it's weird? That he should talk to more girls and get in that type of circle? Or just leave it alone? I don't want to be a jerk about it, I just find it odd.

 

[Shizuku]

His life, his problem. Don't butt in.

 

[cigi]

You know i've seen people like him and i would let him be as he is everyone does it at there own pace. But then again i've seen same type of people like that and in the end they come out the closet O.O

 

[reizon]

give him your batmobil.!!
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BATMAN, like you are the one to talk.!!

 

[Kαmi]

I'd just leave him, people live their life their own way so he may prefer this for his own reasons. Does he seem like the kind of guy who seems to feel like he's missing out?

 

[Penguin]

I have a buddy from High School who's kind of a savant. He's not completely socially inept, he's just... Quirky. We go to the same college now and I see him passing through the buildings occaisonally.

Here's where the issue comes in. He's never kissed a girl. Ever. And he's a freshman in college. Now, he's a friend so I don't want to be mean to him, but I also what him to come out of his shell. Should I tell him it's weird? That he should talk to more girls and get in that type of circle? Or just leave it alone? I don't want to be a jerk about it, I just find it odd.

My nig, everyone matures at their own pace. If your boi ain't living life in the fast lane, it isn't for him. You sure he isn't saving himself for marriage?

I would try taking him to a party with you if you get the chance, but nothing to serious. Just a little gathering.

 

[-Punk-]

If you are his friend & want to help him , tell him , what's the point of being friends if you're not gonna tell him that he is weird ? .......

 

[ANiMUS]

Meddling Way:
Tell the lad don't be direct. Start asking about different girls you guys know around campus. Casually bring it up. See if he is interested in any, if not, try to find somebody that you think would be a good fit for him (easy to talk to.) Get a group thing going then leave the two alone. He can do the rest on his own.

Respectable way: Ask him if he wants you to try and hook him up.( Indirect and he is unknowingly telling you whether he wants your help or not) DONT PUSH!

 

[Booker]

I'd just leave him, people live their life their own way so he may prefer this for his own reasons. Does he seem like the kind of guy who seems to feel like he's missing out?

Not really. He's really confident in himself, it's just his entire life is academics. He doesn't do much else.

My nig, everyone matures at their own pace. If your boi ain't living life in the fast lane, it isn't for him. You sure he isn't saving himself for marriage?

I would try taking him to a party with you if you get the chance, but nothing to serious. Just a little gathering.

I would pay money to see him at a college party haha

If you are his friend & want to help him , tell him , what's the point of being friends if you're not gonna tell him that he is weird ? .......

Well he's one of those friends that everybody else would think is weird. 4 years of High School and you become friends with people that others may consider a little odd.

 

[slaton02]

Let it be or try to be a wingman. I had a friend like that and I basically force a girl on him lol. I'm a good wingman actually I'm a great one, he'll be shy at first and that's where you'll help out to break the tension and soon he'll be in love, then realize he can do better and get (an)other girl(s). Don't force him to parties though, if there is a girl he likes try to get the girl to talk to him or have you two approach her. Kami94 is right it could end up being bad for his academics.

 

[Dreckerplayer]

It's not an obligation that he follows behind what everyone else does. You said it yourself, he's quirky. I have quirky tendencies myself. You seem 'worldly'. Just be a 'real' homie to him, and don't pressure him to do anything unimportant. But...if he is 'gaurded'...you do need to bring him around people more(good people). Although some people don't blend well with others in their own age range.

The things you worry about are absolutely unimportant. The time will come. No rush.

Edit: He's 'weird' to people because he's different. They can't understand 'different' because everyone else is stuck up each others a*ses trying to be the same. People like him revolutionize the world.

 

[-Punk-]

Well he's one of those friends that everybody else would think is weird. 4 years of High School and you become friends with people that others may consider a little odd.

I got ya i got ya , I have a friend like that , everyone including my group of friends know he is weird & we told him . But it's not like we care if he is weird or what the others think of him , always remember that .

but if you want to help him around girls etc ...I don't see any problem with that .

 

[Kαmi]

Not really. He's really confident in himself, it's just his entire life is academics. He doesn't do much else.

Nah, I'd just leave him. Throwing in a new variable could potentially be an obstacle in his academics and plans for his future. If the guy gets into girls now, he'll be hooked! He's gonna forget all about academics cause he's gonna be trying to hook up with girls left and right once he gets one Lol

 

[-Sky-]

So if he goes out and kisses a girl, what exactly would that change about him?

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

I think its a good idea, you just have to be cool about it you know. Don't make him feel alienated or defensive, just come at him like you genuinely want to help him get a girl, because its great and you don't want him to miss out.

Don't be pushy about it either, if he really doesn't want to just let him know you are his friend and are there for him if he changes his mind.

 

[Jin Hayami]

I've had the same problem so many times. I call them my project people AKA Operation Get Nerd Nookie (copyrighted).
Just keep inviting them out to places and to gatherings. If you have a buddy that's married start taking him over to his house for small parties and BBQs so he will start socializing. Baby steps are the key. Make him want to hang out with you and your friends more than study or play Warcraft. Then start introducing females to the equation. If they have any natural game they will find it. If they don't then wingman accordingly. Hardest part is that most virgins have this high expectation of the girls they can pull for some reason (often why they are virgins) and don't want to work their way up the ladder. Just find one that's a guarantee and tell him she likes him. If he goes for it problem solved. If he doesn't he's probably scared. Only way to get over that is over saturation of females. Hard to do but yeah. It's better for them to learn these social skills before they have to go job hunting and everyone thinks that he's weird. Then his grades don't mean shit.

 

[Booker]

Nah, I'd just leave him. Throwing in a new variable could potentially be an obstacle in his academics and plans for his future. If the guy gets into girls now, he'll be hooked! He's gonna forget all about academics cause he's gonna be trying to hook up with girls left and right once he gets one Lol

Lmao if you knew this guy it'd be ten times as hilarious I literally laughed out loud hahaha.

I think its a good idea, you just have to be cool about it you know. Don't make him feel alienated or defensive, just come at him like you genuinely want to help him get a girl, because its great and you don't want him to miss out.

Don't be pushy about it either, if he really doesn't want to just let him know you are his friend and are there for him if he changes his mind.

Yeah, and I think coming from me it wouldn't be so bad. He'd know I wasn't making fun of him or anything.

 

[spckoroma]

get him a hooker. when I was in Korea and we got this new guy I mean straight out of high school never had *** we in the platoon went to the red lights and got him laid the guy really started to open up. *** is the key to getting him to open up.

 

[Europa]

Get him good and drunk at a party and let nature take its course.